Losing Touch With Loved Ones - Is It Difficult?

@Wiiguy (93)
United States
November 18, 2007 6:05pm CST
I'm afraid of losing touch with those that I've grown close with, offline or online. Of course, people have their own lives now. Some of you are married and are with your husbands/wives. Others are knee-deep in their careers and haven't been seen in a long time. That's ok. But I think it would be nice if people took the time, out of their daily lives, to reassure me and to let me know that they have me in their thoughts and that they do care. I hate it when people mysteriously drop off the Earth and not give me an idea of where they are in the world or what they are doing today. Its not right. I know I have friends all over the world and I'm blessed knowing that, but the problem is losing touch with those people for a long time. I don't want it to be static between the parties, where its just "Hi, how are you?" that kind of bullcrap. Its just like being with the people that gave you a chance to date them. During that time, you're very special to them, probably the best thing during that time. Then something happens and both partners seperate and when they see you, they will go "Oh, just another woman or man in my life, no one special, just another person in the sea of lives that I know," and I hate that feeling. I hate feeling that I am not as important as I used to be to them. Call me self-conscious, if you will, but that's how I feel. I don't wish to feel the same when it comes to my friends on here and everywhere I go in life. Sure, you have to go out and meet new friends and that's why places like Myspace, Facebook, or even Mylot exist - to stay in touch with old friends and family. But I want to make sure that I have a close bond with my friends and my family in the memories that I've earned with them, not lose touch and make it to the point of where they don't know you at all. Its ridiculous. I mean, granted, I'm not a saint. I've done bad things in my life to severe ties with people that I've dealt with. On top of that, you can't be friends with everyone in the world and I'm ok with that completely. I'm just saying that for the people that I've grown really close with - whether it be friends, family, or even exes (if that is even possible) - I just want to be in their life in some form and to stay in touch with them. Maybe, one day, when the planets and stars align, we can reunite and make some new memories, all of them good along the way. That's just my whole fear and I'm doing my best to express it through here. The whole post here is not to disrespect anybody on Mylot or anywhere else - just expressing how I feel. So is it difficult for you guys to stay in touch with your loved one at all or is it easy to stay in touch?
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@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
I have found that I have a lot of friends but they are not communicators, by that I mean, they are not the ones to iniate meetings or go visiting, and they have always relied on me to make times for get togethers amongst us all, I think what I am trying to say sometimes I think there has to be a leader, an organisor, with my friends I am the one that always does the visiting and making arrangement, I guess when people have families they need someone to do the doing for them, I used get a bit down because friends never visit me or do things to bring us all together but I have gotten over that and now I look at myself as a leader, a leader that keeps all our friendships together...
@Wiiguy (93)
• United States
19 Nov 07
That's the thing - people need to work harder in order to maintain their relationships and friendships with each other in order for it to not lose touch. That's something else I should have touched on, but I'm glad you brought it up. I'd just think that people would do better in their lives. But time is precious and we only have one life to live...
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@lilaclady (28238)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
Yes one life to live and we should live it well...
@raydene (9874)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Hi Mete, I don't struggle to keep in touch..it just happens.. I am like everyone ... busy and do not always feel well either so I don't encourage visitors to just drop in.When I am having a not so good day I am not good company. I also find as I get older that my children are mostly adults now and I'm in another role that takes time. I very seldom even sit with my grandkids because I hate to say I'll come on a day just to wake up and be ill.I do have much fewer ill days now but I never know when one will present itself. Sweets it's not you so don't feel self-conscious...It is the world and how fast it is spinning..some just run out of time. oxxoxoxo
@Wiiguy (93)
• United States
19 Nov 07
Thanks Raydene for your comfort on this subject. I just feel that people need to step up a bit and do their part in maintaining their friendships/relationships. If anything, it would make a hell of a difference. Like you, sometimes, when I'm in a bad moood or just not feeling well, I wouldn't make time for visitors or phone calls, unless it was a super important thing, like getting a possible job interview. Otherwise, I'm a very giving person and I love to give, but I'd also like to receive. That's why I stopped being friends with everybody, just the ones that I'm real close with, such as you or a few friends I can think of. Its pointless to have everyone be happy - just make the ones that love and care about you happy and yourself and you'll be fine. That's what I'm doing now and it works... Thanks for cheering me up sweetheart. xoxoxoxoxoxo
@cosylvia (401)
• China
19 Nov 07
i dont care anyone disappear from the world..but for the lover i have many ways can find her or him...