Is it alright to give it all in a relationship?
November 14, 2007 3:40am CST
We all enter relationships, we fall. I think we all know that there's no certainty that we end up with that girlfriend or boyfriend til the wedding day itself. And when we learn to love our partner, we tend to give everything in us to that person, help, assist in their plights despite the skepticsms. We even reach the point of sacrificing for the sake our partner. There are the crazy things that we undergo, and the likes. However, when the relationship fails, feelings of regret sometimes arise. There are the WHAT IF's....do you think it's okay to be this way?
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17 Nov 07
Thats what love is; blind. We ought to love our partners with all our hearts, since I am very no one enters a relationship to be hurt or disappointed. We should love unconditionally, at least when you have not been wronged by your partner. If i had a girlfriend, I would love her like their is no tommorow. And they are not crazy things.
17 Nov 07
Well, its ok because we are human. But like you have said, we can never be sure of anything... but it doesnt mean that we should not give our best... Life is a gamble...you can never tell if you will be waking up for the next day...but that doesnt mean that you dont have to prepare for tomorrow and your future. It is still better if we make the most out of everything...though we are not sure... though there is no assurance...at least we wont regret not doing anything to make things work at its best... It would be easier to accept that you lost something or someone because you are not really meant for each other rather than because you didnt give enough to make things work to deserve what was meant for you.
15 Nov 07
I think it's alright to give your all in a relationship if you really love the person. That's the point of being in one, to be there for each other. Sometimes we do crazy things, but we do them for the one we love. When the relationship fails however, at least we know that we were able to love someone that way and give them what we had. And the next time we go into a relationship, we learn to love another person and give him everything that he deserves.
• United States
14 Nov 07
"Is it alright to give it all in a relationship?"=[/quote] Plenty of stateside women REQUIRE it of their men (but not of themselves). Even then its still not enough for most. Some men are also pretty demanding in this manner too (of course with variation). I don't think its okay in this respect. I agree with another poster on here, the relationship requires mature people and people capable of a significant degree of selflessness. Without it, the relationship is bound to fail due to deficiency on one or both members. I will say though that some relationships with mature people still fail, or they don't work out due to compatability issues, it happens. But both people in a relationship have to bring a good effort, they have to be honest too. If its lopsided the relationship will not work, even if on the surface it seems to hold together (hell-on-earth type relationship).
14 Nov 07
It all depends on the person. It's just a matter of defense mechanism. By nature, people doesn't want to get hurt especially when they know that they can be. They're afraid that somebody might take advanatge of the vulnerability they're showing. So it's really up to the person. As for me.. If you really see the person deserving of your "all-out-love" and he or she would be worth the hurt that you might have in the future, just in case, then why hold your feelings back. It feels good when you do what you really want to.
• Saint Lucia
14 Nov 07
i really don't know the answer to this question. it all depends on the type of relationship you are in and for how long you have been in it. by now you should know enought to make your decision. as for me i would rarely give my ALL in a relationship. i don't like laying my feelings flat out on the table. i really am conscious about what someone would do to me if they knew my weaknesses. so i keep it inside and when the time's right i'll let it all out.
14 Nov 07
Hi,cielicesky! I do think it's all right to give it all in a relationship cause if you consider too much and balance,then that's not complete love. When you truly love sb,you'll offer all that you can do for him/her.If it comes to the time that we think about whether it's worth doing that,then it shows that we're not so sure about the love.There's always a saying: True love makes people blind.So even if we don't end up with that person,we should still be able to love and give. I think it's ok that we have the feelings of regret when the relationship fails.It's normal to have the feeling.But actually there's no need to regret cause at that time we loved each other and that's why we gave or sacrified that much. Thanks for the topic!
14 Nov 07
If you give all in a relationship you are bound to get hurt one day. Do not expect the other person to do so and do not do so yourself too. We can have a healthy relationship only if each of us are healthy and mature inside too. You have to be a complete person yourself to make the complete couple. Keep your individuality and give the other person too some space - its very much necessary for a happy life as you have to live with each other for years and if you suppress your needs you are going to kill a person that is yourself and then relationship wll become a burden to both of you.
14 Nov 07
I wouldnt say yesh nor no... Because we never noes what happens... N i so so agree to what you said: "I think we all know that there's no certainty that we end up with that girlfriend or boyfriend til the wedding day itself. And when we learn to love our partner, we tend to give everything in us to that person, help, assist in their plights despite the skepticsms. We even reach the point of sacrificing for the sake our partner. There are the crazy things that we undergo, and the likes. However, when the relationship fails, feelings of regret sometimes arise." For me, im willing to give everything even if i noe there's no return, thats love... Love makes one stupid, thus all this happens... But i guess sometimes, im so blinded by love... I think of the what ifs sometimes, thus i will be reserved, but then awhile later, i will forget all about it... Well, life is short.. Love while u can... At least you noe that you have given all... Even if anything fails, you noe that u have tried your best... Right? =)
14 Nov 07
i think it is okay to be that way and to feel that way... we can't blame ourselves if the relationship fails because we gave our all. the important thing is when you give everything in a relationship you shouldn't have doubts because at that very moment you are sure of what you feel. and in doing things, crazy things, you don't think of anything but your partner. you don't have to regret about the things you did for your partner because that was your way of showing your love to him/her but you must also think if it is really from your heart and you aren't forced to do these things but rather you want to do it for him or her. the thing here is if the relationship fails you won't have to regret anything because it was you who decuded to give it to him or her and he/she didn't forced you... and if the next person comes... we can always make more love because love is infinite. ^_^