who is the boss?

@vsraovsr (734)
India
November 22, 2007 5:28am CST
At home, I'm the boss. I take care of everything and everybody.Regarding decision making, both us will express our views and discuss in detail.Then we take decision which is acceptable to both of us. I have a lot of freedom in many issues compared to other people and I'm really happy with what I am now. Do you feel the same?
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10 responses
• United States
27 Nov 07
I strongly believe that BOTH are the boss. One should not rule over the other as marriage is a partnership.. so should being boss.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
29 Mar 08
I appreciate your opinion on the institution of marriage and strongly believe the same.
@goodsign (2287)
• Malaysia
22 Nov 07
Hi vsraovr. At home my husband is the king of my family. I have to acquiesce to his order and decision making as I salute to his capability and beholden to family interest. He take family members' proposals and suggestions for his decision making support system. Since I knew him and his life before and after our marriage life. HAPPY DAPPY.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
25 Mar 08
I appreciate you for your choice f avery capable husband and is the same case with me but little difference and that is I know him only after marriage as mine is an arranged one.
@mamasan34 (6521)
• United States
22 Nov 07
I am pretty much the boss here right now since my husband is not home. When he is home we try to make decisions together. So ultimately I am happy with how things are overall.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
25 Mar 08
I'm happy to knoe that you are given equal importance in decision making and appreciate you spouse for that.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
22 Nov 07
At our home, no one is boss, we live only the two of us and when it comes to decision making, we have to agree on the way forward. If i think the decision is not good for both of us then we again sit down and talk together. I find it cool for and it keeps us together and nobody feels left out.
• China
27 Nov 07
yeah,I agree with you.The same situation in my family.Whenever it comes to decision makeing,we talk first,then make a decision.I think everybody has the equal right in the family,no one is boss.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
22 Nov 07
Sometimes I would like to be in your shoes, taking unilateral decisions, but thats still a long to come in our home, I and my wife usually have to agree first, no unilateral decisions in my house and this though has a positive effect on the ownership of decisions, it is too bureaucratic and delays a lot of action on issues that require immediate action.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
29 Mar 08
One way you are right but sometimes discussing on particular issues may improve your relationship and helps avoid errors in decision making.
22 Nov 07
i really am happy that you are the boss in your home. there is no boss in our place. we get to share responsibilities equally and we enjoy our life here. we are not really children any more. we don't have any more boss to tell us. we have our own different lives now though we still stay in our home. we are just happy with our own lives.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
29 Mar 08
It seemslike you are happy to be independant tolead your life and which makes me happy too.
@cutepenguin (6457)
• Canada
30 Nov 07
I don't feel that either of us are the boss. We make most decisions together.
@anniepa (27240)
• United States
29 Nov 07
You say you’re the boss but then you say you discuss and take the decision which is acceptable to both of you, so that doesn’t sound like you’re the “boss”…lol Personally I don’t think one person should be the boss in any household or relationship. I think most of us have enough of that if we work for someone else. Annie
• Malaysia
28 Nov 07
fuh! thank god im not married yet.hehehe.. but still i see this kind of circumstances is a common sense. let us put this way, husband is a prime minister, who in charge everything and wife is a advisor to the PM. i think husband plays bigger role thank wife. wife manages the house but every decision must though the husband. if this happen, i see a harmony family that ruling by a leader. hehehehe..that is my opinion.thanks
@noriko (1254)
24 Nov 07
we are both, sharing views and chores at the same time. i dont think we need a boss around the house.