Are you going to mail or call someone ever who once have hurt you so much?

@subha12 (18463)
India
November 23, 2007 3:19am CST
Lets there was someone once very good friend to you. there is some misunderstanding and that person hurts you very much. then both of you has a bad fight and u decide to never be in toich in life. You start hating that person. As time passes on, you again remember that person. Will you just write a mail saying hi to that person and ask where are you. Or you will never contact him ever in life as you both decided? I want your opinion.
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8 responses
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
I am a firm believer that time heals all wounds. If both of you are ready to face each other, God will find a way for your paths to cross. Just be open to give forgiveness to that person who was once you treat as friends when that time comes.
• United States
24 Nov 07
well it all depends on if its a male and female and what you are.. if ur a chick and he has hurt you before mabey a quick hello as friends,but nothing else. u shouldnt give him the chance to hurt you again.. if it is just a friend.and you are a real friend or "were" to the person,then you should beable to forgive them, or say i am sorry since you were part of the fight to...and that you would like to be friends. good friends should always beable to tell the other look you said this and it really hurt me.and the other say i am sorry i didnt know i did this to you..and that be it..and ur fine again.
@drannhh (15002)
• United States
23 Nov 07
This could not happen quite as you describe it for I would never lower myself to hate a person just over a misunderstanding. However, I would not go out of my way to cross paths with such a person again. If we met on the street, I would probably be polite enough to smile or at least give a nod of recognition, assuming that we had once been good friends, but never would I call a person or write a note in the mail to try to rekindle a lost friendship. On the other hand I don't argue with my friends and so it is hard to imagine having a fight with one. Some people have grown in different directions (or not grown at all) and then we just drift apart.
• India
23 Nov 07
I love to be in a state that has no dependency of such accord as to whether to call or phone.It depends on my mood as to what I would in general do.But then the general belief is that,I would love to do both and if orkut availability permits then the stuff is better known to you as well.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
Anger for me always subsides. I cant carry hatred all my life even how much this person gave me such Pain In the A**... Im very forgiving to those who have offeded me they are only humans and they commit mistakes. Why not call and ask hows everything going.. maybe you want ot give a try and say Hello.. I mean past is past an anger subsides.. Its only how you want o live with it for the rest of your life.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
23 Nov 07
I prefer to call over phone than writing,because if you call on phone, he/she too can understand your feelings/ emotions.It becomes easy to sort out the differences.
@subathra (3519)
• India
23 Nov 07
For me it really depends on the amount of pain i had because of him/her..If its a wrong from their end which hurted me so much and both of us decided to end up the relationship..surely i will not make any contacts thereafter..but if the mistake is from my part it certainly will worry me in a corner of my heart and i will defintely try to contact him/her to express my apology..
• India
23 Nov 07
i never want to fight with anyone in this world even if he is not my friend. so if such a situation happens, i'd like to talk with him/her as i believe if we talk with our hearts open, all of our problems will get solved automatically.