I have an apology to make. Have you had to do the same?

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@xboxboy (5578)
November 14, 2007 7:00pm CST
Sometimes i forget my age and think im funny when im typing before i think. today i thought i was witty and offended a fellow mylotter. i have apologised. i genuinely did not mean to be offensive. Have you ever opened your mouth and regretted it? (I kind of hope you are going to say yes to make me feel better!)
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• India
15 Nov 07
Don’t feel sorry Boy. I don’t know what you have written, but believe me there are some who love feeling insulted and creating difficult situations for all irrespective of the age factor. But take comfort in the fact that there are others like me too who don’t take themselves too seriously. You can joke as much as you want with me and I will think of myself as intelligent if I read you correctly. This is my attitude towards all. If someone is genuinely insulting you, it does show clearly. Anyway, it has happened with me many times, I have spoken my mind to people who have taken great offence, they have stopped talking to me, bad-mouthed me and all but I don’t think I regret my outspoken nature and regarding jokes.., yes I remember. There was a senior colleague in office who was bald. One day he was sitting beneath a cabinet which I had left open (I was taking out something). I looked back and told him to be careful so that he doesn’t get up suddenly and hurt his bald head. Now it seems he did not like the term ‘bald’ being spoken out loudly, he became red and actually told me that I did not know how to talk. I was taken aback for a moment and then to lighten the situation I told him (another mistake) that he should not take offence coz my dad is bald too. Well that was like salt on his would…he went livid shouting that did I think he was as old as my dad!!! So you see some people are like that, no point in feeling sorry for them.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
that's a great story!i love the fact it was a senior member of staff!
• India
19 Nov 07
thnx Boy, and i love your sense of humour.
@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
i am a singer and it is really hard to communicate with listeners or costumers during work because sometimes when we are all in playful mood someone is going to get offended on what you say. the management of the place where i work always wants her singers to be bubblie, funny and a chatter box but it is not easy to be like that in front of people that you dont really know. so my response is Yes i always had opened my mouth and regretted it, i've said sorry to million of times during shows but lucky that i am a singer and one good song will take it all away.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
what a beautiful reply. thanks for that!
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@roniroxas (10576)
• Philippines
15 Nov 07
but for me whats important is we know how to accept that we did something wrong and we know how to say Im Sorry. wink wink
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@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I did the same thing yesterday! I thought I was being funny but he did not. He "yelled" at me for leaving a negative comment. I apologized and explained but he didn't respond. *shrugs shoulders*...lesson learned
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
yeah, i was quite hurt by the response as i thought i was slagging myself off but i suppose it was really stupid. hey! you life and learn!
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Awww X, of course we all have said something we thought was funny and offended someone else with it. Im sure the person will see your just harmless and didnt mean anything by it. Bless!!! Bay Lay Gray xx
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i got two people saying they were reporting me! bad boy!
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• United States
15 Nov 07
Reporting you?? LOL No way. What on earth did you say!?!? Had to be pretty bad to report you over it. xx
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
someone had a discussion about some kind of birth control inserted and i offered to test drive it to see that it worked. not very sensitive.
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@TravisE (445)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Happens all the time. The way to deal with it is to keep a sense of humor about the whole thing. Misunderstandings become serious only when they are allowed to persist. When you see the humor of it, you can apologize sincerely, clean up the mess and go along your merry way.
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
that is a great positive outlook you have! i like it!
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@TravisE (445)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Thanks. It works for me pretty well, most of the time. ;-)
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 07
apology - APOLOGY - a regretful acknowledgement of an offence or failure.
Hi & Hello, xboxboy. Of course YES as my answer to your question. Being a normal human I definitely had made many mistakes and sometimes due to my weakness. As an APOLOGY is a regretful acknowledgement of an offence or failure. But if you intentionally promote mistake, it no longer call as 'mistake' but for "shenarigans" and will lead to noisome. HAPPY DAPPY.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
cheers for the happy dappy! i am a boy full of weaknesses!
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@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
15 Nov 07
You are "great" boy!!! The best so far on mylot and 'rare in a few" species...HAPPY DAPPY, my good friend, xboxboy.
• Australia
15 Nov 07
I doubt you offended me. It takes a lot to cause offence to me these days. Apologies are always good, and maybe some grovelling too! lol. What you suffer from is Foot in Mouth Disease, highly contagious and a threat to life! lol. Sheep and cattle usually! The best thing to do is put yourself in quarantine and wait for it to pass. Oh wait, you are a male! Guess you are going to be in quarantine for quite some time! ROFL.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i did do a bit of grovelling on a pm. the last time i got qurentined was 2 weeks ago when i had a sniffle. but hey, i am a guy!
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@AD11RGUY (1266)
• United States
15 Nov 07
"Have you ever opened your mouth and regretted it?" Hmm. Let me think... *Yes dear, those pants do!* *REALLY?! Then I'll take 2 fruitcakes!* *You got your hair done today?!* *Oh yeah? Well I'm the employee! That's why!!* *Oh yeah?! Well you were speeding too! How else could I have noticed your red and blue lights so close?!* Noope. Can't think of a think. Sorry, xboxboy.
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@AD11RGUY (1266)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I'm sorry. *thing*
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
lol! nice examples!
@beaniegdi (1966)
15 Nov 07
I've done it and I am sure others have. Sometimes things seem so funny to us but to others it can seem we are being cutting. It can be a very fine line between being funny and offensive and we usually don't realise until we have hurt someone. Don't worry too much about it, you did not intend to give offense and said sorry, you can't do more than that. I am sure you keep everyone laughing usually and I hope you continue to do so. We need laughter. Also even the best stand up comedians tell jokes that fall flat sometimes.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i will engage brain before leaving future comments!
@nkhanna (925)
• India
15 Nov 07
yes many times it had happened with me as well.i guess it happens with every one some time or the other.especially when one is angry.even once i too had the same experience.i was into a discussion with my sis when i told her something offensive.i did not meant that,bt it just slipped out of my mouth.words spoken frm the mouth r just like arrow gone out ou of the holder,it can only hurt or destroy.lateri appologised bt she was offended.then i took her out for her favourite lunch n again said sory to her nthen finally she forgave me.i guess while er r responding the same thing happens.
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
glad to see she forgave you! that is a nice story.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
15 Nov 07
heres a smile for ya to cheer you up!!! - a smile for a friend
well my friend i think we have all been there sometime in our life where we forgot to stick our foots in our mouth or just zip it,but hey we are all human and sometimes just need to vent out but not mean what we say.dont worry my friend it's all cool,cheer up and just go on and smile.hugs to ya.pattie here a smile for ya hon.cheer up
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
yeah, i will engage brain a lot more often!
• Malaysia
15 Nov 07
Hello xboxboy. Honestly yes. Always having such feeling. I think you should not worry because there a lot of people acting like that. Sometimes you make other mylotters happy with your words including me. Make sure its not too much when writing. For making you better, take chocolate a lots(read dumblnddzzy latest discussion). You will feel good. lol! **prettyhanan**
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i like the sound of your advice!! chocolate here i come!
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• United States
15 Nov 07
I sure do hope I can navigate my way through this site without offending so many people! However, in the few posts I've made here so far, I can think of a few where people may have been offended, even though that wasn't my intent. My plan is to find a nice role model on myLot and act just like them. So far, you are my #1 candidate for the role model position. :)
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@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
it might be better to get a psyciatric evaluation if you look on me as a roll model. your not alfieklondyk in disguise?
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@Rozie37 (15503)
• Turkmenistan
15 Nov 07
Don't feel bad. If my foot was not in my mouth I would not know where to put it. We all make mistakes.
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i suppose i will live and learn.
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Nov 07
Been there, done that. I walk around with my foot in my mouth it seems. :P It's especially easy to say the wrong things online, because people can't hear your tones and such. So I've learned to ask if I'm not sure about what someone meant, or even just let it go sometimes. I hope my friends will do the same for me.
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i have learned a valuable lesson of online life! (and also that im not quite as funny as i would like to think!)
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
15 Nov 07
"(and also that im not quite as funny as i would like to think!)" I've learned that about myself sometimes too! :P
@AJ1952Chats (2340)
• Anderson, Indiana
15 Nov 07
It you weren't saying something so obviously-rude, I don't believe that you should be called rude for simply saying something humorous. I mean, if you were getting your laughs at the expense of this person that might be one thing--but you never know what might offend people in this day and age, because our world has gotten smaller to where we're a multicultural society. We used to rent our garage apartment to a young couple. She was from England, and he was from right here in Indiana, but they met when he was stationed in England. There was this novelty song out at the time by Johnny Horton called The Battle Of New Orleans, so we were all together and playing records, and this was one of the records that we played, and Joyce got really upset about it. She told us that the song upset her, so we didn't play it again around her. Of course, I was only about five or six years old at the time and thought that Joyce was just acting silly and kidding around, but my folks realized that she really meant this. As I grew older and knew my history, I realized why this upset this native (and a homesick one at that) of England, but it was just a funny song to me at the time. My two favorite parts were about turning an alligator into a cannon and the refrain where it said that they ran through the briars and they ran through the bramble, and they ran through the bushes where a rabbit wouldn't go. This song was actually the story of how a bunch of backwoods Cajuns had bested a well-trained bunch of British troops when allowed to fight them on their own turf. You know, that's something like what we run into over in the Middle East where the natives are more used to the landscape than we are and can score victories thanks to this. Anyway, you're going to find lots of times when there will be conflicts due to differences in culture, but you just have to keep the lines of communication open and work through them, just as Joyce did in telling us that the song offended her.
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
that is a great tale, and it is one that helps us all to learn. great response, many thanks!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
15 Nov 07
This sometimes happens to all of us. Im glad you apologised to this person. Thats all you can do. Yes I have done that many of times. Now do you feel better?LOL
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i am comforted by your kind words! many thanks!
@Phatmatt (40)
15 Nov 07
Yes it has happened a lot this last years, mostly when I was still in high school I would just do and say anything I wanted, and I almost always regretted it afterwards, and the times that I didn't regret was when nothing happened to me. I don't know why but I still continued to do it, now that I'm out of high school I tend to think twice before saying or doing anything, adulthood I guess.
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
i am learning all the time! need to stop and think!
• India
15 Nov 07
well this thing happen with me a lot of times. well at last friday i was standing in betwwen people. i mean that 2 men was standing near about me. and my dad ordered me to put "swagha" (its type of wood and its weight is over 250 kgs). but i though might be i will do it my self but when i picked up i suddenly feel on ground and my two figures caught under it. so that two men helped me out there and told me ur mad guy we was also standing near u. u should take our help at that time apologised with them
@xboxboy (5578)
15 Nov 07
great story! that is one very heavy swagha!
• India
8 Mar 08
never yet. well this discussion is 4 months old might be now ur feeling good. well never yet i feeled like that.