Would You Report It...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
November 11, 2007 9:27am CST
If your young child was sexually abused in school by another young child or if they were sexually abused by another child in your own family (such as brother, sister, cousin, ect), would you turn it in? Or would you cover so everyone wouldn't know about it?
If I was in this situation, I would turn it in. Regardless, of who it upset or ticked off. The safety and well-being of my child would come first. I think by covering it up or ignoring it you are sending a message to the victim that it isn't a big deal and a message to the abuser that it's ok to do it.
What if it cost you contact with the rest of your family or your spouse threatened to divorce you if you involved their family? Would you leave your child around the ppl that know about and do nothing about it?
"COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS"
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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44 responses
@brendakaya (2332)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Yes, I would. You wouldn't be doing anyone any favors by covering it up. If something like that happens, both kids need help. I wouldn't want to take a chance that it happened to another child. If my family thought that was ok, I wouldn't want contact with them anyway.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
12 Nov 07
Let me tell you something. I reported my sister and her husband for neglecting their six children while I was living there. I was not welcome in their house for like two years and my brother-in-law still brings it up every time I see him.
If I had to do it all again, I would not hesitate. The children were not able to speak up for themselves, so someone had to. Children need to know that they are loved enough and are worth it. I could not bear to hear them say to me when they get older, you were there, why didn't you do something. Their living situation has improved 100% since then and I am very happy for them.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
12 Nov 07
It was very hard. I was torn between my sister and the kids. I agonized over it for a long time. Finally, my counselor, who I had been talking to about the situation, made the call for me. My sister has forgiven me for hurting her.
@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Yes I would turn them in no matter who they was cause a child is the most precious thing in theis world and anyone that would touch one or hurt one needs to be put away for life they are sick
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@uath13 (8192)
• United States
12 Nov 07
If one of my kids was abused there wouldn't be enough left of the other person to turn in, family or not. I wouldn't let them get away with it or put my kids through haveing to relive the whole thing in court. I was a juror for one of those & saw how it went.
They'd disappear from their own remourse.
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@eden_shii (506)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
i think i will report it...i mean, whether the abuser is a relative or a stranger, i think that should be reported...the abuser must be punished so that no other kids will be abused by him...
@Monkeyrose (2840)
• Canada
12 Nov 07
Definately no doubt abouit it, I would report it! Children are innocent and yet to be corrupted. It is our duty to protect them. Usually child molestation comes from someone close to the child so even if it is in the family it is important to get it out.
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@chamberd1 (240)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Are you struggling with a moral dilema or using majority consent for moral judgement.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
11 Nov 07
I would thoroughly investigate both sides before turning the abuser into authorities. In other words, I want the facts, all the facts. Wouldn't matter if is was a family member, friend of the family or friend of the child, I would report it. A situation like this should never be "shoved under the rug."
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@tsgirl01 (900)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Yes, I think you have to report it no matter who it is, I would definitely report it. You are absolutely right when you say that you are sending the wrong message to both parties. The abused will think that they have no say in someone's violating them and the abuser gets away with doing an awful thing! And as children, both parties need to be counseled on right and wrong, good and bad. It needs to be nipped in the bud, to stop the abuse from ever happening again.
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@carolscash (9492)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Yes, I would report it and I wouldn't care if it was a family member or not. First of all, as a mother it is my job to protect my children at all costs.
Second of all, I believe that it is against the law to know of a child being sexually abused and not reporting it.
If it were a family member, I would be concerned that my child wasn't the only one in the family being hurt so it would be up to me to stop it from happening to others.
No good comes from not reporting it as it is allowing the abuser to get away with what they are doing and we can't allow that to happen.
@musicman6 (2406)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Oh definitely, I would be the first one to bring it out! I'm very vocal anyway! I would be concerned with nobody's feelings at this point!
I have no use for this type of activity at all, I would make sure it got corrected, on the spot!!!
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
11 Nov 07
I would definitely turn them in and get help for the victim. I have seen too many hurt people from getting abused like this and keeping it hidden and not dealing with the hurt. It affects their lives in way too many ways to not get them help and I wouldn't care who the attacker was, it isn't right regardless of who is doing it..
@Amiers (1)
• China
12 Nov 07
Definitely,I would report it with no hesitation.Here are some suggestions:
First,you must choose a proper opportunity warn the abuser he shouldn't abuse others,or else he/she would receive severe punishment,next you should tell to the victim how to defend herself/himself.
@estherlou (5015)
• United States
11 Nov 07
An abuse within a family has years of lasting repercussions. Our daughter revealed to us at 17, that she had been repeatedly abused by my brother when he babysat her and her brother and my nephew at my sisters house over a period of many years. We never knew anything was going on! It caused a split in our family and my brother became an outcast. My daughter, who is now in in mid 30's and my son still have memories that resurface and color their lives. Don't hide it.
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
7 Feb 08
I would report it and also involve the parents of the other child, as they might not know their kid is doing this. If people got mad, so be it!
@whiteheather39 (24403)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Anyone who abuses a child or an animal deserves to be turned in and I dont care who they are.
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@34momma (13882)
• United States
6 Feb 08
I would not care who likes that idea that turned in some sicko! no matter how old they are. my one and only job is to protect and take care of my children. and if some wacko sicko get's by me then I am going to make sure they are going to pay for it! would i care if the rest of my family stopped talking to me and my husband left me? HE!!F&^KING NO I WOULD NOT CARE!! AND ANYONE WHO DOES IS JUST AS SICK AS THE PERSON THAT HURT THEIR CHILD
@sherrir101 (3670)
• Malinta, Ohio
11 Nov 07
I would report it. No child (no matter what age) deserves to be sexually molested. I don't care what it would cost me personally. I could not live in peace with myself, if I knew that it had happened, and I hadn't reported it.
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
11 Nov 07
YES YES YES Please report it, just make sure that your story has been true by evidence...The child that Molested the other child is SicK, they should be getting treatment Now at this early age..My daughter was molested by her older brother and she choose to wait until she was grown to tell me,had i known i would have done more than i did to try and get him the help he needed..
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