Say it in a nice way....Please!

@ayou82 (3460)
Philippines
November 15, 2007 7:13am CST
There are people in our everyday lives that cannot say simple things in a very nice manner. Answering a simple question that doesnt require yelling, shouting ot raising ones' voice.. Are you like ths sometimes? and then you feel sorry for what you did cause you upset this person youre talkin to??
4 people like this
13 responses
• India
16 Nov 07
I have seen many people doing such uncultured behaviour to get things done.the problem is some guys do think that its some sort of good thing by yelling or shouting at others.one of the psychologists whom i know has termed this as a some sort of psychological disorder where the person who does such deeds get a certain sort of hapiness where he considers himself as a master and others as a slave.in such a situation when such a person yells,the people should try to stop his behaviour then and there,otherwise it can grow into a serious illness.the most important thing is we should not isolate such people,it only enhances the problem.
• China
17 Nov 07
hey, ayou. im sure there are some people that as u see. maybe these guys dont care about ur feelings.they just think its their way.they do as what they are . i dont know why they can treat their freinds like this. and i will never make friends with such person.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
Well Andy my dear as i said different people think differently.. Thanks for the concern.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I do know some people like that. I had a former friend who was totally rude to me one day. I asked her if she was up for company and that I could come to her house if she wanted to hang out and she said "Why?", I told her to forget it and I didn't bother to come out. Then she wanted to know why I didn't want to come over anymore. I figured what's the point. My life is far to short to hang out with rude people.
@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
16 Nov 07
Goodie, I can totally identify with you! Are you sure we didn't have the same friend hahahaha! Because that sounds exactly like the person that I had to deal with. I am glad you got out of that friendship!
@balasri (26577)
• India
18 Nov 07
I used to be a bit loud in everything before .Because I am a very enthusiastic person.But realising that many will think that I am loud and dominant I have slowed down nowadays.
@Perry2007 (2229)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
I usually am compasionate, but there are times I get upset and yell at someone, but yes after a while I wish I never did yell.
• United States
16 Nov 07
I never yell at anyone. Well....ok......I have yelled before :-). Only when someone hurts one of my kids. Then I totally loose it! My husband is the same way. I think that's one reason we get along so well. He never yells at me.
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
Well,im the kind of person who you can easily approach to. Im not the one who yells or shouts when responding toi a question, Except when im kinda upset. Not most of the time, i easily become hot-headed, because of lots of work to do. My anger dont lasts a long, maybe for about half an hour, then i regain the calmness again. Im not the type of person who is taking anger for long...
• India
16 Nov 07
At sometimes,in some cases I had been like this. Otherwise I could not get the result.But what can I do. It is a way of goading some type of people to get better response from them. I have not regretted for my action at that ponit of Time. In general,I want to deal politely with plesing manners.
• Philippines
16 Nov 07
ooopppsss i think i'm guilty with that too... i'm sorry but there are times some students just get into my nerves especially when i'm so busy with deadlines and i simply snap with some really bad words or insulting words which i later realize as very nasty of my me... me and my big mouth. but as soon as i realized that, i try to befriend that particular student as soon as i seem them again in campus
• China
15 Nov 07
my logic is simple: Be polite to others and in most situations others will be polite to me. Never upset or unhappy when others are unfriendly, because we do not need to take other people's fault to punish ourselves. Do I make myself clear?
• China
15 Nov 07
You are very right . The people in the world have too many battle and argument , those argument have hurt their feeling very hard. We are all have education ,and we all have the children , the things what we do can take the example for our children. so say things politely is very good ,and treat your friend from your heart , not lied ,not cheat , not shout , I think this is a good manner.I hope in our future people all are very polite , speak all with please,do things all very manner.
• India
15 Nov 07
I always try to talk with people in a nice manner. but sometimes I lose my temper and start shouting eventhough I dont like that. After that I feel sorry for that. I think one's mental condition influence his talk. Any way it is good to behave in a nice way to others.
@kwenge (2492)
• Kenya
15 Nov 07
Hey Ayou, Thanks for bringing up this discussion. I work in a place where i deal with people from all walks of life. Thank God am not like that but the clients i deal with are like that, you ask them a simple question like......How are you sir, and instead of him answering with a simple "fine" he will answer this way - How am I? How does it concern you? if I tell you am not fine what will you do? And if i ask another one " How can I help you sir?" He will answer this way - " Who said am begging" Who are you to help" are you God" some silly answers like those one can really irritate me sometimes but since they are our clients - they are our bosses so we treat them well no matter how hash they answer us.
@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I dont know anyone like that. Maybe if they are drunk.