Big Mouth: Blabber Mouth: Gossip

United States
November 18, 2007 1:57pm CST
I am so so upset that I have told a "good friend" some things because this person was suppose to be someone you should be able to trust..and this person..no sooner hears something and the person runs and blabs blabs blabs.. I think its awful if a person is suppose to be someone you should be able to confide in and in the end talks about everything to everyone.. Say for example you had a couselor..and went and told them something..next thing you knew this counselor was telling the person you spoke of to him in confidence what you confided. Do you think it's wrong to break people's confidences. Have you ever met anyone who talks too much!!
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@LittleMel (14055)
• Canada
18 Nov 07
if it's a councellor or priest then for sure they break more than your confidence by doing that. but if it's friends well you know there is nothing much you can do but never trust them anymore. you won't believe how many people I knew did that, but it's been some time now I have learned to find out who to trust etc so I didn't make the same mistake again
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• United States
18 Nov 07
I am learning too that there are so very few people that I can trust. Even people who I might have seen as a little higher up on the totum pole is not that way anymore..
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Her name would be jennifer would it?.LOLOLOL!!! I have a friend jennifer and she has a friend name annika.well everytime annika does somthing, Like bring a guy home or if her son gets hurt or as little as throw a temper tantrum.best believe she is on the phone tellen me all about it.lol she swears that she doesnt do that same about me to her.. but what would you beleive.lol she has done it wother other of her friends as well.and calls me whenever they lift a move in an akward position.lol sorry to hear about your friend i know how frustrating it can be.as i do have a friend like that.though she will not confess to it.lol Mabey talk to her and let her know that u didnt appreciate the news spred,and that if it happends again,(if you ever do tell her anything anyway) that you will not be tlaking to her about anything other then okay to broadcast talk.... have a great day hun:)
• United States
19 Nov 07
LOL that is funny..nope it's not Jennifer this time;) I know it may be hard to believe..but it's not Jennifer;)
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Haha well that is good to know... I was ganan say.. what all do u know baout me?.LOL KIDDING.. i sure do hope u get this resolved i know it can be veary frustrating..thats why when i need to talk about somthing i write a blog and make it private only for me to see orrrr just write it on paper then tear it up. somtimes it works for me somtimes it doesnt:)..
@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
Hi littlefranciscan! Oh, I hate those kind of people. They try to gain your trust and as soon as you get to trust them with almost every feelings and thoughts you have, she will readily call the person involve and tell her everything what you just told her. Gosh, once when I was so hurt, I told an "in law" all the pain that I have been experiencing and what I was doing then is to have a shoulder to cry on, and the after i have left her house, she quickly called the person involved of everything that was said and twisted it some way to make it appear that I was insulting the other person. I never forgot that incident and I never trusted her since then even though she appears to be very sweet and so friendly. She is like a wolf in sheep's clothing. Learned my lesson and never been that so trusting with just anyone anymore. Take care and have a nice day.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
I know how you mean..some folks make it look like they are really interested in what you have to say and gain your confidence then spill out to the world all they know about you that you confided..It's awful
@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
19 Nov 07
I have met people like that and I do not like it. I find that sometimes they do not know that they are betraying your confidence and it is just that they do not think. That is why I am very careful of telling something to someone if it is of a personal nature. It often takes me years before I finally get around to it. It is wrong to blab confidences.
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• United States
19 Nov 07
When I ask this person why they told what I had confided...the answer was "That's life".. I think that is some poor excuse:(
• Kottayam, India
19 Nov 07
Very bad profession one can hold
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• United States
19 Nov 07
Makes you wonder why they are in such a profession if they cannot be trusted with confidences people are giving them.
@izathewzia (5142)
• Philippines
19 Nov 07
It is really hard to choose the right person to tell your secrets. because sooner or later, your secrets are being broadcast already. Even your most closest friend or family members are prone of telling your most hidden facts. So when telling your secrets, somehow, accept the facts that it will be known by others,too as soon as you least expect.
• United States
19 Nov 07
you are so right..I expect it more from some people then others. THere are people who you naturally expect shouldnt disclose your confidences..You learn fast though..finding a person to confide in is like searching for a buried treasure:)
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
21 Nov 07
I would never break a confidence unless I feared for the safety of the person, like a child who says I feel like hurting my self or a girl who tells you she is bulimic, I would only go to someone I know would help them though, it would not be a public announcement.
@summer218 (197)
• United States
19 Nov 07
This has, unfortunately, happend to me recently, and it was my sister! I confided in her and asked her not to tell my other sisters, and she immediately called them and told them exactly what I said! Her reasoning was that I sounded so upset that she thought, it was best to tell them. It turned out ok, but now I have to find someone new to confide in, since she obviously can't handle it :( It's sad, but I think we all have to be more careful on who we trust. It's the state of the world we live in.
@garnet80 (354)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
Some people just can't help themselves and have to flap their traps. It's hard to find people we can trust. I have trust issues and find it hard to trust people. My ex husband and most guys I have dated have cheated on me so this is part of the reason for my trust issues. Sometimes we need to talk to someone about something that is bothering us because talking about it can help. But if the person you talk to breaks your trust and tells others about what you have said then it makes us wonder if it's even worth confinding in someone.