Mixed Marriage

@julianarw (1524)
Netherlands
November 10, 2007 10:41am CST
I come from Indonesia and my husband from the Netherlands. We know each other around 4 years before we decided to married. His opa introduced us. Is anyone in here also "Mixed Marriage"? How did you meet your husband? How long you know him? Is it difficult for you to adaptation with different culture?
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11 responses
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I don't know if you would call my marriage mixed, but my husband is Italian and I am Korean and Cherokee Indian with some french thrown in for good measure. I met my husband at a McDonalds I was working at when I was 19. I was actually interested in his friend, but my husband happened to come back in after he was done with church and we ended up dating and getting married, then we got divorced for 11 years and then we remarried this year. Long story! I think it isn't so difficult if you set your mind to it, we didn't have cultural differences per say, but we did have religious differences and that can be just as difficult.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
13 Nov 07
What a story do you have and nice love story. Do you have children? Yes, different religious sometimes also can have a problem in marriage.
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Thanks to you and also my appreciation to you for the best response rating! I am very pleased! Yes, religious differences are very difficult especially when you bring children into the mix. Both parents want to raise their child in their belief system and it is difficult for the child to be in the middle.
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Hi, i would like to marry a nice lady from indonesia or someplace like that, maybe the phlippines or japan somewhere... if you have a friend that would like a nice american guy? let me know !! hehe i would send my photo, take care and it sounds that your marriege is quite nice. -cliffcliff
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
12 Nov 07
haha...ok, i will check my friend first and let you know ^_^.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
still waiting... ha!
@nyumix (1661)
• Belgium
15 Nov 07
Hello Julianarw, as you know I am also from Indonesia and my husband is Dutch, same as your husband. After few months knowing him, we decided to get married. And now it is already almost four years of our marriage with two beautiful children. Adaptation? Ehm.. never think it will be difficult, as long as we are open to new world.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 07
Wow...4 years married now with 2 children. Nice... Time move so fast yah. Thanks for your response
• Malaysia
15 Nov 07
Hi julianarw, selamat siang (2.30pm in M'sia). I am malaysian chinese n my hubby is malay mix with chinese. I hv been married for 23yrs. I was a born roman catholic but now am a practising muslim. I do not hv racial problems in my marriage as my hubby is a very open minded person. All my 3 teenage kids can speak chinese,malay n english very well. I believe tht all religion teaches the good things n we practise the religion which we are comfortable with. p/s, you can see a photo of my kids in Interest- chiangmai.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
15 Nov 07
So, you have lucky husband :) Sometimes marriage with diffirent religion can have probleem, but yes...it depends with people who involve with. Thanks for your response.
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
13 Nov 07
I am not married but i was in a mixed relationship for 6 years. It worked great - I mean we had our issues but all couples have them and sometimes we had to compromise since we had different values - but love conquers all =)
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
13 Nov 07
Thanks for sharing in here....
@hyzz1982 (1040)
• China
11 Nov 07
i am a man. i meet my lover/.? i have not get marry. :D a mixed marriage is good. if you two love each other, don't care about much about the nations. what's more the babies you two have will be a very smart one , as your mixed marriage.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
12 Nov 07
So you also mixed partner not mixed marriage yet :) Thanks for ur response
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
11 Nov 07
As world is being brought closer by communications and internet facilities, people meet at conferences/travel, chat through mobiles and chatroomss and come together and the relationships sometimes culminate in mixed marriages. It is a healthy sign to bring closer peoples of different races etc.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
11 Nov 07
Thanks for ur response. Have a nice weekend.
@laurika (4536)
• United States
10 Nov 07
Hi i am not from mix marriage, but I am from mixed relationship, hoep that count too. My hubby is american and i am slovak. we meet in austria, where I was shopping and he went for a trip with his colleagues.He was working in germany in that time. we know each other for two and half year and yeah sometimes it is difficult to adapt with different cultural.Specialy if the people decriminate you because you are not american.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
10 Nov 07
That is sweet. Maybe in couple years or next year maybe you will be like ours....Mix Marriage ^_^;; Thanks for sharing with me
@riyasam (16571)
• India
21 Nov 07
ours was of the same caste and customs,even then i find it very difficult to adjust.
@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
20 Nov 07
I'm also mixed married, its hard to adapt thier culture, i meet my husband in my previous work, i know my husband almost 5 yrs now we do have 1 daughter,but know it's litlle bit ok,
• China
15 Nov 07
i just a stuedent,so i can't answer your questions.but i'm so strange to know something about you ,your husband and your mixed marriage. 'cause i just image that maybe i should meet a man come from other country. it must be a exciting and interesting thing,like can't communicate with him ,have different ideas ,like different things ,have different habbits,etc.