Do you see Beauty or Ugly first, when you look at someone first time?

United States
November 14, 2007 9:40am CST
That's an odd thought, but its good to look for beauty in people. If you look for the Beautiful in someone you will probably find it no matter if the appearance does not appeal to you. And sometimes you will see Uglyiness when at first you thought you saw beauty. what happens to you?
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@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
22 Nov 07
That is a good question cliff. I am not really aware if whether I see beauty or ugly first when I look at someone the first time, but I am aware that I tend to look more on the appearance of whose beauty I like or admire more than anything else. I would say there are people when you look the first time, do not really come off first as very attractive, but when given time, they do become one. And yes, there are some people who look strikingly beautiful but when you come to know them, you may not appreciate as much because of flawed characteristics. So in my personal experience, I have not relied much on physical or outer appearance. I have learned that in life. Most people really tend to judge outer appearance and find out they are wrong in the long run.
• United States
22 Nov 07
hi Sophy.. this is same thoughts I have. When you know somebody you see the beauty and it is the best feeling, to see that beauty. Many people are too busy to show thier good soul too, so it is nice to find it. Of course we all have flaws, and they can be admireable too, dont you think? thanks for a thoughtful response!
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• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Hi again(= I am glad you have the same thoughts as I do. And you are definitely right about seeing the beauty in a person and that is a good feeling. "many people are too busy to show their good soul"-- I like what you said- that it is nice to find it. You are definitely right! Showing your soul is just beauty in itself. And onto flaws- I think that really depends on WHO is looking. There's a saying that goes beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I think it is true. And yes, to answer your question. Flaws can be admirable too. I appreciate your awarding me the BR. Thanks. I also like how you think about this discussion.(=
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• United States
2 Dec 07
i forgot to reply... i think we have the same way of thinking, its strange since you live really far away! Personal experience is the best way to gain a careful insight, leading to awareness right? okay take care, and hope everyone you meet has good flaws..!
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@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
Believe it or not..all i see is beauty in my first impression..coz people makes themselves ugly once they show you their natural born color...thats why sometimes beauty is just skin deep..look at the inside and youll see the rotten personality one person can ever possess.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Hi ayou.. Yes I always see beauty also. I never think I saw an ugky woman except for some ugly personalities! but most people do not have ugly inside either, just human traits that never seem to change and that can be ugly sometimes. your avatar is beautiful by the way ha!
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
hehehe thanks..i take that as compliment yourethe first one who said i have a nice avatar..natural pinay beauty men..gaggaag same color same hair same eyes umm not so big though lol! carebears!
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@sunita64 (6474)
• India
26 Nov 07
Beauty is one thing that immediately catches ones eye. But somehow when I meet a person then I remain in neutral status and after talking to the person and knowing the views of person decide that person is ugly or beautiful.I really feel that beauty is not skin deep sometimes ugly looking person can be more beautiful than others.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
i think you may be right, thanks
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
24 Nov 07
Every person is inherently beautiful,I know too that we have our ugly sides too, but I usually go for the beautiful sides of people I meet for the first time. I exploit the beauty in people so that living with them take on the beautiful side. To avoid mistaking ugliness for beauty, i tend to my time assessing beauty.
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• United States
25 Nov 07
yep, sometimes you have to look harder for beauty in some poeple more than others, ha! but if you can give them a comforting thought, then they can share their good side also.
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• United States
16 Nov 07
To be perfectly honest, I tend to find the flaws in people's physical appearance the first time that I meet them. I notice things like bad skin and bad teeth. I am very detail oriented when it comes to such things. I do find, however, that as I get to know someone, these flaws and characteristics that I noticed upon first meeting tend to either fade and become unnoticable or become part of their charm. I think that caring about people can make their flaws disappear altogether. When you care about them, you don't see the parts that are less than perfect.
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• United States
24 Nov 07
yes flaws come and go...
• Philippines
14 Nov 07
I look at both the physical beauty, but the person has less, I look at the inner beauty on the way she/he present herself/himself on our first meeting. When I discovered ugliness instead of beauty, nayyyyy....I will thrown to a distance. If ever I can escape meeting this person, I will do.
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Wow, you have the good ideas about people Rose!! have a nice day today and the next day too.
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@mycharm88 (2292)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
hello there cliff c",) Like you, i see peoples beauty at first... and never want to see their ugly side. But hey, everyone has their ugly side of being a person. Not much of the physical look but most that i long to see is the real beauty from within in every person that i meet. God bless you dear friend c",)
• United States
24 Nov 07
Hi Mycharm, I hope you and your family are doing okay considering your recent circumstances. Seems as we get older we appreciate life more because it really is fragile... I am glad you seek to find the beauty on the inside where possible. I always seem to see the good parts too if i look for it. and of course you are right, we all have our ugly side. Even innocent children can have a selfish and mean spirit sometimes, but then a child is so beautiful we tend to overlook their bad behavior..LOL. Hang in there dear, take care and stay in touch.
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