Treat Him Like a KING!!!

@ayou82 (3460)
Philippines
November 11, 2007 9:35am CST
I was preparing dinner a while ago. And my hubby ask me "Honey is there something I can do to help??"..I turn around and said to him "NO need honey Just relax and watch TV." Then He said.."You're treating me like a KING"... and i answered "Yes you are my KING".. Do you think i'm being too much..or i'm next to being submissive..Whats Happening?? I hope to hear from you guys! Thanks!
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28 responses
• United States
11 Nov 07
As long as he's not yelling at you to submit to him... and making you do everything and not even offering to help.... it's fine. It is important to show appreciation to your loved ones... and cooking dinner for them while they relax is a wonderful sign of appreciation. Hopefully though it's two sided and every now and then he treats YOU like a QUEEN!! Hehe... don't worry about it :) You sound like you two are doing great!
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Thanks innocentobsession! Im treating him like a King..And i know if he is incharged of the kitchen i know he will do the same thing to me. Thanks for responding buddy!
• Canada
12 Nov 07
I think that bother the male/ female should equally treat each other good! I dont think the female should do more things.. nor the male. We should just know when the right time would be to do something special.. or to do something else... my bf for example, is the sweetest thing, he doesnt ever ask me to do anything for himn,., yet does a million n one things for me.. he doesnt expect anything in return although of course i am a sweetheart back.. I just think that we should stereotype genders.. and focus on the morality and actualization of the meaning of a relationship and do what your heart feels is right.. wen your heart feels is right!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
11 Nov 07
You sound like it made you happy, and therefore in my eyes, it is good. What makes you happy, as long as it isn't harming anyone else, is good. That is what I believe. :) I would never tell my husband he is my king. I am simply not that sort of person. I would never call anyone any title that implies authority over me, unless perhaps it's part of a bedroom activity... even then it would have to be clearly part of a "game" and not real. However, I know that my life and other people's lives are not the same, and that my happiness and the happiness of others is different as well. So I think that if you were happy calling your husband your king, and treating him as such, then it wonderful for you. ;)
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Thanks Lecanis for a very nice comment!!! I just want to tell him that im doing my part as the wife and serving him to the utmost with respect. And im hapopy doing it i just feel if im being too much. Thanks Buddy Nice one!
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
11 Nov 07
*smiles* I'm glad you liked my comment. And as long as you are happy, it's not too much, I think. ;)
• United States
11 Nov 07
"I would never tell my husband he is my king. I am simply not that sort of person. I would never call anyone any title that implies authority over me, unless perhaps it's part of a bedroom activity" LOL Your wild Lecanis!! This is what I like about you!! Bay xx
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• United States
12 Nov 07
Hey there ayou. This is a great discussion you have started. I for one am "Queen of the doublewide trailer". I treat my husband like a King every chance I get and he returns the favor. He is also good at reminding the kids that they need to notice all the things I do for them. I don't think I would feel as good about being a stay at home Mom and Wife otherwise. My husband's ringer on his cell phone is the country song "Lucky Man" if you haven't heard it, try and listen to it. He says it is the exact story of his life with me and the kids.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hey you sneaky gurlgonefishing eh..Howdy?? Yeah its pretty romantic and i i wanted to share to the rest of mylotters here eh.. You are always the Queen..what are you talkin about gurl..are yah trippin?? LOL! Well we all want to be royalties in our difficult life..In this way , I made him feel his the HIgness.. He is the King of the living room Lastnight.. I cooked special dinner eh and Man he liked it coz if not..hmm.. hahaha.. Thanks Gurl..Im glad to see yah around!
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• United States
14 Nov 07
Hey there you. Yeup, it's romantic. Always glad to see your discussions here on MyLot. Thanks for posting.
@ersmommy1 (12598)
• United States
11 Nov 07
Is it one sided? My hubby is fantastic. Wonderful etc. I know for my part I sometimes fall short of his Kingly treatment. But there are more than a few days I am teated as the queen. So if it's give and take for both, then no not submissive. But if you are the only one giving the royal treatment, could be yes.
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
11 Nov 07
Good on yah ersmommy1 thank you for participating. I know he will also treat me the same.Im not asking for reciprocation I just want to show how much I do love him by treating him like a King once in a while. Thanks Madame!
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@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
18 Nov 07
Its better than saying "Your just in my way! Move!" LOL Not submissive just nice and caring. Does he help with other jobs around the house?
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
yeah we do everything as a team and he is so sweet..everything that is light is for me and the heavy is for him the good thing in this relationship we do things together..
@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Thats positive. Now that some time has past-any new feelings?
• United States
11 Nov 07
Hi Ayou, I do that to my hubby all the time, and he does it to me. We both cook at times. And sometimes we cook together. I tell him that when hes cooking I dont like feeling like hes waiting on me hand and foot, cos he will bring my drink, my plate and anything else to me at. His response is that hes not waiting on me hand and foot, hes simply doing something so I can relax and not have to deal with cooking all the time. I think its just something you do because you love him. You want to make his life a little more simple and relaxing. So I dont think you sound submissive at all. Sounds like your in love! Bay Lay Gray xx
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Ei hello baby lay gray,,, thats cute gurl! WEll it shows im in loe thats why i give some royalties back and he treats me well very well..and he deserves it.
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• United States
12 Nov 07
Thank you sweetie! You deserve it too! So you are both lucky to have one another. Bay xx
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
11 Nov 07
I think that as long as he treats you like a queen, you should treat him as a king. I do this as well. My husband is very good to me, but he knows better than to ask me to help with dinner hahaha! He is terrible in the kitchen unless he is baking. I don't think you are being too much. I think it is fabulous that your husband and you have such a strong and loving relationship!
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Thanks Mamasan34! I just see how you miss your husband as well. I hope you and your hubby together soon. And yes we are keeping this relationship alive and strong thans for participating Maam!
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@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
12 Nov 07
I do miss my husband, but we keep things alive even across the distance. We always instant message and he tries to call as often as possible. We talk about everything, I send him pictures and he sends me pictures and so on. I am looking forward to seeing him this January. Sometimes I think my husband is imaginary hahaha! Anyhow, I am very glad that you guys are working on your relationship even when it is going good. Most often, people don't start working on it until they are in deep trouble with their relationship.
• Singapore
12 Nov 07
Geez, I think you are every guy's ideal wife! You are so so sweet! Telling him it is ok to relax while you slog it out around the house. As long as your husband loves and appreciates you, keep it going. =)))
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Nah..lordwarwizard..im just doing my best to be a good wife. I mean you see he is the money maker at home..he works hard and bring the money to support me .. So i just give him something in return to serve and protect him in anyway i can.. Im doing well yeh..Thanks ..good on yah Champ!!!
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hey it's refreshing to find a wife who appreciates and adores her husband. I've seen so many discussions where the wives hate their husbands. I have found that women intentionally deprive their man of the credit that he has earned. I don't know why they do that. You're not one of them.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Absolutely not..(Ahemm at the moment) LOL.. Well i guess its time to give something he deserves in 8 hours work.. And its giving him the same equality he gives me as a wifey.. Thank you wisedragon (1006) count on yah!!!
@MagieL (266)
• China
12 Nov 07
you are really a good girl.i haven't done this for my boyfriend.^^
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Well I guess its time for you to try it on your BF.. And see what happens and im so very welcome to hear from you soon Thanks! Happy Mylotting!
• Australia
12 Nov 07
I truly believe that if you treat your husband like a king that you will reap the rewards. Men love to be pampered and if you make a fuss of them they will treat you like a queen. This works every time, on the condition, that he's a nice guy in the first place and doesn't ever verbally or physically abuse you.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I fhe hurts me verbally and physically i dont think im going to treat him like a king. Its just like our kids whenever they do well in school they deserve a treat and you see them happy. Same as partnership.. And i appreciate your participation merylou!! thanks Girl!
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Well, I would like to say that it's a good thing but unfortunately my best friend was like that and her husband was the perfect mate. Or rather...it appeared he was. Turns out he was cheating on her and was into some things that were horrible. Now, that's not to say that it means your husband will cheat if you t reat him like a king. I do advocate an equal relationship on the whole. I've often wondered if he took her for granted because she treated him so well. Sad to think...but you never know?
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I respect your views MH4444...well cheating is on the other page. If ever he cheats on me thats going to be a different discussion. Equality in relationships is required and so much needed and i want that from him. Sometimes Men they respect and appreciate what you do..and all of a sudden they cheat you and do something behind your back... In relationships a fair treatment is good..Occasionally in partners we give them something not materially but a show of love by means of treating them like royalties in our homes. In everything we do if our partner dont appreciate what were doing then why do it...As i said it is just like treating your kids to a good restaurant whenever they have good grades. Thanks you for the response....
@garnet80 (354)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
My ex husband and I used to either cook together and wash up together or I would cook and he would wash up. We always worked together around the house.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Hi there Garnet80! Thanks for participating. I appreciate your participation..I know he will realise that one too..Working together with a partner is fun.. GoodLuck Keep smilin!
@KrauseHome (36074)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Wow!! Way to go, and I am sure you made your husband very proud of you, and you made him feel special as well. There is nothing wrong with telling your husband that. It just shows him you Love him, and are just wanting him to relax after a hard days work. If you are feeling like you want to do it by yourself there is nothing wrong with this. Maybe the only reason some might disagree with you, is they might think then your husband might end up getting lazy, and not want to help you anymore. But if you keep this topic open ended, then he will respect you but be there when you need him. So for me, I feel you are doing nothing wrong.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Yes KrauseHome I know he is proud of me, I mean for someone like me who dont know anything in the kitchen before as life goes on he teach me and i teach him too in other ways and serving you hubby is a great pleasure. And if he is on the floor He also do the same thing..He usually calls me Princess coz im young and very petite. Thanks Madame for you response i really appreciate it thanks!
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I guess that sometimes we need to treat our husbands like a king. It's a way of pampering them and it's a sweet act. It's like adding a spark to the relationship. However, this does not happen most of the time since responsible husbands also takes part in doing household chores. And there are times also, like my husband does to me, that wives are given a day off and husbands take charge of evrything at home. It's like treating us like a queen too.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
And I loved to be treated like a queen Milkfish.. Women like s to be treated as such...and its good once in a while we reciprocate..Thanks!
@laurika (4536)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I am sure he loves it when you said such a thing. It is good sometimes to tell you man something nice , because his ego would grow, but don't do it too many times, it is not healthy. Also I guess it depends on in what situation you two are. If he is working all day and you are home, i think he has right to relax and be treating like a King. Also it is nice from him to ask, if you need a help.
• Australia
18 Nov 07
LOL. Whatever makes you happy. In my house, it is my husband who does all the cooking and care of our girls. I get the fun stuff! lol. Like changing nappies and cleaning poo off clothes and furniture! lol. I do think though, he might appreciate his food more if he helps with things like peeling potatoes! lol. That is if you are game to let him in the kitchen! lol.
• China
18 Nov 07
i think that's OK!! just 'cause you love him so much! but you can't always treat him so ,that will make him think that you should do ! just sometimes ,like he is busy and tired ````
@balasri (26549)
• India
18 Nov 07
It is the happiness that counts.If you are happy with your life who are we to advice you.If you scheme and plan things in life. it may get bitter at times.The best we can do is not to get victimized.
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Well it seems like he does for you too, so I say this is pretty good. You aren't being too submissive and he's not being too submissive, there is relative balance. Its too bad I've encountered women who wouldn't do what you described, not even a fraction of it. Then I have friends, some family and people I know who can vouch for the claim. Some women want to be treated by like a princess and actually have the society programming to back them up, all while treating the guy lower than ye olde peasant. The worst part of it is when the guy does everything she wants and she cries "its still not enough" or whatever she can throw at him. Ah anyways, sorry for the rant. I think your story is very good. Treating each other very nicely and comforting each other, I rarely see this in relationships.