Can you say no if your bestfriends ask for a favour?

Indonesia
November 17, 2007 7:35am CST
I am the one who never say no for this. Even if I can't I will try to get a solution like "allright maybe tomorrow because today I am busy" or something like that. But I never really say No. I just thought that they are my bestfriends and as their friend I have to do my best to help. Yes sometimes it is just a small things and sometimes I have no time to do it, but I always tried my best. I don't feel that they use me or abuse me. But sometimes I really want to say No, I can't, because I really can't but I am afraid that they will think that I dont want to help.. What about you?
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19 responses
• India
17 Nov 07
nice picture - i loved it
If my friend asks me to do something good that is affordable by me,then surely i will do it for him.but incase he is asking for something that is illegal or against my ethics i will do dare to say no at his face because i would never want him to fall in any sort of troubles.but one thing is sure i will never say something like i will do it later or no time now because i feel a friend in need is a friend indeed.so if i cant be a help to him when he needs me whats the use of being a friend.i have a very good friend who was my school mate.he has helped me a lot infact everytime i had asked for and even i have helped him when he was in trouble.
• Indonesia
19 Nov 07
You are such a good friends. And of course I hope your bestfriend will never ask you to do something againts your ethnic... Good Luck to you..
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
17 Nov 07
yes, i already have said no many times to my friend/s. because they are my friends, they understood me in everytime i said no to them. because for many times too, i said yes to them. for saying no, i have my own reasons, valid reasons. given all situations constant and equal, i will say yes everytime to my friends. i love to be with them, i love to help them. their failure is my failure too. their triumph is my victory too. their sorrows become mine. their joys are shared with me. as much as what i have is also theirs; my frustrations, joys, sadness, etc. that's what friends are for, as the song goes.
• Indonesia
19 Nov 07
Thank you for sharing that. Your words is like a poems to me
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
If I can do the favor that they're asking, I say yes. But if I really can't, then I say no and then explain why, then promise that I will help them whenever I can. I don't want to make promises I know I can't keep.
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@youless (90417)
• Guangzhou, China
19 Nov 07
Yes, when I realize that I am unable to help my friend. I will say no directly. I don't think there is something wrong with it. Since they are my bestfriends, I think they won't blame me.
• United States
17 Nov 07
I always try to help my friends if I can I don't ever tell them no but sometimes i would really like to depending on what they want me to do.
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@Raymo23 (465)
• Uganda
17 Nov 07
Of course. You have to be assertive whaetever the occasion and regardless of who is asking. If I could not do the favour, if its gonna affect me in a way that I do not like, I will obviously say no.
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@cloudage (51)
• United States
17 Nov 07
IMO a true best friend will understand that you cannot always say yes. Just make it clear that you love him or her, but that you just don't have the time.
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• India
17 Nov 07
hi dear friend ! u r such a beautiful gal,so kind of u.. Go a head with this frankness with friend ship... As i too. As Everyone. "Frankness is the main quality a friend should have"
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• China
20 Nov 07
A Friend is ... Accepts you as you are ,Believes in "you ",Calls you just to say "Hi",Doesn't give up on you, Envisions the whole of you, Forgives your mistakes, Gives unconditionally, Helps you , Invites you over, Just "be" with you, Keeps you close at heart, Loves you for who you are,Makes a difference in your life,Never judges, Offers support,Picks you up,Quiets you fears,Raises your spirits, Says nice things about you, Tells you the truth when you need to hear it ,Understands you ,Values you ,Walks beside you, Explain things you don't understand, Yells when you won't listen and Zaps you back to reality! If your friend is your turly friend ,he must accept you to say "NO"!
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
20 Nov 07
Normally, I am doing my best if my true friends are asking for my help. I do all the things i can do to help them. But if I think at the very start i can not extend any help, I am frank in saying so. All of us have a limit. So we should only help base on our capacity.
• India
19 Nov 07
your words proved that you can be the really good friend of any one.
@jeanbug23 (567)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Of course, I'm honest enough to say no if I can't do it. But I say it in a nice way that makes her understand why I said No.
@irene_27 (545)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Being friends with others means helping them in their times of need. That's what friends are for, right? But i believe everything has a saturation point even with best friends. You can't keep on saying yes everytime a favor is requested from you. You don't have to be a pleaser all the time. Doing so will make your friend happy but deep inside you'll feel miserable. I've been in that situation before. It sucks! Depending on the circumstances, if a favor is really something out of your way then have the courage to say no and explain why. If she's really a true friend she will understand. Saying no won't mean the end of your relationship anyway. But should she take it against you, then i think she doesn't deserve to be your friend.
@jatindev (20)
• India
18 Nov 07
We cannot say 'no' to best friends in case they are in trouble or they need some money etc . But It may be possible that some of best friends is using you for cheating somebody. Then it is better to suggest him not to cheat and must say 'no' with the help of common best friends.However probably you will not lose your friend. Yes this case happens in everybody life that We have lack of time even to fulfill the requirement of friends or to help them.We must learn to negotiate with them and only apology will not work for best friends and best friends must learn what problems may take place to us if we may not responded to them.
@fanji008 (782)
• China
18 Nov 07
Hi,there! Well,I think we always have such worries and we feel it's not easy to say no though sometimes we really wanna say no and have to say no. Whenever my best friends ask me for a favour,I always try my best to help cause it makes me happy to help them with their difficulties.But if it's sth that doesn't apply to my rule,I'm able to say no to them.If it's reasonable,I'll do all that I can do to help,like turn others for help or sth like that.But if it's not a reasonable or right request,then I'll say no to them and explain them the reasons.I think they can understand me. Thanks for the discussion. Have a nice day!
@meljessxena (2319)
• Australia
18 Nov 07
i think it depends on the favour that is needed, like if it was something totally rediculous well i would have to say no, but if i thought it had a slight possibility of working then i would say i would try. i dont like saying no, so i hardly say no, but i only ever say no if i know for sure i cant do something for them, so they know there and then.
@khateya (265)
• Australia
18 Nov 07
to my bestfriend there are yes and no. if i can i will help. we have our limitation in helping each other. as long as i can i will help.
• China
18 Nov 07
I think you should say no . first since it is your best friend ,it shall not make its best friend ,you,too hard .
@djbtol (5500)
• United States
18 Nov 07
There may come a time when you must say 'no' to your friends. But until then, you are a very good friend to put their interests first. You are smart to realize that friendship requires giving, and as you give of yourself, your friends will be glad to return the favor. True friends will take time to understand the occasional no. Good job. djbtol