Need Some Motivation

@maddysmommy (16236)
United States
November 7, 2007 10:55am CST
I have been talking about wanting to take up a part time job for a week or two now and I just can't get motivated. I am trying to update my resume and it's taking me longer than I expected, maybe because I am not confident in myself that I might not be able to do the jobs that are being offered at the moment. I have seen many businesses wanting holiday help and I'm like "that can be me, I have a few hours to spare each day... but I hesitate and think, ok but can I do it?" It's been almost two years since I last worked and not sure if I am capable or whether I would fit the profile LOL I know silly but that is how I am feeling. I think I am scared to get out there again, I think I am scared because I don't know what to expect - this will be my first job in the USA. For those who have gone back to the workforce after taking care of your children, how did you get the confidence and motivation to get back out there after being away from the workforce for a few years?
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@patgalca (14262)
• Orangeville, Ontario
7 Nov 07
I have been out of the work force for 11 years and have made several attempts to get back in there. It is scary, which is probably why I haven't succeeded. I so desperately need money coming in ($900+ in van repairs this week!) but don't know what I am capable of doing and handling with my illness. I have re-vamped my resume but how are secretarial jobs going to help me get a job in retail, for example? Instead I sign up for delivering Sears catalogues (which gives me a piddly amount of money) and then find myself so overwhelmed and too tired to actually deliver them. I have five routes and this week they dumped 3 different catalogues on me. Not every address gets every catalogue as it depends on previous shopping habits. So obviously I am trying to avoid this terrible task but the catalogues are flying all over my van so I better get out there today! It will take me over a week to do it I'm guessing. Wish the money was better. My daughter thinks I should get a paper route! LOL!
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
7 Nov 07
That's the thing I have a librarian and administration background which really doesn't have too much to do with sales or retail, which is what I am currently interested in or willing to try. Being able to work four hours a day at the most is the most I can give for now and most jobs I have seen are in retail. I mean I walk into a store and see what their sales and retail staff do and think, I can do that, I'm sure I can and then think ok what do I do to get into a position like that - not knowing makes me uneasy LOL If I lived nearby I would help you out even if you didn't pay me. HOpe you're able to deliver them all!
@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
8 Nov 07
Well for one thing, both of you have a background in customer service. You can count can't you? You both have children. So sales should not be that hard for you. You are always getting your kids to do things they don't want to. So you should be very good at getting people to buy things that they don't need. Case closed, LOL.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
8 Nov 07
hahahaha your funny Rozie but you do make a good point LOL
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• United States
8 Nov 07
When my daughter turned two I went back to work. It was scary at first but I think was something that was good for her also. Me going back to work got her used to other people and she also enjoyed playing with other kids. Her being around other people helped her prepare for going to school. I could also get out to meet new people, which was very scary for me, and could get away from the house for a bit. Plus the extra money really helped out. I have always been a worker so it wasn't too bad. Once I figured out that me going back to work would be good for everyone then it wasn't hard for me to get in gear. You'll be fine, just take one step at a time and don't sweat the little stuff. If it doesn't work out you can find something else or go back to staying home.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Thank you for sharing your response lylascomments. I was suppose to finish my resume this weekend but put it off so i'm going to give myself two days to get it ready and start sending them off. Thanks again for your motivational comments! I will keep trying!
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
8 Nov 07
Depending on your chosen field, why don't you take a refresher course to build your confidence. You could go to a community college and take a few classes during the day. I think that it will help since you are coming from another country. Well, it certainly couldn't hurt.
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@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
8 Nov 07
Now that is a good idea Rozie - hmmm they have a Gibbs college not far from our home, maybe I'll look into that! THANKS for the idea - a refresher course, most definitely look into that! :):)
@YoMomma1 (922)
• United States
7 Nov 07
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@djbtol (5500)
• United States
7 Nov 07
I watched my wife re-enter the workforce. It can be done. Just give it your best shot. If one thing does not work, try another. I found myself unemployed after 21 years with the same company. It was hard to make the resume and market myself again after so many years. Although such life changes can seem monumental, there is good reason to hope for many positives in the changes. djbtol
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Thank you djbtol :) I appreciate your words and advice. I just have to get out there and do it and if it doesn't work the first time, then I'll keep trying. Thanks again!
@ctrymuziklvr (11060)
• United States
7 Nov 07
Lucky for me my kids are all adults now and I don't have that problem any more. It's been 8 years since I've worked and two months ago I decided at least a part time job would do wonders for me and lucky for me a new store was just built practically across the street from me! I got the job and didn't have think I would be capable of keeping it but I'm going on 2 months now and I'm doing fine. It's tough when you've been out of the work force for any length of time but the way things are today sometimes we just have to get out there and do it! Just think of how much better you will feel about yourself and that extra money you will have! I say go for it and I know you won't regret it!
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
7 Nov 07
That's another motivation, the extra money that could easily help out with our family and also to have a savings of my own. I know I just need to take that step and just do it - Thanks crty :)
@liushuyi (32)
• China
8 Nov 07
I think we must meet. the reallty and we should work with motivation and never give up.
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• United States
7 Nov 07
hey girl. pm me and give me the state you live in. you could probably get onto where i work....i'll give you the details then if you'd like. i know that sounds fishy haha! but it's not, i'm an employee, not some independent contractor, or something you have to invest in, i promise, been down all those roads myself, haha!
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