Did your significant other help change diapers?

@dayzz25 (552)
United States
November 11, 2007 9:01pm CST
I don't know if it's just my man or if all men have a problem with changing diapers. I think he has only changed three diapers since our baby has been born and she's eleven months old. He didn't even change her for the first three months. Did you get help changing diapers?
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• United States
12 Nov 07
my husband had no problem changing our daughters diapers.. we had a small system when she was an infant.. because he would work at 5am when ever she woke in the middle of the night hed get up change her diaper while i prepared a bottle and then i came back fed her and he went to sleep.. it worked out well... and when eer she needed one other than that it was whomeever noticed first.. he was actaully a little upset in the hospital that myh sister changed the first diaper thats something that he really wanted to do.. it was sweet.. lol.. well hes got 2 more due in a few weeks (TWINS!!) so he will have plenty of diapers to be changing !! lol
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
17 Nov 07
congradualations on the twins
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@patgalca (14262)
• Orangeville, Ontario
12 Nov 07
I don't think my husband could handle that newborn baby poop, but had no problem changing diapers any other time. I remember with the first baby he was holding onto her. I was standing behind him as he sat on the couch. He suddenly said, "Mommy!" and lifted the baby over his head handing her to me. With the second baby my husband got up every night for the late night feeding. He would change her diaper and bring her to me in our bed to be nursed. Once both baby and I had fallen asleep, he took her back to bed. He was great that way! She went through a period of colic as well and he took his turn walking the floor at night, even taking her out for a drive. He was a great help to me with our babies.
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@dayzz25 (552)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Ahhh. Sounds like you have a very helping and loving husband. Thanks for sharing.
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• United States
12 Nov 07
HELL NO!! LOL. Thats like asking for a million dollars!! He only changed pee diapers. He is very squemish when it comes to poop, puke, or blood. Thats my department! LOL. I do remember on mothers day he did change there diapers. Said it was my day and I didnt have to do it. Wish every day was mothers day! LOL!
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
12 Nov 07
i am very lucky to have the hubby that i have because since day one of our first baby he has changed their diapers,cleaned up puke,gave bathes,fed them and everything else,and 3 babies later he still does the same thing,which i am very thankful for because being a mother of 3 is alot of work and its nice knowing i have help from him.
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12 Nov 07
Yes my partner was and is still great for nappy changes, all i have to do is ask and he will do it he wont do it on his own say so tho, he waits until i tell him she needs changing. she is 10 months and a right little wriggler but for daddy she is good as gold lol typical.
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@jcj_111776 (3221)
• Philippines
12 Nov 07
My husband did help when our son was still a baby. But when our son started eating solids, that was the time that my husband rarely help with the changing of diapers. He said he couldn't stand the sight of our son's poop and the smell!lol! And this coming from a man who works at the hospital, who has seen human organs at the operating room. But he backs out at the sight of mere baby poop. Nowadays, our son still wears one when he goes to sleep at night. He still can't control his bladder and tends to pee when he's sleeping. Now, my husband sometimes does put the diapers when I ask him to.
@sid556 (31006)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Yes...at first he was very hesitant but I pushed him to be involved in his girl's lives from the start which included diaper changes, getting up at times in the nite...on nites when he didn't have to get up early to work..etc. Our marriage was a disaster and his parenting skills are quite questionable but he did bond with his daughters and they do have a relationship. He later thanked me for pushing him to be so involved.
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@wiccania (3361)
• United States
12 Nov 07
You know, I'm pretty proud to say that my ex was very good about helping to change diapers. When he was home (he worked full time and I was a stay @ home mom), he changed at least as many diapers as me, usually more. Now, I made the choice not to wake him up for midnight feedings/changes when he had to work in the morning. But that was my choice. I woke him on the weekends and told him it was his turn though, and that was fine with him. He actually asked why I never woke him during the week. But diapers, feeding, baths... he helped with it all.
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@musicman6 (2370)
• United States
12 Nov 07
Well, it's not uncommmon for the man, to not change baby diapers! But there are a few of us men out here that make good mothers, and we're ready to step in and take over when the wife needs help! Here lately, I see a lot of males that do this, even some of the younger generation! All in all the younger generation has a lot of questionable behaviors, but I see alot of good, positive, and compassionate characteristics, also! (did I get off the subject again?)
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@nica269 (1399)
• United States
12 Nov 07
My husband changes diapers, but def. has issues with poopie diapers. So if our 13 month old has a full diaper he always makes an excuse why he can't change it - I need to ck my wk email, I need to go to the bathroom, or I need to make a phone call. All in all, my DH is good with diapers.
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• Canada
12 Nov 07
My hubby wasn't really into diapers for the first bit either. I think it must be a man thing lol. My hubby started to get into it at about 5 or 6 months! Your Friend, PurpleTeddyBear.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
12 Nov 07
He's changed our youngest twice and he'll be a year old on the 13th! But he's been realoly good about changing our other 2 boys. Sometimes he'll put it off a little longer than I would but at least he does it.
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@Calais (10900)
• Australia
12 Nov 07
LOL...They are cowards when it comes to that...Mine did help, but not as often as I would have liked, but I suppose any help is great help...
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12 Nov 07
yes,in fact,my husband did it.but just in the first one month more,then less and less.especially after his holiday. that time i did all that,so i was very tired.when baby growed up about several months old,my mother/maternal grandmother did that for me,then you know ,i went to work. but my husband did that ,just not more,if i need his help,he would be willing. not bad man. :P
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@caf48180 (281)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I will admit my girlfriend does do more of than than I do but it seems when she leaves to go some where I get the worst of them if you know what I mean, but I make a point to help here and there as much as I can but I work alot and she dont work right now so I am trying to take advantage while I can.
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@dayzz25 (552)
• United States
19 Nov 07
I guess that's probably the way all men think....lol. At least you help sometimes, right? Have a great day.
• United States
12 Nov 07
My husband has always helped change my babies diapers. He also suprises me by cleaning. He's sweet when he wants to be.
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• United States
18 Nov 07
He doesn't and he claims he is not comfortable because she's a girl. I don't really think that is a good excuse but so far it has worked for him. He probably hasn't changed more than ten diapers in the entire five months that she has been here.
@bfarrier1 (2082)
• United States
17 Nov 07
No my husband never changed diapers that was my job. but I do have a son-in-law that changed ever other diaper.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
14 Nov 07
With our first child, my husband did absolutely NOTHING. He didn't change a single diaper and was even scared of holding the baby. He neveer knew anything and thought it was an easy job to take care of a child. With the second one, he helps a little bit. But he would change a diaper only if I wasn't around (our son is 11.5 months now). My husband's a little more comfortable with our second child and would put him to bed and help feed and do some light helping sometimes.
• United States
13 Nov 07
My husband actually did the first diaper changes in the hospital. The first time I changed a diaper our oldest was a day and a half old, lol. Since he works and I have to change ALL diapers while he is at work when he is home he is on diaper duty. That doesn't seem like much but we had 3 kids in diapers at one time. My husband, though, has been changing diapers since he was a teen. His sister had a baby when he was 15 but wasn't the most responsible parent. My husband was the one that got up in the night with his nephew and fed him and changed him. By the time our daughter came along my husband was a pro at baby stuff. He helped raise his 3 nephews. I, on the other hand, had never changed a diaper before my oldest child was born and had never held a baby younger then 5 months old. I caught on pretty quick and was a pro before we left the hospital--you just can't be afraid of that wiggling, crying little person and know they aren't as fragile as you think.