Relationship

Indonesia
November 14, 2007 5:43am CST
I have a big problem. I found my soulmate on a girl who still as wife of someone, she loved me verymuch and she didnt love her husband again... what should we do now guys ???
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7 responses
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
28 Nov 07
That is a difficult situation you're in right now. I do not now from the culture you have in your country but is divorce allowed in your country? If so then its very easy end the marriage then you can be happy with her. But if your country doesn't allow such separation then you are in a very difficult situation to do what you want with your loved ones. I hope everything goes well with your loved one.
• Indonesia
29 Nov 07
yes..for now the situation is complicated. For you to know in my country - INDONESIA the divorce allowed. So we still make our dream to be married come true at soon. I just wait her untill she totally " finished" with her hubby. After she got free, i could free to have her at the end. Thanks a lot for your suppor dear friend. By the way where is your country from ?
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@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
30 Nov 07
I am very near you I am from Philippines. Then there is hope in your relationship. You just need to be patient and your dreams will be fulfilled. :D
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
14 Nov 07
If she is very sure she does not love her hubby anylonger I think it good she tell the husband the truth, explain to him when both are in sober mind and talk things out. If she wants divorce she should do it first before the two of you goes further because if not she might be jailed for adultery. Let her be free completely before doing anything. Does she have children with her husband?
• Indonesia
14 Nov 07
Thanks for your response my friend. She has explained to her hubby that she was not love him anymore..FOREVER..and ever..She promised to me to make it clear and finished all the things with her hubby immediately. Thanks god she doesn't have any children from him, and hope this thing will make it easier for her to make her divorce instantly done. Now i am waiting till she is really-really as a free woman. Pray us yah...
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
28 Nov 07
I am praying for both of you dear friend to be finally free and be happy together. Don't develop second thoughts about her because I can see she really loves you. Thanks for the BR. Wish you bliss in your relationship.
29 Nov 07
In all honesty, I think you should walk away - firstly, this woman should really try and work on her marriage - if her and her husband were having problems to begin with, and you suddenly came on the scene, it's probably confusing her even more - I think you need to give her and her husband a chance to really sort things out. I mean, all that aside, could you ever really trust this girl, knowing she'd been married when she met you? I mean, there's really no easy solution to this kind of problem, but I think you both need some space.
• Indonesia
30 Nov 07
hello...babiixgiirl...thanks 4 ur advice. Yes, right now i just made a space with her. Things which you've know that before i came into the their scene, she felt no love anymore to her hubby. She just wanna run away from her hubby long time before she met me. And when i came and try to share each other at the end we felt we found our selves as the soulmate..it's heard stupid maybe..but this the reality..so till now i just wait untill she was totally "free" from her hubby. once i said many thanks to response..regards
@poohgal (6848)
• Singapore
28 Nov 07
Do you think such a girl is worth it? If she can stop loving a man she made vows to and marry, what makes you think she can be your soul mate and love you forever? I have my doubts about that. Try to be rational about it. Do not commit to a person whom you cannot trust.
• Indonesia
29 Nov 07
Thanks a lot for your comments and kindly advice. Yes, its hard if we just saw from the outside. But i dont know i just follow my heart dear friend
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Why do you want to deal with a Married woman, if she cheats on her Husband, don't you think she will cheat on you? That is just a fact, you wouldn't be alble to trust her, now think about it.
• Indonesia
28 Nov 07
thanks for ur kindly advice..i knew that the fact told that things so worst. but i dont know my heart said that i couldn't live without her..thats the real fact happened on me. if she will cheat and run away from me as she has done to his hubby before... yeaahhh... i dont know... i just ask to the god...i'll consider your advice at much...
@nkhanna (925)
• India
30 Nov 07
hi rejang.if you are really sure that the lady loves you a lot and can be with you in all the odds of the life then i think there is nothing that you should really think aobut.you ask her to tell all this to er hubby and if both of them are ready for divorce,then go ahead with er in life after her divorce.since its you can really judge her love,so first be sure that she really loves you a lot.
14 Nov 07
if what you said is true and you are single, in my opinion,firstly,you ought to make sure whether the girl you like is really love you,i mean maybe she just like you on impulse. secondly,suppose that she's indeed love you,then you ought to check your emotion to her in the same way,namely whether you can promise to love her forever,if which is ok,then, thirdly,you can marry her after she divorce with her husband. by the way,i wanna say that life is too short,so do something you like .don't care other guys'words.