Need Some Input

There comes a time when holidays have to be 'shared' between families, and it's not always easy. You could have Thanksgiving with your girlfriend and then afterwards you both could go and visit your family. Your family has to realize that you have a life too and you have choses to make, and not everyone is going to like the choice you make, but if you are happy with it then that's what matters.

How about doing both. Visit your family for a short time and then go to your girlfriend. Your family should realise that you do have your own life and that it doesn't always have to mean that you do what they want.

Is there any way to split your time between the two? Explain that your girlfriend needs you and you'll be over for leftovers or dessert. That is what I would do.

Can you divide your time between your friends place and your family? i know that is hard to do but if you spent the morning till afternoon with your friend then afternoon to evening with your family, then they will both be happy. If not, then since you always to your family for thanksgiving, I'm sure they won't mind if you went to your friends this year. Talk to them, i'm sure they will understand.

Does your family do lunch or dinner? See, I too had this prolem when I started dating my hubby. His family wanted to get together for Thanksgiving. My family always does lunch and his family always did dinner, so it worked out that I could go to both. Now that we are married and have a child of our own, the holidays take some juggling. Thanksgiving is still the easiest. We do lunch with my family and we eat lightly. Then a few hours later we go to his family's house for dinner and eat lightly. Then we go back to my mother's house to eat dessert, his family never does dessert and I need my pumpkin pie fix. :) There comes a time in everyone's life when you have to figure out how to work the holidays so that everyone get to have their traditions. My sister and her husband alternate years. One year they are with us and the next they are with his family. His family lives a few hours away so there is no way that they can do both families in one day. One year we made it where all three families got together at the same time. We ate a lot of food all day long.

well just go with your heart,you can spend a little time at each if you can and then everyone will be happy and you will feel good too.pattie

Maybe you need to do a split thing of some sort? Spend a lot of the day with your friend, and then go over to families, or vice versa. There is nothing wrong with splitting up your day to be with both of them. I know my husband and I have had to do this many times due to being Married and having to split the time between both of our families. Wishing you the best on this situation.

I say just let them know u'll be spending it with ur friend this year, maybe before u go to ur friends u can take a pie to ur cousins or something, and apologize for not staying.

Hey there Sweet you are in a Pickle there aren't you I would personally go to the Girlfriends as it is where you want to go just tell your Family that she invited you and as you had not heard anything you accepted Families need to realize that you do what you want to do It is like my Son and his Fiancee Christmas Day they normally go out with her Parents for Dinner I had to accept that he is grown he has a Partner and there has to be a fair even We have ours then on Boxing Day I know he said to her why can't we do it the other way round every Year but her Parents will not accept that so I told them not to worry as they are with me in the Mornings and then back at Night so it is ok Families need to let go and accept that everyone has their own Life I really hope you get this sorted Sweetie Love you

I say go with your heart. Thanksgiving isn't just a family holiday. Sometimes I skip the whole meal to do some volunteer at a church feed that day. So go with your heart. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~

I think that you should do what you feel in your heart. Your family should understand that you wish to spend time with your girlfriend. Maybe if you reassure your family that you will still be spending other holidays with them, like Christmas, it would make it easier for them to accept you missing this one celebration? I don't know, but at some point they are going to have to understand that you will be spending time with your girlfriend that might cut into the time they're used to having with you. Go with your heart!

Unless they are logistically hundreds of miles apart..go to both places. Eat dinner at one place, dessert at another. We have done Christmas like that Christmas Eve with my family and then 350 miles later - Christmas with his.

Honestly hun, I would do whatever is going to make YOU the happiest. Sometimes change is good! If you really want to do something different this year, and celebrate with a friend go for it! Just my opinion anyhow! Have a great day! Love & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.

Are they at different times of the day, by any chance? I know people that go to two, and sometimes, even 3 places for the holidays. lol Not because they are starving, lol, but because they want to make everyone happy. If you go to the first place, at say, 12 pm, and then hop over to the other place at 2pm. Eat a little bit at each place to keep them all happy, and you're happy, and nice and full. lol Either that, or just explain to your family, that you just want to do something different this year. There's nothing wrong with that.

I don't know I think because you've always gone to your aunts and because you have an invitation to be with your girlfriend I think auntie should put on her big girl panties and suck it up. If you're old enough to have a girlfriend then you're old enough to make the decission. Personally I would do what I would prefer and everyone else will have a good time regardless. Family always seem to get over their snit in time and my guess is someone there will clue into the fact that you want to be with your girlfriend. Do what makes you happy. That's a must.

i really don;t know the kind of thanksgiving you are talking about. all i know is that we go to church for thankgiving.