how to say "I LOVE YOU" to a girl? Plz help

India
November 8, 2007 8:00am CST
hello friends! i need ur help. well i am gurvinder singh from punjab(INDIA). i am studing at an institute of IELTS. i am preparing for ielts. with me a girl whose name is harkirat kaur is also taking the ielts prepartion. she is beautiful girl and try to help everyone. Today, i reliased that i loves her. when she was going to her home i was not putting my eyes off from her. hey friends i never had any girlfrind.may be she is my true love. plz help me here . how could i say her i love u? i am afraid of if she rejects me. plz tell me what to do for putting her interest in me? i thinks here are lot guies and gals also who knows about it. plz help me. may be it will make my life partner.
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@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
8 Nov 07
Hi Gurvinder, you shouldn't try to run before you learn to walk. It's nice to hear that you have a crush on a girl and hope to build up a lasting relationship with her. You should get to know her better first, or be acquainted with her for a start if she doesn't even know you as a friend. Find an opportunity to go up to her and introduce yourself to her. Spend time interacting with her to know her more, and at the same time let her discover more about you. Be your natural self and not try to act like someone you are not. By doing this, you will appear as pretentious. If you are a nice and pleasant person, your personality and character traits will naturally show in your interactions. If you both hit it off well, something may develop over time. If you think she likes you from the way she reacts to you, you can next try and ask her out and see if she accepts or rejects your move. Don't be discouraged by rejections. Let things develop one stage at a time. Don't just get to know someone and the next thing tell the person you love her - it may just put her off instantly, because some gals don't like guys to come on too strong. Over time, she will size you up and know if she likes you enough to want a relationship with you, so you will have to gauge if this is how she feels about you. Although you may like her very much, don't hold too high hopes that she will become your life partner, especially if she is popular and have many other suitors. If you do, you may end up being disappointed one day. You should nevertheless chase your dream, try your level best and hope that things will turn out in your favor. That's the advice I can give you. All the best.
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• India
8 Nov 07
I agree. What you have right now is just a crush? It may or may not develop into love. Get to know the girl first. Be her friend. Start talking more. If things go well you can share your feelings after that. Do not do anything before that. Don't worry about time. Just try to be her friend and you will find that she will still be in touch after the exams. All the best
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey i will try this may be it will help me.
@lexus54 (3576)
• Singapore
17 Nov 07
Thanks for your vote. I only just notice it, because I was away almost a week on overseas holiday, and didn't come into myLot for a while.
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@biebiep (27)
8 Nov 07
The following is not meant as a joke, as some people might think i'm laughing when i say this. Just get to know her, get her to know you. See if you both like eachother's company And then just, well, tell her how you feel and how your feelings have grown... It won't be easy, but the best results are often achieved by just saying "I really love you" rather than not doing anything ;) And you have to be very clear, don't try to be too subtle, because if she misread these subtle hints or whatever you might end up heartbroken.
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey first today i tried to taqlk to her but her friends was not leaving alone. but once i got a little chat today with her. so, that's problem is for me.i can't wait.
9 Nov 07
Well, she does come with friends... So try to accept her and her friends and try to be accepted by them. That's also a good tip :)
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• India
10 Nov 07
hey buddy i was going to try that but one of her friend donot like me becausei am very strict in checking. i mean i got her paper to check. so i never give ny think to her . that if i found even a mistake of 's' then also i make wrong it. but now i have tried to ingnore it.
8 Nov 07
hii simply man......are u really serious abut your love to her....wat does she consider about you.......are you to good frendss...... have ypou ever tried to knw wats her feeling for you.. first off all u try to knw her well...be very intimate to her...share all your feelings...say her hw imp she is to u in ur life...always be aside her in all her problemzz..never let her down...dont rush into anything......be calm...cool..nd steady... we will pray dat u get ur true love all the best
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• India
8 Nov 07
i am really serious about my love. well i have talked her just few times. but i will try my best to do what u have said to me. but i have a problem that her test is on 15th so i have only 7 days to her that i loves her.
9 Nov 07
first, find out her interest, so that you have somewhere good to start. and when you start talking to her, look into her eyes and be honest in your conversation. be confident and NEVER look desperate! show your sincerity ALL the way through your conversations and don't exaggerate in any topic especially when you're talking about you. but most importantly, start with a light conversation and show deep interest whenever she says something. Don't rush into saying "i love you"...let nature take care of it! (i mean, be natural) good luck to you. and have a nice day.(hope you'll make it)
• India
10 Nov 07
hello i will not rush to it ok.
@humbleme (1004)
• India
9 Nov 07
Hello simplyman2006,Thanks for your post.Do it in just three easy steps. Step No 1,firstly find out if she is already engaged in any affair right inside or outside college, if the answer is no then,just tell her that you like her a lot and dont want to play with her anyway but want to marry her with her as after the studies are over but want to fix up the marriage with both famalies permission from now and listen what she has to say.If she gets arrogant on you then dont disturb her anymore then make your mind understand either she is not suitable for you or you are not suitable for her.However if you look her confused face, then give her time to think and assure her there is no pressure atall, but you can send your parents to her house for the introduction and fixup once she confirms.Very important point"Never take any friends help to convince her but do yourself with your own ability,but at the same time never let her feel that you are disturbing her, or following her."Please remember your approach should not be like a street romeo as you are approaching her for marriage and not for temporary dating.If she gives green signal then you know what should be done in stepNo2 and 3. If you are confident and efficient enough in expressing your mind in words then 7 to 10 minutes is more than enough to complete stepNo1 lol.All the best.
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@humbleme (1004)
• India
9 Nov 07
oops I just saw your profile and you are just 19 yrs old, I hope the girl is not underaged.If she is already 18 you can proceed but at the same time always remember flow of sufficient money is also a point in successful marriage, so study hard, you can well understand the competetion also please remember the girls family only will fix up with you from now ,only if they are totally convinced that their daughter will be in safe hands of a self confident honest hardworking man.Best of luck.
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• India
9 Nov 07
ok i will do ur first step and after that i will also do other steps.
• United States
8 Nov 07
Heres a cute and easy way... write to her in a letter..I tried to write you a poem last night, but i had writers block and this is all i could come up with...Roses are red,violets are blue.Theres no easy way to say this eccept, ILOVE YOU.
8 Nov 07
hi sms a love poem.this is the best way.so she will know that u like her.
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey buddy is it works.
@Jamian (2605)
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
simple, say it will all of your heart.
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• India
17 Dec 07
ok buddy thanxs for it.
• Australia
19 Nov 07
Then you need to get to know her better. Give her compliments, women love that. Go slow, you don't want to scare her off. Despite what people think about me (and they know who they are) I don't have all the answers. For me, most of my relationships started out as friendships. The others, well they aren't worth mentioning. 2 of these were great (the last, I am still with him). The first only lasted a few months, but our break up was not due to us, it was more my fear of giving up everything I knew to be with him. Be yourself, don't try to be flashy or impressive with things that aren't a part of who you are. And be honest, women expect that. I believe in your country, women like traditions too. You know, traditional gifts. Guess I read to many books! lol. Love takes time and you have to let her get comfortable with who you are. Good luck and may the sun shine from your heart!
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• India
7 Dec 07
hey thanxs for giving advise i will follow it thanxs for believing my country.
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• Indonesia
17 Nov 07
Just relax,prepare your emotion so that you will talk easily
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• India
18 Nov 07
now i think it's late
• India
9 Nov 07
Yaar many people will give u the advice... and the end u might up end nowhere.. just be urself.. say wht ever u think of here..when u r alone.. say tht wht ur heart feels for her... nad your heart know it very well. Just be True to urself.. And The Answer will come definalely.. and best of luck..bro.. u will definately get ur love.. just beleive urself
• India
9 Nov 07
yaar thanxs for it i will try when i will be free or when i will be alone. thanxs jasmeet brother.
• United States
9 Nov 07
hold off telling her you love her for a while. spend time with her, get to know her, let her get to know you. be her friend. listen to her stories, be a gentleman but not too clingy. give her plenty of space, don't crowd her but make sure she knows you are there if she needs you write her a song take her to dinner tell her shes gorgeous show up when its raining to dance, in the rain never forget her birthday tell her shes right give her gummy worms remember her favorite color be her protector, but don't be a bully and to seal the deal -- KISS HER ON THE FOREHEAD!!
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey i live in india here i know she will never likes to go with me to dinner.
• Colombia
9 Nov 07
hi, simplyman try to appeared in her eyes most of minutes everyday. study and discuss with her in school,accompany her to her home, have fun with her on weekend. listening and share feelings and viewpoints of life, to sum up, make friends with her. sometimes said nothing better then said too much. i've had a bad experience for confess to a boy who i liked. now i think that if i gave more time to the boy and me, i will sccessed.so,be patient and wait, time with tell you the result.
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• India
9 Nov 07
ok . i will follow it. i will be patient.
@sid556 (31005)
• United States
9 Nov 07
What you are feeling is infatuation or a crush. Don't rush into saying "I love you" for that will surely scare her off. Instead, let her know that you are attracted to her and ask her out for coffee or a drink. If she says "no" well then you will know it wasn't a mutual attraction. But hey, who knows, maybe she'll say yes. You won't know if you don't ask.
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• India
9 Nov 07
i got ur advise.but there are more problems that she is very busy nowdays because her exam is on next week. thanxs.
@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
Well just be your self,but u have to be Romantic,Girls really love Flowers,let her know that you care.And ofcours you have to bring her in her favorate place,and dont forget Girls also love surprises.Goodluck.
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• India
9 Nov 07
ok i will try to give her surpirse. thanxs
@Jamian (2605)
• Philippines
9 Nov 07
saying i love you is very easy when it comes from your heart, some people cant say it because they cant feel it.
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• India
9 Nov 07
i got it. thanxs
@fanji008 (782)
• China
9 Nov 07
Hi,there! You're brave to speak it out here and share with us. Cheers for your courage.I think you don't need to be shy.If you get to know each other more and you feel good for each other,then you can express your feelings bravely to her. If you wanna be more sure,you can give her some hints so that you can tell from her reactions whether she also has the feeling for you. Best wishes and good luck! Hopefully you'll be successful:)
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• India
9 Nov 07
thanxs buddy. i prayes to plz help me out here.
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
9 Nov 07
I think you should ask your girlfriend first how she feels about you before U reveal your feelings to her. There is a chance she might not feel the same. Once U find how she feel about you. U can make the decision on whether to tell her her how you feel. If U find out she doesnt feel the same way, before U say anything. U will not feel like u are being rejected. The friendship that U to have will be the same. U will just have to move to find someone who feel the same. This is what i think. Hope it helps.
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey thanxs i will try to find her feeling first.
• New Zealand
9 Nov 07
What I can advice you is to show your feelings to her. I still believe that ACTION SPEAKS LOUDER THAN WORDS. I think saying I LOVE YOU is an easy way to do but proving it through your actions is the hardest thing to do. Just go with the flow and wait for the right time and place. If you are really meant for each other, God will always find a way...Goodluck! =)
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• India
9 Nov 07
thanxs buddy .
• United States
8 Nov 07
well i think that the best way would to be just tell her so what if she rejects you least then you know how she feels about you and seriously the worst thing that can happen is her saying she doesnt feel that way but that is why there is that one saying about she is not the only fish in the sea
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• India
9 Nov 07
hey i knew there are many other girls beautiful than her,intelligent than her, but i also don't know why i like her more than anyother one.
• China
8 Nov 07
I think u are too shy,don' be afraid,if u are too shy to tell her before you go abroad,maybe it will be a pity though your whole life.how do you know she will reject you,maybe now she is thinking the same thing as u. there is a saying in Chinese now,I can translate it to you:there are lots of flowers in this world,and there is no need to love a certain girl,there are thousands upon thousands women at least,then we can begin our new life everyday! Come on,buddy,take it easy.I belive you can do it!
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• India
9 Nov 07
thanxs buddy . ok i will try my best.
• India
8 Nov 07
friend, i am menazsheik from kerala ..though i don't know much about your query, i would like to say something that in love don't ever make a fast step which is a false step in love...you just make sure that your love is real and not the affection which is usually seen at this age ..if your love is real then you do nothing everything well be go right in its right way ,,and you will get your love as your partner
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• India
9 Nov 07
ok buddy i will first know abput it then i will try.