How long did it take you to get over your first true love ?

United States
November 17, 2007 7:20am CST
I must say its been 3 years since my first true love (at age 15) and it still hurts me to this day thinking about her ... So my question to you is ... how long did it take you to get over your first true love ?
9 responses
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
18 Nov 07
It's been 12 years and I'm still not over him. He was my fist real boyfriend and my only love till this day. We dated for four years. I was so stupid to break up with him and it's the biggest regret I have in my life. He's married now and has a son. Although I've had two long term relationships after him, I've only loved him. I think about him every single day. I don't think I'll ever get over it.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
My heart really goes out to you. Im so sorry your in that type of situation. I hope that you can learn to move on eventually and find another love to be forever and while never forgetting the past, starting a great new future.
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
It was 11 years aho when i had my first love, i was 14-15 then. Though i didn't have a formal relationship with him then, we had what the what they call mutual understanding. There was no commitment but we had a good "relationship" then. I guess distance and time were didn't give us a chance to give it a chance....but i know and feel that he is my first love. I never felt any bitterness or pain everytime i remember him coz we parted ways in a good manner.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Well im glad your first love worked out good for you. I try to be like you, just remember the good times i had with the person im trying to get over. I think maybe i should remember that when your a teenager your mind isnt fully developed to think maturely about every decision you make, and sometimes the person your with does hurtful things not even relizing they are hurting you.
@meemingNEW (2228)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
To be honest, I actually never did get over my first love.. And it's been almost 5 years . I fell in love with him (at age 13).. he was my best friend.. I don't think I can really get over him but rather just "accept" the fact that we can never be together. It was really hard for me because we were so close as friends, he used to call me almost everyday, we were classmates but when I realized that I already love him and when he knew about how I feel, that was it. Our friendship fell apart and we never got the chance to rekindle our friendship because my family and I transferred to another city, miles away from him. :( It was so hard and it really breaks my heart when I think about it.. That is why I don't consider getting over my first love because I still do think about him. I still wish we could talk things out and be friends. I still wish that he will eventually learn to love me.. everything. That is why I think the term/word for me is "Acceptance" Rather than getting over. Because no matter how hard I deny it, I still do want him, I still do love him. I might sound too desperate but that's just really how I feel. But I'm a lot better now than before. I do accept the fact that he will never be mine.. But I still do hope that miracles will happen.. Just wanna share a few lines: I still miss him. But not like I did before The intense aching I felt. Isn't there anymore. I still whisper his name. Not as often as I used to. Now it may be once, Before the day is through I still feel him sometimes.. Maybe he's thinking of me? Or maybe it's just a little memory Of how it used to be.. He still have a piece of my heart. Because I always felt him here. Now, I'm hoping and praying.. That, that too, will quickly disappear. This is my last goodbye I've nothing else to say Everything I felt for you (my first love) Can now just fade away.. _____Everytime I read the poem, It makes me stronger____ It's really hard to get over your first true love. I don't even think it's possible (to think, almost 5 years!). But I'm glad that I'm happy with my life. I hope you will be too steele4real.. Best of luck to you!
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Thank you for your long and deep response, my heart goes out to you as well.
@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
17 Nov 07
About five years. I was 16 and dated till I was 19. She dumped me so I went into the service. Im 43 now and still think of her now and then but I have a great wife and wouldnt trade her for anyone.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Well first and foremost, thank you for serving our country. Second of all thank you for your response, your response shows me that people definitly move on eventually, but still think about the memories that they once had.
• Indonesia
17 Nov 07
I must say it is about 2 year for me to completely forget about it. I know how hurt it feels. i already get over it and I am glad because I can learn a lot from that experience.. The experience of hurt, sad and down. It hard to forget about him, but I never forget him. I just move on with my life and keep him in my memories plus forgive him for what he has done to me... Good Luck to you..
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Thank you for your response, it defenitly hurts knowing that she has completely forgotten about you. Honestly, im glad this discussion has gotten so many responses it makes me feel better that im not totally alone!
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
i think it get me 1 year to get over with my first relationship which is my first boyfriend but i think the one that i can say true love was the previous one which took me more than two years now. That was really the painful one since its the first time i feel different, feel really in love compared to the first one.
• United States
19 Nov 07
After reading all of these responses i feel like 2 - 3 years is about the average time to forget about your first true love, while most tend to always keep their memories with them forever. As with everyone else who posted a response my heart goes out to you as well.
• China
19 Nov 07
2 years ,when i was a high school student . and now ,we are best friends !
• United States
19 Nov 07
Im glad yall are best friends, i wish i could be in a situation like that. Although me and my ex tried to be really good friends it didn't work because my old feelings kept showing and she was totally over me, so we just decided it was best not to see each other as much.
@jaichen (142)
• Philippines
18 Nov 07
2 yrs nd 6 mos.
• United States
19 Nov 07
Thanks for your response !
@YoungInLove (1254)
• Canada
18 Nov 07
its been about 6 months since weve been together and im still not over it. Its not like im still hung up on him..its just the whole..him treating me like i was his world while dating..and now treating me l ike im the scum of the earth now that we arent.. Now thats whats bugging me. First loves last a longggg time tho i just want it to go away..
• United States
19 Nov 07
I feel bad that im giving advice to people that are having the same problem as me, but with time your pain will eventually lessen and lessen more. My heart goes out to you as well.