How long is your longest relationship with a friend?

United States
November 13, 2007 11:28pm CST
I have always considered myself a good friend to have and have many long-term friendships. My oldest friendship started in elementary school and continues to this day. Rarely will a whole month pass before we get in touch with each other. Some of my friends have passed away so that affects my numbers tremendously. My longest friendship has been for 30 years. What is the longest time you have invested in a friendship? Not a couple-type, but the best friend type.
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
15 Nov 07
My longest is for 20 years. I was three when we meet and it was in kinder garden. She was cute girl and I wanted to play with her, because she had this cute doll.LOL Then we went together to elemntary school. But to high school each of us went other way, but we still stayed friends. Now I am in usa , she is in europe but we still keep in touch. we would talk on the phone, write each other and think about each other. I miss her so much.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Thanks for your response. How often do you get in touch with each other, and when you do make contact, how long do you spend on the phone with her?
@laurika (4536)
• United States
15 Nov 07
If we talk on the phone, we talk for hours, I mena we could more, but it is kidna expensive. And we would write to each other email every day or every other day.
• United States
20 Nov 07
I actually incur the expense with unlimited long distance on my telephone service. It costs $25 a month, but with all of my family living out of state, I save bundles of money, especially during the holidays!
@kemadruma (148)
• India
14 Nov 07
Well i do hav longer relationship with my friends, even i m still in touch with my friends when we were 4-5 years of age, i have seen peoples who rotates their friends every year, for example my brother who dnt have a single childhood friend.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Rotation of friends? I guess it would be like circulating through the "groups" in high school. I was guilty of not belonging to a clique when I was in school because I would visit each group of friends everyday, circulating through them throughout the day. Similar? Thanks for making me think!
• India
15 Nov 07
well i do have long relationship, i was talking about my brother, yes its similar to u...
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
The friends I have right now are still the one's whom I sued to be with during my younger days, I believe our bonds are too strong that we cannot deny the fact that we look at each other as brothers. Infact, we even god-fathered each other's kids, to keep the closeness and continue the ties we have then pass them on our kids. Also, our group are still attracting new members. Younger batches that were somehow inspired by the way we keep our relationship intact, we share it to them and hope that they would learn from us too!;)
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
Yes, if ever they see me I always make them feel that I am always there for them. If they need something, I'd do my best to fulfill some of their needs.
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
I'm 29 now and my longest friendship (still currently running) is for around 22 years. She left for the US already but eventhough we're miles apart, when we talk over the phone or chat online, it's still like we're kids again. Some friendships are truly enduring and that is something we should keep on holding to.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
How exciting that mine was the first discussion you responded to! Welcome to mylot. I totally agree with you. Thanks for responding!
14 Nov 07
i am not that much old to show a big count for my relationship,but one thing i would like to mention that it realy needs a fortune to get such a friend to last longer..i will tell you about my misfortune..my best friend was a girl..we were a childhood friend..we grew younger but then also we were good friend..then she fell in love with a boy..i was the first to she shared this..i was also very happy about her..she introduced me with her boyfriend..everything was okay..but after a month her boyfriend asked her to quit with me bcoz he didn't liked that much of affection of her with me..she came and told this to me..and listening to this,i planned and left that place after two months without telling her..10 years of friendship was broken..
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Sorry for your loss! But seriously, you should check in on her from time to time, as she and that boy may break up and whose shoulder will she cry on? Have you attempted to get in touch with her since leaving?
@pinay81 (1538)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
hi char, about my friends the longest relationship with my friend is 7 years since we are college until now even we both far to each other and my other friends we lost our communication already but when we ever meet again they are still my friend:-)
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Seven years is good, but hang in there and aim for the silver (25 years!) Thanks for your response
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
14 Nov 07
Hello there. I am 24 years old this year. My longest relationship with a friend is 20 years. Considering my age, I think that's quite an incredible statistic. =D I knew that friend since we were both 5 years old. How time flies and I am glad that we are still in touch as good friends. Even though we hardly meet up due to our busy schedule, we are still good friends. =D
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Staying in touch is vital in a friendship, otherwise you may miss out on a great accomplishment or an opportunity to be the friend's support system during rough times. The older the friendship, the stronger the bonds!
14 Nov 07
The longest friendship i have fulfill is 2 n half years and still continuing.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Hang in there, then, because the longer you have that friend, the sweeter the relationship becomes! Thanks for responding
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
14 Nov 07
The oldest friendship I have started in the second grade. I met her on the school bus. We have been friends for almost 24 years now. We were in each others weddings. She is going to come to visit me next month because we live in different states now.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
I wish I could have been in my best friends wedding, but she got married shortly after quitting high school and my parents would not let me be in her wedding since they felt it was condoning her young relationship. :-) I was only 15 at the time. She is divorced now and has been single for over 15 years now, but she knows that if I could have been there I would have been. It didn't hurt her too badly, as I am the godmother of both of her daughters!
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
my bestfriend and i are bestfriends since we we're in grade one.we are almost 13 years bestfriends up to know, hope it will continue..gbu
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Just know that friendships may come and go, but our dearest friends will always be there. I have made many friends but only have a few close friends and one best friend! Thanks for responding.
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
14 Nov 07
I have very long lasting friendships, My friend and I has been friends since she was prengnant with her daughter, her daughter is 38 yrs, old, so figure that. almost 40 yrs. that is a long time, she lives in California, we talk eeryday, and I am from, Ohio, she was just here visiting. I use to go visit her evrry 2 or 3 yrs.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
My best friend still lives in the little town where I used to live. She and I use the phone, our car, email, and snail-mail to keep in touch. We recently spent the weekend together as I traveled alone to see her and wound up staying for the weekend. Her mother was ill and I felt like she needed a support system! I also have a close friend who lives in California, but we lost contact for nearly 15 years when he moved. It took me two years of diligent searching to find him as much of his family moved to Cali with him! But when I got him on the phone, it was as if we just spoke yesterday. Those are rock-solid friendships for which everyone should want! Thanks so much for responding to my discussion!!! :-)
• China
14 Nov 07
Friendship is a kind of human relations.It's a human instinct to make friends. When in trouble, we need friends to offer us help, support and encouragement. With success achieved, we also need friends to share our joys.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
I agree, but what is your longest tenure with a friend?
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Actually the majority of my friendships have been long term..There are only a couple of friendships that are relatively newish (6-7 yrs or less)...but my longest friendships are 30+ yrs old..
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• United States
14 Nov 07
I love all of my friends, but I cherish dearly my closer, older friendships. I make friends everywhere I go, but I cannot possibly stay in touch with everyone! Have you any suggestions on how to maintain the long-term friendships? Thanks for your input
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
We were since three years old and up to now, she's one of my most treasured friend even though 13 years had passed since then. The difference of our religion does not became a hindrance for us to get close and be the best of friends. ..^^..cherry
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• United States
14 Nov 07
Well I have always thought that what makes us different is what attracts us to our friends! I have never even considered the religion of my friends, but after considering it, I think that my friends represent many religions with the only exceptions being hindu and buddhists. If any of my friends practice those, I am just not aware of it! :-) My best friend is much like me in the fact that we don't attend a church, but will do pray together. Thanks for your response!
• Malaysia
14 Nov 07
for me best friend will last the most.. my friendship with all my friend since i was 16 until now im already 22... lets see. its already 6 years...wow.never expect that.. but to last your friendship you need to be honest with each other
• United States
14 Nov 07
Honesty is a trait that I used to not care about. Many friends I have had in the past were compulsive liars and lied about any and everything! I never considered honesty to be a prerequisite for my friendship as I like the liars too. :-) The one thing I cannot stand in a person is rudeness or cutting conversations short because they are not interested. None of my friends are guilty of this, but I have dealt with it in the past. Needless to say, those folks are no longer in my friendship network! Thanks for your input.
@subathra (3519)
• India
14 Nov 07
Its my 3 friends who studied with me from kindergarden till my secondary level in the same school..now all of us are employed and living in same city but our good friendship still continues and its almost 24 years over now..hope we celebrate the silver jubilee next year..
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• United States
14 Nov 07
What a great idea! I never considered celebrating an anniversary with my friends! Maybe as opposed to a high school reunion, I should hold a friendship reunion!
@juenshia (25)
• China
14 Nov 07
My longest friendship has lasted for more than 10 years,I can remember exactly. I don't think the time have much efficiency to the intimacy between two friends. For some friends, we known each other for more than 10 years, but we are not so close.So, I think the real close friendship I have now is 6 years, nearly 7 years.
• United States
14 Nov 07
I have several close friends, but only one best friend! Some of my close friends I have known as long as my best buddy, but when it comes to best friends, I only have one!
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
hello! i consider my friends as a special gift. that's the reason why i treasure all my friends. I have this elementary classmate who became close to me since grade four (i am ten years old then). Until now we are still very close and we always find time to communicate with each other (i am now 28). our friendship is now 18 years old and still counting.. :-)
• United States
14 Nov 07
Sometimes I think we may take our friends for granted. I am like you in the fact that they are "special gifts." I appreciate your response
@Cocoa33 (921)
• United States
14 Nov 07
The longest relationship i have a had with a friend is 3 years. it will be 4 the coming February.
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• United States
14 Nov 07
Thanks for your response! Have you lost many friends?
@maverixk (15)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
My bestfriend relationship with someone? It's turning 8 years this 2008 and my bestfriend is a girl.. she's younger than me but she can cope with my thinking. Actually we have a lot in common. So i guess that's the reason why we mix. *LOL*
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