Are you the eldest? How does it feel to be one in your case?

Philippines
November 11, 2007 3:29am CST
Well, as for me, I am the eldest in the siblings. To add, I am the only son and all of them are females! There are four of us siblings in the family. And as the eldest, I must take responsibilities for the family as well. I had been the bread winner for two years until now and it is as if I already have felt being a father in the family. You have to divide carefully your money for the family. How about you? How have you been being the eldest? Good day to all the myLotizens!
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@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
yes, i am the eldest too. when i was in Grade schools, responsibilities as eldest are really on my shoulder. it's tough but i feel great because i was able to make my brother and sisters follow me, for whatever i ask them to do, they will follow without hesitations and complains. Until now that we all have our own families, they are still looking at me with all respect. We never had a big fight since then. In the family, i am part of the decision making. My father and mom will consult me if ever they will need to make desicions. And whenever they have problems with my siblings, they have to talk to me first and i will be the one to talk to brother or sisters just to find out what's the real problem is. Being eldest is really tough..it's a big responsibilities. You will be in charge of everything. There are instances that, whenever my brother or sisters made mistakes...i was the first one my father will approach and talked with. Well, that's me as the eldest.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I share your view, joodzki6. Hehehehe... Are we not lucky to be the eldest? and that we were given the opportunity to have responsibilities? I thank GOD for these for I know that being the eldest is a blessing from GOD. The things that had happened to you as what you wrote here also happened to me... Keep up pal! :D
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@joodzki6 (596)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
yeah...for me being eldest is really a blessing. and i have no doubt about it. i love all about it..the responsibilities, all those made me a stronger and better person. And because of that...i gained the confidence that made me reach wherever i am now. Hope you too...have a great day! and be proud being eldest! : )
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hehehehe... I agree... and we thank GOD for having us eldest in the family. :D
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• Philippines
14 Nov 07
I'm an only child and it's like being the eldest among the siblings as I'm the only one who will take care of my parents as they grow old and got sick. The responsibilities are all mine. For me it's better to be the eldest and be the father/mother figure in your family than being an only child. Being the eldest you can delegate some task to your siblings and you can ask them to take care of other things, when you have a problem you can run to your siblings to share your problems. I envy you for that....
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Wow.. How responsible you are, dhedows. I admire your strength and perseverance and endurance to take all these things... And don't envy me for that, ok? You already have taken the responsibility as if you were the eldest.. Do not fret for I will treat you as an eldest in your family... May God be with you always.
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Thanks! GOD bless you too!
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
You too, Dhedows! As long as I am here, I am here to help! God bless you too!
@jona06 (78)
15 Nov 07
i'm the eldest and as well as the only daughter...well,being the eldest holds great responsibility... and that....all of them are expecting for something big from you...pressures are on you.... but its ok....in short,...it's very fun...
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Yeah. big responsibility really, jona... Good to hear that from you too! At least I am not alone! :P
@jona06 (78)
15 Nov 07
no...your not alone.... smiles....hehehe
@hyzz1982 (1040)
• China
14 Nov 07
hi, ebtenorio. i am here. i am not the eldest of the siblings. but i am the eldest boy. so i have the same responsibilities as my elder sister. it is my honor that i have done so, and will take my responsibility forever.
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Hello, wo de hao peng you! Good to hear that from you, hyzz! 1982? You were born in that year? I was born on December 1981! Hehehehe... We are not much far in terms of age then!
@hyzz1982 (1040)
• China
15 Nov 07
i was born in jan. 20th of 1982. so you are elder about one month than me. it is great.!!!! really great.
• United States
12 Nov 07
Yes, out of my brother and I, I was the oldest.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
older you mean.... hahahaha... :)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
Hehehehe... :D Good day to you too, Drus.
11 Nov 07
In my family ,i am not the eldest in the siblings,I have a brother,most of the time,i do not have to worry about things at home.but ,if you are the eldest,you must assume your responsibility,you must completion your responsibility.This is no escape thing.
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
I agree with what you have said here. There is no escaping to your responsibilities as the eldest. Sometimes, you need to assume as if you are the father, or the mother in the family. After all, I think the eldest is the first in the family to help the family itself right? happy day to you, xiaojun!
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Good to hear that, Sara.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
15 Nov 07
I am the older one among the two of us sisters. I've always been the responsible and protective one...while she has had all the fun. But I have no regrets...I enjoyed being the responsible older one. My husband is the eldest too...and he has 2 sisters. He is responsible too but he's also been pampered being the 'boy' and having everything done for him. So, he usually tends to be the BOSS of the family. Both our families are not dependent on us financially.
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Good for you then! Heheheh :D
@coffeeshot (3786)
• Australia
15 Nov 07
I am the eldest of 4 kids. I am 24, my brother is 13, other brother is 10 and my sister is 8. Our parents split up when I was very young then got back together when I was 10. I do feel a lot of responsibility because I am the eldest. I have to baby sit, drive them to school and generally be like a second parent to them sometimes. But I love it and I always remember to act like their sister, not their parent. They know they can trust me and ask me anything and while I know they look up to me as an adult, they still treat me like 'one of them'. (Eg my little brother likes to beat me up regularly.) I love being the eldest as it allows me to be a good influence on my siblings because I know they look up to me so much.
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Wow. Good for you. These are but some of the responsibilities of being an elder. True what you said here about being the eldest! Have a nice day and I am very happy too have met someone with such views in life.
@drannhh (15227)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Nopers, I am the youngest and the only female, but I am also the strongest and the most reliable and responsible. My older siblings did not do much nurturing--they tried once in a while, but mostly they just had to take care of themselves the best they could. I think one of them now feels a little guilty for not having taken better care of me when I was little, but I've told him I understand. His life was not easy either. It is nice that you working to support your little sisters, but be sure to put away some money first for your own future. You may need it someday and who knows whether your sisters will be in a position to help you back. It is probably better if they do not know how much you put aside for yourself, but it is very important that you do so, no matter how much you want to give more to them. You cannot put your own education off forever, either, and it is very difficult to work and go to school at the same time and becomes even more so as you get older and advance in your studies. Good luck to you.
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Good to hear that, drann! Be strong always... Pray that I be strong too with all the predicaments I am faced with right now.. not in the family.. but in my heart....:(
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
I am also the eldest of four siblings. I have one brother and two sisters. Fortunately, I have not been required to be the breadwinner for the family, although I do contribute a certain amount for the family's expenses. I'm pretty thankful that my parents did not require me to be the breadwinner. As the eldest though, my sisters and brother ask me for advice and homework help sometimes, but that's about it. When I have extra money, I buy them stuff or treat them out. Although I think my siblings don't respect me as an elder sister that much, I sometimes feel that my brother is older than me because he's a bit more mature.
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Good then! As long as we get to help our parents, I think it is OK, right?
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hi, just like you I am also the eldest among 8 children. I have 6 sisters and an only brother. After college i started to share in the family expenses expecially school expenses. I was in charge of taking care of school supplies as well as the daily allowances of my siblings. Not long after, my father stopped working and i was then the sole breadwinner of the family. It's really hard because to make ends meet i have to do tutorials from 6pm till 10pm alongside with my regular office job. I had to earn money double time i didn't have time for myself to go out with friends. That went on for about 6 years until the sister next to me has finally found a regular job and helped me out. i can only smile and laugh about the hardships i had gone through. Like two years ago, the sister (second to the last) i was sending to college suddenly got pregnant by his boyfriend who's 15 years older than her. I was very frustrated thinking about the money i've spent for her studies that i cried everyday for almost a week. Now, I'm devoting my time all to myself and i'm trying to catch up with my social life. The sacrifices i've made are all worth it because i know my parents are proud of me.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I admire your strength, Irene. But you be stronger, ok? Every good deed that we have done for someone we love shall be rewarded. Just try to endure all the pains that you are experiencing and I pray for you, Irene... Really, what you have written here moved me... We eldest should be responsible for our siblings, and we should not stop reminding them how hard life is... and that money is not just a thing to be picked up anywhere... Toil, sweat and blood have been our capital to earn the money... I appreciate your comment very much... God bless you and may He give you strength more... Take care Irene.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Well honestly its tough.... you have to be a good example to your siblings. Plus your parents tend to be stricter to you than your siblings, being the first one on the line that they have to handle. There were a lot of things in my teens i failed to enjoy like being part of the high school band because practices were often during weekends and they hate it when i'm often out of the house... in college wanted to volunteer for some organization but my mom hindered my application because she said it was impractical... but unlike you i'm not completely the bread winner, though i get help out with some budget at home... plus sibling's financial requests.... despite these, there are good things about being an eldest like you to ask your siblings a lot of errands in exchange for "monetary" things :-) hehehe i get to play princess sometimes at home... especially when my mom is out.... hehehe
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hahahahaha! You do that too? I am the prince in our house whether my parents are in or out of the house! hahahahah. I give orders and commands in exchange for "monetary" something and of course "coerced" hugs from my youngest sister! During high school, I joined the Red Cross actively and was one of the representatives of the Philippines for the International Youth Exchange Program to Malaysia for 2 weeks. Hopefully, I hope the retirement pay of my father arrives at the soonest possible time before I move to Manila by next month or the by January... I think I have to wait for January 15 before I leave. (giggle....) Anyway, these are but few of the things nice about being the eldest sis! Hehehehe. Somehow, I think, Ii already have been trained a bit being a "father." Thanks for the reply and God bless sis!
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