How have you been continuing loving someone honestly when love isn't returned?

Philippines
November 11, 2007 8:13pm CST
Have you loved someone so much, that you would care if the same will be returned? Or I mean if the feeling is vice-versa? Me, matters not really. I will love that someone still till the beating of my heart stops or is put to a halt.! How about you? How have you been loving someone so much (even if love isn't returned)? Tell me how you cope with it... Thanks!
6 responses
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 07
i think so. in this life, i felt i really fall in love with someone. i just felt that he was my soulmate and every memories with him make me longing him. but eventhough i know he was my soulmate, i dont think that i can be with him. too many things should be adjust. and too many things being sacrificed. i was willing to do it but not in his side, then how could we being together? it was hurting me much when i realized those condition. but what can i do? it would be his choice and he was the man who should be struugle to his love not me, right? sometimes, i want to contact him and telling him how much i love him (although my feeling getting hurt by him), how much i longing moment be with him. but i realize thats only sweet dream that can be true. i m sad about this but not too much anymore. i have someone who loving me much at now. although i m not too love with this person, i felt so bless can be with him not with my soulmate
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
good thing you aren't sad anymore, plum. yeah, sometimes we really have to sacrifice for some things. Love or not this person is, I say you are lucky for having him. In a saying I know, it partly says: "... What reward shall we get of we only love those that love us...?" That guy is lucky too. I hope he loves you honestly without waiting something from you in return. Good day!
• Indonesia
12 Nov 07
thanks dear. something that i really learn from my love experience, its more worth enough to be someone who loves you the most than to be someone that you love the most. coz when you loving someone the most, you will able to give anything to comfort him/her, am i right?
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
You bet I do plum.. all for her... even if it will cause me my life... anything for her.
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Well, I'm willing to court a girl for a long time, but I think there has to be a limit -- a point in which I have to say "hey, if you don't love me I have to move on." Anyway we wouldn't be happy together if I'm the only one in love. Better to set ourselves free. There are many women out there so I won't waste my life on someone who doesn't love me.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 07
Thanks for the advice, dragon. But then, I am not forcing that someone to love me just because I love her. You know what, I feel like waiting for her till she loves me too. That is how intense my love is for her, dragon. And, because of doing so, I have to be ready what the outcome might be. Happy day to you and be in love! :D
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I'm not sure what degree of love you're talking about here, so please correct me if I'm wrong.. For me, I have to be more realistic and be considerate. If the person doesn't love me, but I keep and continue on loving her then it seems that I am making love on a brick wall. Love and be loved, that is how I view life and relationship. I think I have lots of positive things to yearn into, than waste it on someone which is obviously not loving me in reutrn. Besides, there are lots of people out there who deserves my heart the same as I deserve them.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I think we have a different view of how loving should be. Me, I will still love the person. "WHAT REWARD SHALL WE RECEIVE IF WE ONLY LOVE THOSE THAT LOVE US",right? Hehehehe... Ii take great pleasure in doing that, raijin. :D
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
That is why I asked, since you didn't elaborate more what your topic is all about..
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Now you know... it is so intense... that I could say.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
i guess if that love is pure.... you get to cope up with the same.... your strength is that same love....
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
I think it is. Yeah, I have to cope with it, sis. Thanks for reminding and telling me that my strength is that same love. I appreciate having your comments here...SSD! :D
• China
12 Nov 07
yes,love is very beautiful.but it,like a sword.will damage you,too.in the world nothing is belonged to you.we only own ourselves.it is true when the lover loved you .and it is also true you are not be loved.receive it.hold strong. we cannot force others to continue to love us.that isnot equal to others.they have the right,as ours,not to love me,as we love them.
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
Yeah, qingzhao... I agree with you. Me, I know the consequences of m y loving that person. But it is alright be it hurting or not. What matters is that I love her even if the favor is not returned. Does not matter actually. As long as I am happy loving her, I would just settle for that. Good day, Qing! Zhong-Guo ren ma?
@plumwish07 (4060)
• Indonesia
12 Nov 07
i think so. in this life, i felt i really fall in love with someone. i just felt that he was my soulmate and every memories with him make me longing him. but eventhough i know he was my soulmate, i dont think that i can be with him. too many things should be adjust. and too many things being sacrificed. i was willing to do it but not in his side, then how could we being together? it was hurting me much when i realized those condition. but what can i do? it would be his choice and he was the man who should be struugle to his love not me, right? sometimes, i want to contact him and telling him how much i love him (although my feeling getting hurt by him), how much i longing moment be with him. but i realize thats only sweet dream that can be true. i m sad about this but not too much anymore. i have someone who loving me much at now. although i m not too love with this person, i felt so bless can be with him not with my soulmate