I'm looking for opinions...my daughter in law to be doesn't like turkey.....

Thanksgiving Turkey....or ham? - thanksgiving turkey
United States
November 12, 2007 7:07pm CST
and she's going to be here for dinner Thanksgiving. Last year I didn't bother doing anything special for her so she just ate everything else and I felt a little bad for her. This year I'm thinking about getting one of those tiny hams...not that I can afford it but I'll figure something out. I feel like I should go that "extra mile" for her since she's very good to me and we get along great. A little thing like adding a little bit of ham to the menu shouldn't be such a big deal to me. What do you think? Should I get some ham so the girl can have a decent dinner with us or should I just let it go like last year and let her deal with it?
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• United States
13 Nov 07
This so easy. Since you are close, ask her what she would like instead of turkey. She may not like ham, and she may have a better idea. And maybe you two can go shopping together, a great bonding thing. I think it is great that you are so concerned about her and by asking her what she would like she will feel it.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
I know she likes ham so that problem is solved. It's going to be ham for her this Thanksgiving and I know she will appreciate it.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
I hope everything turns out okay. Happy Thanksgiving.
@raychill (6530)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Well, my parents always have Ham for Christmas and I don't eat Pork. So my mom would always cook a cornish hen for me. I love chicken and cornish hens are individual sizes. That's what I would do, I mean, if she likes Chicken. Since I'm pretty anti ham I can't tell you to do the ham.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
As it turns out the girl doesn't like chicken either. I was going to buy one of those already cooked ones just for her but that's not going to work...lol...lucky me!
@raychill (6530)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Well... I don't trust people who don't like Chicken. So I don't know what to tell you. cook her a cheeseburger. ha ha.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
lol...you would have to know this girl...as they say "to know her is to love her"...lol...she's really not a bad kid!
@webeishere (36353)
• United States
13 Nov 07
kay this is finally the opportunity I've been waiting for some time here now. For those whom don't like turkey here's the perfect way to make it. Peel 2 apples, an orange. Add some cinnamon, a lot of butter, and some nuts if you prefer & some other spices added to your tastes. Stuff the turkey with this mixture. Place in a roasting pan in a 350 degree over till done. Take the pan from the over. Remove the stuffing. Then throw the turkey in the trash. HAHAHAHAHA! Couldnt resist this. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Grandpa Bob you're too funny! - big smiley face
lol....sounds like a plan to me! I'm happy I've given you the opportunity you were looking for!
@naty1941 (2336)
• United States
13 Nov 07
A ham sounds like a good idea. Some people just don't like turkey and it would be a nice gesture on your part to show that you are being considerate of her.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Well, I love the girl like she was my daughter so I don't mind doing something a little extra for her.
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@AD11RGUY (1266)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I don't know how critical it is for you to keep the tradition of turkey, but back when I got married I found out that my mother-in-law, like me, was not big on the bird. So we decided since it is a special holiday, how 'bout having our favorite meat for the main course. So my wife, m-i-l and I all came up with the same answer - porterhouse. Maybe as an additional meat you could have a little steak of some sort for the non-bird lover.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
We are a very traditional family and my son would be soooo unhappy if he didn't have his turkey for Thanksgiving. She is also not a steak eater so the ham it's going to be. Thanks for the idea though.
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@worldwise1 (14888)
• United States
13 Nov 07
What about a couple of nice Cornish hens, ctry? A couple of my daughters always make these just in case someone comes over who doesn't eat turkey. The ham sounds great too, but I priced some last week and they are very expensive. I'm sure she will appreciate your going that extra mile for her.
• United States
13 Nov 07
I've also priced some very small hams and they actually weren't bad. Knowing her she wouldn't like cornish hens...I know I do though!
@CatsandDogs (13964)
• United States
13 Nov 07
You're such a thoughtful person! I wish there were more of you to go around! The world would be a much better place. How about this, turkey being the main dish, can she bring the ham to the dinner so that you don't have to go the extra expense or mile so that everybody can be happy? I mean, she's the one with the issue not liking turkey and it would'nt be thanksgiving without it, really. It's a suggestion anyway. Ask her and I'm sure she won't mind a bit. In fact, I'm sure she'd be delighted to bring ham knowing it wouldn't insult you.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Oh, I know she wouldn't mind but I'm just going to do it for her. I try to do whatever I can for her. She has a lot of "mother" issues going on in her life.
@writersedge (22579)
• United States
13 Nov 07
It's nice that you want to do this for her. Make sure she likes ham first. Also are you providing the entire meal or can people bring something? Maybe she could bring something instead of turkey if everyone is bringing somethin. Take care
• United States
13 Nov 07
I'm doing the whole thing...of course I'm BUYING the whole meal already cooked so this little extra won't be a bother to me at all.
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
13 Nov 07
I dont like turkey much so I can relate to that. I am sure she would be happy with anything I am sure just because its thanksgiving does not mean that she cant eat pasta or soemthing does it??? I would be happy with anything if its not made into a big deal. Funny story about this whole eating thing when I was pregnant I could not eat most things and been newly wed I was ashamed to constantly tell people I cant eat this and that, and that smell makes me sick so I told my husband to tell people instead of me (when we went to his family). So ok I had the baby and I was able to eat most things but husband forgot to tell his family so I was stuck eating the same few thing over and over.
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@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
13 Nov 07
Hi Ctry, It would be appreciable if you go that 'extra mile' and get ham for her. She will going to remember it sweetie.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Yes, I have decided on the ham. It's the only way to go. She's worth the extra effort to me.
@mimpi1911 (25454)
• India
14 Nov 07
you are a sweet heart!!
@laurika (4536)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Why she doesn't bring it? I mean I don't know how it works in your family, but what my fiancee was telling me, each member would bring some dish, just make it easier.But anyway if it doesn't work this way in your family, i would buy for her a ham. Specialy if she is nice fo you. Maybe she would figure out, that next time she can bring it by herself or bring something else to thanksgiving dinner.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
I wouldn't ask her to bring it since it's basically the main meal. She and my son bring the desserts and that's enough for me.
• United States
13 Nov 07
Ham on Thanksgiving - Some families serve Ham on Thanksgiving. It is the gathering of folk that matters, not what is served.
Some families serve Ham on Thanksgiving. That is an option, or you can serve roast beef. It is the gathering of folk that matters, not what is served. * Some families don't serve a meat dish at all. Or you can serve more than one course if you have a large crowd, or serve a small second option. * Turkeys are traditional Thanksgiving and Christmas meals. Some families get tired of two turkeys in two months. Or there are families with members who dislike birds.
• United States
13 Nov 07
The way we do it is turkey on Thanksgiving and ham on Christmas. So she will be having ham on both days. Since she likes it I'm sure it's not going to bother her. Yes, the main thing to me is that we are all going to be together.
• India
13 Nov 07
i think u should include some sea food too, that will be good and healthy ,.i dont know about u ...but here where i stay we eat rabbit - it is cholestrol free, and beef , lamb, .. regards Harry
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• United States
13 Nov 07
lol...she definitely HATES any kind of seafood. She doesn't even like the smell of it.
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
13 Nov 07
We've done both ham and turkey on Thanksgiving before so it'd work for me BUT just ask her what she wants. That way you'll know for sure and she'll know that you want to make the extra effort for her...that can be a really big thing between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Since we aren't that many and we are not big eaters having both wouldn't be a good thing for me to do. I know she likes ham so that's what she's going to get. A small ham all for herself!
• United States
13 Nov 07
I would probably get a small ham to make too. We always have ham and turkey for Thanksgiving. I will eat turkey but I like ham better.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
13 Nov 07
I am vegetarian so I am used to not being able to eat certain items while at other places. I don't think she would be offended if you didn't get her a ham but I think she will really think you are very sweet to think of her if you did. I know that when we go places and people have a little something for us that we can eat I think that though they didn't have to do it, it was really thoughtful of them and I remember it.
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@barehugs (8986)
• Canada
13 Nov 07
Its her problem! Sounds like you 2 get along well! This is good, and I'm thinking shes not expecting you to break your back just because of her silly likes and dislikes. Its Great of you to entertain her and your son on Thanksgiving 2 years in a row! I think you have done all that can be expected, and I doubt that she will expect anything more! Happy Thanksgiving!
@sedel1027 (17855)
• United States
13 Nov 07
My grandmother did not eat turkey either. Every year we have a Turkey and a roast for Thanksgiving.
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@Debs_place (10528)
• United States
13 Nov 07
You sound like a great hostess, what time is dinner? I will try and work you in. Seriously, if I have a problem with the food that I will be served, I volunteer to bring some dishes, this way there is food that I like and no one has to go out of the way for me. Actually, even if I do like all the food, I bring something - even if it is fruit and veggie platters. I would say Ham would be nice and can go in the oven with the turkey so it would not be too much additonal work.
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@jennybianca (12915)
• Australia
14 Nov 07
I think it is reasonable to offer her ham, or something similar. What about chicken? My daughter is a lacto vegetarian, & although I don't go out of my way for her every meal, I will make allowances when possible. It seems as if this daughter in law will eat everything else, & not make a fuss, so I think it's nice to make a little effort for her. As long as you can afford it & it doesn't require much extra work. By the sounds of it, she would appreciate you doing this.