At what point do you give up...throw in the towel so to speak?

I've thrown in the towel! lol... - towels
United States
November 10, 2007 11:30am CST
I'm not the type of person who gives up on anything very easily. I'll fight to the end to get whatever it is that I want or need. I fight for a cause that I believe in until I know I got my point across. BUT I have finally given up on my quest for a boyfriend, s/o or whatever you want to call it. I'm not going to give in to today's society and change my way of thinking. If I have to be single the rest of my life so be it. Maybe someday that special someone will come along but I'm not going looking any more. I've had enough of being let down so I'm done! When do you decide give up on something you're trying for and not getting? It can be the smallest of things but you're just too tired of trying now. What makes you get to the point of "throwing in the towel"?
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@worldwise1 (14891)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Neither do I give up easily on something that I really want, ctry, but, I have learned that when you stop trying so hard, sometimes the thing you want the most will just fall into your lap. My advice: Concentrate on being the best you can be and everything will follow. Women so often fall into the trap of believing that they cannot be complete without that special man. It's like I have told my daughters, You don't need a man to complete you. Take time to become entirely comfortable with yourself. There is someone out there for you, but it just takes time sometimes.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
11 Nov 07
That's the way I feel, too. Be the best person you can become and when the time is right, that person will come along that you belong with. My husband and I found each other in our 40s. Prior to that, the time wasn't right. He's retired from the Military and that was a good time for me to find him. Take care
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@mailnilu (52)
• Haiti
10 Nov 07
Giving up is not what i do, when u start something and u don't finish it shows in your character. This is how i look at it, what ever you start something you have to make sure its perfect in all expect and make sure you give your best shot.. i don't even think of giving up, what ever be the case it has to be perfect, no matter what. Well thats how I feel and approach things.
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• United States
10 Nov 07
With me it all depends on what I am trying to do.If it is a task that I know I can do and it just takes time, then I will stick to it. But if it something that I was trying to do and I wasn't sure I could do, I would quit.My motto, if first you don't succeed, quit.But they say when you stop looking, that is when they find you.So just do the hobbies that you like to do and he will find you.
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@raychill (6571)
• United States
10 Nov 07
I'm also not the type to back down. But I don't like arguing and if something is an argument, I just end it, because otherwise it'll never end. I get tired of being the bigger person and eventually I just stop caring. Couldn't tell you what gets me to that point of not caring anymore. I just... sometimes the not caring takes precidence over the not wanting to give up. It usually always does.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
13 Nov 07
I have totally done this for almost everything I have ever done. I try really hard but then I quit. The only thing I can say with certainty that I haven't given up on would be to try to be a good parent to my kids. Everything else is a bomb basically.
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@maddysmommy (16243)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Well we have been trying for another child for almost 3 years and I have gotten to the point where I have almost given up. I am not going to worry about it anymore and if it happens, it happens. I bet you though, when we least expect it, I'll get pregnant again. The same goes with you meeting that someone. Time to take a break, and just stop trying. If its meant to be its meant to be :)
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@twoey68 (13662)
• United States
12 Nov 07
They say that things happen when your not looking for them and that everything happens when it's meant to happen. I'd say your approaching it the right way, take time to enjoy your own life and if someone special comes along then maybe the time is right. "COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS" **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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@chamberd1 (240)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Your problem is that you are trying. Everyone sees it and plays on it. I doubt any of them had serious plans for the future.You weren't let down, you just expected something that wasn't there. So yes you were let down, just by you. It is far better to get to know yourself, I am not talking about waiting for that perfect someone. If two people are compatible enough it just happens. It won't be love at first sight, that is just beauty. Any moron can be smitten. Only someone who has gone inside can truly discern what they are expiriencing on the outside. This takes time to accomplish so don't throw in the towel just find a neutral corner and rest.
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@writersedge (22579)
• United States
11 Nov 07
My husband would be proud of you. That's his advice. Quit looking. Let the other person find you. My husband stopped trying to find a girlfriend and I found him. I quit trying to find work every so often, but then I try again. I only quit for a short period of time because I have to work, but I get discouraged. Take care
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
26 Nov 07
That's when you'll find your soul mate is when you're not looking. It seems that when a person is looking for that special someone they're more vulnerable to what ever comes their way but when one isn't looking, they're more apt to see what's really there when another approaches them. So keep that attitude that you don't need anybody and you'll find a good someone.