When you say your spouse "I love you" Do you really mean it? What if it's a lie?

@oarnamav (2708)
India
November 13, 2007 12:15am CST
Few of my friend pretend their spouse as this. I just wonder how can one do like this. How could one reply conscious? I dislike such people!
7 responses
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
I can not remember the last time i said i love you to my husband! I never said i love you to a person if i don't mean it. I couldn't lie to him, nor to myself. It loses its essence if saying this without feeling it.
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• Canada
13 Nov 07
You cannot remember the last time you said it? You never say it? I think it is important for one to hear, not necessarily all the time, but it is definately nice to hear/ and say.. of course with meaning. Are you saying you dont love your husband and thatis why you dont want to say it because you dont want to lie to him or yourself? Why are you with him then, liek I said chances are theres that special someone out there looking or the both of yous! It definately looses its essence if saying it without a meaning, but it should never be said unless meant, the heart is uncontrolable and one of the most sensitive parts of the human body.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
13 Nov 07
Your mind and heart is pure and clean. I appreciate a person with this attitude. This makes you confident and appier in life. But what when you meet a feature exactly opposit to this? How would face the situation my friend? Is it not a deep disappointment? Don't you feel bad in that case? Wish you all the best and a happy life! Oarnamav.
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• Philippines
13 Nov 07
I forgot to mention that we are on the verge of separation. And i know that both of us have lost the love for each other already. How could i force myself to love the man who hurt and abused me physically, emotionally, verbally and psychologically? For whatever it is that he had done to me, i am already on the process of forgiving him, but love lost could never be got back.
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@JowJie (271)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
huh? they are already spouses and they lie when they say i love you? isnt that weird? why did they get married in the first place?
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
13 Nov 07
Few people pretend and misbehave with every one arround and finally make their life meserable and unhappy with these attitudes.
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@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
When I say I love you to my spouse, these are words coming straight from my heart. It has to be sincere or else don't say it. These are words that have deep meaning, letting somebody know that you care and you love him is the most sweetest thing to do. If you only have to pretend and just say it half-heartedly, then it's better not to say it at all.
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@oarnamav (2708)
• India
13 Nov 07
I am happy with your way of loving, but be bold to accept the negative response too. The Sun emits lights without any expectation of any returns. So you too should have a heart to forgive if sometimes response is not to the expectations. Thank you for the esteemed words you added here. Wish you all the best. oarnamav
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@mwala1287 (284)
• Canada
13 Nov 07
Im not quite sure what your friends are pretending. but love isnt a game and peoples hearts should definately not be played around with, as im sure they wouldnt want tha happennning to themselves personally. I dont understand how people can do such things either. When I say "I love you" to my spouse I really mean it and I wouldnt have it any other way. Why would I lie? Why would they? It's totally uneccessary. if you dont love the person, then dont waste their time, as well as yours. the chances are that there is probably someone out there who is bound to make him/ her happier! If its a lie then you a self sentered and immature because as I said love is no joke and should be experienced by those who deserve it and not by childish adults who are not yet matured and capable of using those powerful words!
@oarnamav (2708)
• India
13 Nov 07
Opinion appreciated! Great sharing of your thoughts. Thanks for the contribution in the discussion!
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• Canada
13 Nov 07
No Problem. Good topic Im surprised alot more people arent involved in your discussion. Soon enough they will be I will reccomend others. Best of luck to you as well and happy earnings!
• India
14 Nov 07
i m with you my frn i also dislike that type of persong you are rite how they can do like this
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
Yes of course i do mean it.. If im lying to him that i eally dont meant what i said its like im lying to myself too.. He is a part of me and i am a part of him so i cant lie to him specially telling him how much i love him.
@diillu (5128)
13 Nov 07
Yes, I also totally disregard this kind of peole. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend from past 4 years. We have been living together since 3 yesrs. And it's really going well. I mean it when I say him "i love you" and I know he means it too. Apart from this I have some freinds, who are invovled with many boyfriends and girlfriends in single time and they just happen to tell I love you to each of them.