I Finally Left Him!!!!

Back in Kansas - This is the first week I was back
United States
November 13, 2007 8:37am CST
For everyone wondering where I have been... I left my husband on September 26th 2007. I left on an airplane while he was at work. I came home to my family for a "visit". I am now back in Kansas. It has been a very hard couple of months. I really miss my best friend in New Mexico and I plan on visiting her as soon as I can. I am finally starting to realize who I am as a person and not just a wife and half of a couple. I am much happier now. I am getting ready to go through the divorce process, he tells me he will not grant me a divorce but I know that I can get one anyway. He was dragging me down with the whole 13 year old friend thing and drugs too. When I left he moved in with the mother of the girl, three days after I left to be exact! I am staying with some great friends right now but I expect to have my own place in the next three weeks, I also have someone else in my life that is making me happy. I hope and pray to God that things are going to finally be better in my life.
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28 responses
@soccermom (3200)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Good for you princeworthy! I am happy to hear you left the situation, and it doesn't matter if he won't grant you the divorce, if you want it you'll get it. Especially since he moved in with this girls mother. That action speaks for itself. I know how hard it is to get divorced and start over, but trust me, it'll be worth it. And truly, you are "prince worthy", no woman should have to put up with the garbage you were from this man.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Thank you soccermom, the longer I am away from him the more I realize that I deserve way better. I can't believe he moved in with them after only three days, he tried everything to get me back though, even crying. I was having none of it.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
15 Nov 07
It is true that when you step away from the situation for a bit, you will get a fresh perspective on things. I am glad that you did!
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@ravinskye (8245)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Glad to hear you are happy now. It takes a lot of guts to leave a bad relationship. I wish you all the luck in the world!
• United States
13 Nov 07
Thank you! It takes alot to get out of bed some days but it is slowly getting better. I hate sleeping alone!
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• United States
13 Nov 07
You go girl im so happy for you
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Nov 07
I had been wondering where you were! From what I had heard about your relationship before, I had wondered a lot about it. I'm glad to hear that you are looking towards the future and have someone in your life now who is making you happy. I know divorce is a hard thing, but I'm excited for you too.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Thank you for you support hon! I missed all my friends here but I have not really had much access to the net and still don't. I had to come let everyone know I was still among the living though.
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@lecanis (16739)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
13 Nov 07
I'm glad you did come on to let us know! =)
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Well it is good to have her back. I almost deleted her as her account had been inactive for some time. Hee hee. Glad I left it alone. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Holy smokes. It's been eons since I saw you here. Welcome back. It's good that you have come to realize just whom you are in this stage of your life. I wish the best for you in the future as well as for today. Take care and enjoy your new found life as well. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
13 Nov 07
Thank you Grandpa Bob! I didn't want to come on here talking about this until I was absolutely sure that I was completely done with him and that situation.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Good choice. The thing is that there's still the issue of the minor and him. Now it's someone elses issue/problem. Good luck again. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!`
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• Canada
13 Nov 07
Hi princeworthy, I was wondering what had happened to you. I am glad that you are a lot happier and that you did what you needed to do for you. I too hope that things will get better for you my friend ;) Have missed you bunches! £µv & Hµgzz¸ ¥øµr Frìëñd¸ Pµrþ|ëTëddýßëâr.
• United States
13 Nov 07
Thanks PurpleTeddyBear! I hope things get better too, they got a little better the second I stepped on the plane. I missed you too!
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• Canada
14 Nov 07
Awwwwwwww *blushes* thanks! I'm just so happy that your happy :)
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@Marie2473 (8523)
• Sweden
13 Nov 07
Good for you! Just try to stay strong coz he might try to make things haard for you. make sure that you are surrounded by people that care and wanna help you.. Good lcuk!
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
I wish you all the luck and be happy life is so good! Smile!
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@citygirl (1083)
• Canada
14 Nov 07
Good for you. But please remember to take your time, and get happy with yourself before you get into another relationship. You need to be you for a while. I haven't read any of your other postings, but I assume you had some by this one. Isn't it good to be back around family. Once you get your own place you will feel even better. God bless and take time to love your self first.
• United States
16 Nov 07
Thank you for you kind words. You don't even know how good it was to see my family again. I finally met my nephew who was born this year in January, it was love at first sight! He is the love of my life right now :)
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I am so glad to know that you are ok and doing well. I know you were having a time with these issues and the 13 year old girl. All I can say is good riddance to bad rubbish! You are far too good for a "man" such as him. He will get what he pays for that is sure. Don't worry dear, things always happen for the best and I think you know that now. I think just making the leap is the hardest part. The rest you can take day by day. I am glad you made this decision for yourself. It is good to hear from you and I am excited for your new life!
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Thanks so much for the best response rating! I am very appreciative of the thought. I hope to find you doing well and happy!
@palonghorn (5490)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Good for you! I left a 16 yr marriage , 3 yrs ago. And once I gave myself a chance, I actually came to like myself more as a person. I was on my own for a year before I met someone, we have now been together 2 1/2 years and he is wonderful. After so many years with my ex, it is still suprising there are men out there like the one I'm with now. He is great. I ended up moving 1600 miles from Texas, but I'm with a wonderful man, I'm now working my dream job, and life is great. It sounds like you are well on your way to having the better life you are wanting, and deserve.
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• United States
13 Nov 07
I am on my way, finally! It was such a relief to get out! Thanks for your comments hon.
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@Savvynlady (3686)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I won't lie. I was like now I wonder if this is my friend who had the problems because I only saw the heading. Just couldn't remember your name, but was glad when I saw you there. Well,good for you and carry on dear friend. Carry on. I am not down for a marriage to hit the fan, but everyone deserves happiness and that wasn't in your horizon then. Peace.
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@healer (1784)
• India
14 Nov 07
You must have gone through a lot and still has to go through a lot. But what matters most in life is our happiness and freedom and if you don'y have that, its not worth staying alive. Nice to hear that you are happy with what you are doing, things will become better and all that matter is time so wish you good luck in life and hope you get settled soon with whatever you want.
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@villageanne (8579)
• United States
13 Nov 07
Wow! Your life has been filled with stress and changes lately. I wish you all the luck in the world. Happiness is so very important. I cant imagine going through life being unhappy. Good luck to you.
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@yojspew (171)
• Philippines
13 Nov 07
Glad to hear that your back again..^^..but I'm sorry to hear bout your relationship with your husband..I just pray that everything will be better..^^..I'm glad that you have your friends around you who are very supportive and loving...God luck on the new chapter of your life..^^
@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
13 Nov 07
I am not familiar with what all you were going through as I came across your post here. Whatever it was, if you needed to leave then good for you. Best wishes and luck for a new start.
• United States
16 Nov 07
Good for you!!! I am so glad you made that step and really happy about it! You're are right too - you can still get the divorce if you want it. It will just take a little longer than normal. THREE days after you left!!! WOW!!! I'm so glad you got yourself out of that situation.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Thank you hon! I has been a long hard ordeal but I am glad it is comming to an end soon. I can't wait for it to be totally over so that I can truly move on.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Well if you need anything you know where to find me :)
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• Philippines
20 Nov 07
Congrats! I myself left my husband when I was 2 months pregnant on my 2nd baby. First I thought It is wrong to leave a husband but realize that I did it right. He is jobless and dependent on the dole outs from my brother in laws. Until now he didn't care how we are doing with our life. I know it is hard for the kids but it is better than living together. He drinks a lot and gamble (asking money from me.) So after 9 years, my kids and I are fine. In time, you will have a better life without him and find love.
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• United States
25 Nov 07
Thank you I hope I will be able to find love, I am going to leave that up to God this time. If it is meant to be then he will show me the way. I am happy for you that you got out of your bad situation and are doing well. Congratulations! I couldn't imagine doing this with children in tow or pregnant much less both. You are a very strong woman and you should be proud of yourself!
@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
15 Nov 07
Awww!! There you go hun! Congrats! you are wonderful, i'm so glad that you have finally gotten the chance to see your worth in the real world, without your husband squashing it out of you. if you ever need to talk, just let me know, and i'll add you to my messengers or something.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Thank you hon I am happy to know that there are friends here that know my story and are supportive of my leaving.
• Canada
25 Nov 07
I don't think I have read any of your past stories about your marrage. I have been through a divorce before and I know how hard this can be. I don't know you but I feel so proud of you. I only want to say to you. If you have high standards for yourself then you will attract a man that has high standards too. I hope and pray for you that your new life will bring you all the good things in life that God wants you to have. The greatest gift being Love!
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• India
19 Nov 07
every relation start with a great friendship.If both of u are the good friends then u can improve your relation ship.Divorce is not the only way to make yourself happy but it will be more happier if u can start your relation again.
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