Fall in love with my boss, what should I do?

China
November 13, 2007 12:44am CST
I am working in this company for 3 years as a manager assistant, my boss is 12 years older than me, he is a very cute and charming guy. He has family and a son, but I dont know why, I am so crush on him... I don't know what should I do? Quit the job?
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8 responses
@Rozie37 (15508)
• Turkmenistan
13 Nov 07
I do not think that you should go so far as to quit your job, but I do think that you need to examine your feelings a little more closely. If you find that you are not simply infatuated with him, you should seek counseling. I do not believe that it is healthy to have these kinds of feelings for someone whom you know is unavailable.
• China
13 Nov 07
Thank you for your advice. I do love the job here, and since I work there for 3 years, I dont want to quit it.. But I am his assistant, and have to stay with him every day in the same office, so hard for me to control myself.I know it is not healthy to have these feelings, and I am not a bad girl to destroy others' family,,, maybe I am the only one to be hurt..
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@Rozie37 (15508)
• Turkmenistan
13 Nov 07
You said that you can not control yourself? Are you sure that it is love and not lust?
@Ann2407 (306)
• China
13 Nov 07
It is really a troublesome problem,we have no control over our emotion most of the time.If I were you,I do will choose to leave.one sentence in china:????? !And good luck to you!
• China
13 Nov 07
Yes, Ann, I also want to leave him immediately, but,you know it is so hard to control, I do not want to break his marriage, but I do not hurt myself either.Maybe I need a discussion with him..
@Ann2407 (306)
• China
13 Nov 07
In my mind,it is no need to bother his life If you have choose to leave and it is something destines to have no result.Forgive me,but that is really my mind.good luck,pretty girl!
• China
13 Nov 07
maybe the beat way to figure it out is to quit the job. no matter how crush you are on him, he is the one who has already married and with a son. you can not break other people's family, esperically the one you love. so, in my opinion, if you cannot stop loving him, why not just leave him, there are more choices out your boss.
• China
13 Nov 07
I always tell myself there must be some nice guy better than him, maybe I need some time to let me forget him, so hard..
@wseayuan (374)
• China
13 Nov 07
i don't think it is right to be another woman to break a good family .maybe now you are attracted by him,but the future will change .you can tell yourself you can find another good and suitable man .there are many cute and charming man,he has a family.if you think you can't control yourself ,i think you should quit the job and let you cool down.
• China
13 Nov 07
Yes, maybe it is the time for me to quit, but you know, 3 years here, with him, it really hurt me, I can not go only like nothing happened..
14 Sep 11
Hi!! Right now i'm in the same situation when you write this. I'm in love with my boss, he is 14 years older than me, he has a family and a son with 16 years old. I don't know what to do, and it is increasingly hard to hide, pretend that i do not have these feelings for him. Like you I do not want to destroy a family, his wife must be a wonderful woman to have won his love. I just want to forget this feelings. I tried other boyfriends, but this feeling always come back. Give me your advice, please. What happened to you?
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
No !! why quit the job just because you are in love with your boss.. Are you trippin.. As long as you dont push yourself to him since you said he have a family already.. All you have to do is distance yourself from any personal feelings you have for your boss..
@JowJie (271)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
hmn if you really, seriously like him, i guess you should just leave. if not it will cause you more problem in the future. let's say that he notices you and likes you back, you will just end up as the other woman.
@aowaow (1521)
• Indonesia
13 Nov 07
You better not to step forward to this relationship. Having an affair with Mr.80% is never ended well. The worst scenario is the woman gets pregnant, he will choose his family then rather than the girl. Unless you don't bother with this. But at last, you will get more hurt...