Over time have you become less picky?

@vicki2876 (5640)
Canada
November 16, 2007 9:56am CST
When I was a teen I was kinda picky when it came to dating. He could be really nice but if he had a beak nose forget it. Or if he was shorter, heavy, facial hair, bad teeth, etc. I wouldn't even bother with him. But as I look at my man of almost 12 years crawl out of the woods from a day of hunting who hasn't shaved since October 25th, had his nose broken a dozen times and it shows, terrible teeth I always tell him to go fix, and is shorter than I, I wonder if I would have passed him by if I met him just a few years before hand. Do you find that you are less picky about who you date as you get older? Do you think it is settling? Or does looks become less important over time?
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7 responses
• United States
16 Nov 07
it's funny that you should bring this up. i have been single for 2 months, the longest time in my life that i have ever been single and it's like i'm accepting all applicants! for me, i know that loneliness does play a role in that. also, i have had some bad experiences in love. my daughter's father looks like john stamos, which is the reason i got with him. he turned out to be an awful person and an even worse father. so, now, i'm trying not to let looks be that much of a factor. of course, there has to be come physical attraction, but i'm not making that on my top 5 list anymore.
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
I hear what you mean. My daughter's father was very attractive but again not so nice partner or father. My man today is a very good father and a good person. I think there has to be some attraction in order to have a relationship though, which is funny because I am very attracted to him warts and all. LOL Thanks
@ctrymuziklvr (11060)
• United States
16 Nov 07
lol...nooooo!! maybe I've learned after many years of not being picky that it's better not to settle but I'm either going to get exactly what I want or be alone. It's my choice to live with with. I realize I have a lot of priorities but that's the way it is!
@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
What I meant was more in looks not personality. I know the many men today have very cruddy ideas about dating and that is wrong and I wouldn't waste my time with that at all. I too would rather be alone. I meant more on the physical side. Like I would rather a nice person rather than a hot person.
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• United States
17 Nov 07
lol...I might be 60 but I still want them HOT! I love a guy with long hair to this day!
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
19 Nov 07
HEHEHE Rock ON!!!!
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
Compared when i was in my teenage years i can say that yes, I've become less picky in choosing for a partner. AS i've matured i found out that there should be something more than meets the eye. What matters more now is the inside beauty of a person.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
19 Nov 07
I agree thanks so much
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
16 Nov 07
I don't think it's a matter of being less picky, at least not for me. It has more to do with having different priorities. In high school, social status is everything. Looks have a lot to do with status. But as we mature and we realize what it takes to make us happy, and we have goals that go beyond having the best prom dress, what we look for in a mate changes. I find my husband absolutely gorgeous, even when he hasn't shaved in a week. His beauty goes so much deeper than his physical appearance. In a way, you could say I am more picky, because I am now more interested in qualities that are so much more important than looks, like maturity, a good work ethic, commitment and good character. And it is not settling in any way, shape or form.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
19 Nov 07
Very good points! Thanks
@diillu (5128)
16 Nov 07
I think it is matuaration. It being matured and looking over more than just a look. During teenages and all the flashy world going around we are just so concerned about having a real handsome boyfriend around us who would make us proud infron of our friends. But with time we become more mature and we know that there's something that matters more than the looks.
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
I think you are right. Thanks
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
16 Nov 07
After a certain point in your maturity you realize that looks really dosen't matter. ( says the orc stumbeling around in the woods )
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@vicki2876 (5640)
• Canada
16 Nov 07
LOL True point! Thanks
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
For me I just have to feel an attraction towards her. She may have flaws. Other people may not see her the same way I do. The truth is people have different standards in judging physical beauty. All I know is I have my own taste. It senses which women are attractive to me. I don't think I have become less picky and neither have my standards gone down over time.
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