Acknowledgement Now There's Something To Be Grateful For

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
November 22, 2007 8:59am CST
I have just spent a couple of hours in the gardening, I find it very therapeutic and it gets rid of my frustration and I like to be in the open air, I hate being shut up indoors all day, especially in the Winter, and it's good to see that the weather is dry and the sun is out. We, that is my parents have a very large garden and I have cleared a lot of weeds, ivy and brambles out, my dad came out to see how I was doing and couldn't praise me enough, making me a coffee, he even offered me money for a drink which was kind. When you do a job for someone whether you like doing it or not, do you expect recognition, acknowledgement or even just a plain thank you? How does it make you feel when you have worked hard and your hard work is ignored, not acknowledged or taken for granted? Do you make a point of telling the person what you have done or do you feel put upon and hurt? Sometimes I wonder if thank you has been taken out of the dictionary, but I might be wrong, am I? Thanks dad It's good to be appreciated
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Its a great feeling to do something so nice for someone. I FOUND OUT MY DAD REALLY APPRECIATES ANY HELP BUT WHAT REALLY MEANS THE MOST TO HIM IS THAT YOU ARE WITH THEM AND YOU CARE ABOUT THEM , ENOUGH TO DO IT. SEEING THE SMILE ON MY DADS FACE IS ENOUGH GRATTITUE FOR ME......
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 07
Yes I agree just a smile speaks volumes
• United States
25 Nov 07
Hi Wolfie, I have been fortunate to have good people around me, and ones that say Thank You for many small things as well as large ones. If Im doing something, its because I want too, because it will make me feel good. If I dont get a thank you or some kind of acknowledgement, then yes it plays on my mind for a moment, but its rare that happens. I've had a few employers that didnt think it was important to recognize a good job when done. That really sucks! People want to be appreciated and recognized for what they do, especially at their work. I think so anyway, Im sure there are some that really could care less. lol Bay Lay Gray xx
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
25 Nov 07
Employers and bosses are the main culprits for taking people for granted!
@Naomi17 (624)
23 Nov 07
I think its nice to say THANK YOU to anyone who does me a service of any kind if my daughter empties the dishwasher, i always thank her everyone needs to feel appreciatted for a good job done it brings a smile to there faces
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 07
It's good to encourage children, because praise goes a long way, and it is good for self-esteem. Thanks my dear friend x
@raydene (9874)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Honey that is so nice of your Da..I do not do anything for anyone unless I really want to so when I do I don't expect anything but I sure appreciate a thanks...I do like doing things without the knowledge of the person then see the expression of surprise and happiness on their face...That way they do not feel obligated so we both can enjoy it and usually they don't find out who did it...So I have a warm little secret..warms me every time I think about the look on their face! oxoxxoxoxoxox
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 07
That's the kind of warm, loving person you are x
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
22 Nov 07
Yes, wolfie, it does seem as though some people have forgotten how to use those two little words that mean so much these days. I know how good your dad must have felt upon seeing all the hard work you did clearing out the garden. Showing his appreciation to you was the right thing to do. I don't expect a reward or compensation when I do something to help out someone, but a simple "Thank you" is always appreciated.
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 07
A thank you goes a long way and you remember it for future.
@MsTickle (24993)
• Australia
25 Nov 07
I'm like you. I want my work to be noticed and appreciated, I want those things for myself too. I need others to tell me I'm OK so that I know it because without the recognition and appreciation, I don't feel like I'm an OK person. I feel like some one overlooked, or taken for granted or a door mat. Now whose problem is this? Is it mine because I'm too sensitive and should "get a life" or is it the problem of those I look to for human kindness, respect and acceptance?
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@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
23 Nov 07
Wow! that is really good of your father....i know you are proud of him. For me, I do good thing to many people and only 1 out of 10 says thank you! I have learned to get used to it because nowadays people have forcifully removed those little nice words from the dictionery, people take things for granted and when someone does them a favor they take it as if it was a right. Even brother and sister dont thank each other. I would prefer a family member to tell me thank you compared to a stranger I helped carry maybe a heavy load or something. I just do good and go without expecting anything and I don't want to harbor bad feelings.
• China
23 Nov 07
Usually i don't desire so much to be acknowleged, when i help doing things.I really do things at will, not on purpose. Even i don't get the little two words, i still feel warm deep down in my heart, for i have enjoyed the moment i help sb out from trouble. that moment of happiness is what I want, and that's enough for me.Especilly at home ,the house belongs to everybody, we all should contribute every effort to beautify it, thus we can all enjoy the cleaness of the house. But,the "thank you "really can flatter me.