11 Nov 07
Hi annettenasser! I would like to think that in my commitment with my husband I did accept all his flaws, faults, bad habits and our differences but I won't deny that at the back of my mind there is just one wish I have for our marriage to really work perfectly, and that is between my husband and I, my words should be final and absolute. haha..just joking! I really don't complain nor whine about it but I usually tell him that what he is doing or how he is behaving annoys me. Oh, he didn't change, that is what he is and who he is..but he gets to make a joke about it and then the annoying habit or whatever the differences we have becomes a humour or a joke between us. In other words, we learned to make jokes about our differences and we just learned to love each other more. Take care and have a nice day.
10 Nov 07
No one is perfect and we should not tolerate bad habits in the ones we live with. That is why I am against men and women living as couples without the benefit of matrimony because they feel they cannot complain against any bad habits or annoyances the other one has. They are afraid if they do, the partner will get up and leave them or kick them out of the house or the flat, and they keep silent. When you are married, you can say to him, "I do not like the idea of you kicking your shoes off in the middle of the living room floor when you can easily put them in the closet," or he can say to you, "you keep saying that supper will be on at five, and yet when you know you will be late, you do not make something ahead so I can heat it up." and neither of you will be afraid of criticizing the other, because if you are married, it would not look right for any of you to leave. Tell him what is wrong, but in a nice manner so you assume he will be willing to change or suggest that he not do that. Scolding does not work because often there is a reason behind the bad habit and he will have many setbacks before he can break it.