imagine your life being a wife.

@xenybb (168)
Philippines
November 23, 2007 5:35am CST
i am 23 yrs old and that i cannot imagine myself to be a wife. Though i know how to cook , i know how to wash plates, i know how to clean the house and even i had a money on my own i cannot imagine my life being a wife. as i observed most women as a wife you must be the one to tke care of your siblings. you are the ones who prepare food for your family. For sure lacking of time with friends is one of the problem because you must give time to your family. and that at my age right now, i can't imagine myself being a wife..how about you?
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@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
23 Nov 07
I'm 29 and I've just become a wife about a year ago. I LOVE being a wife. My husband is Finnish (I'm Indonesian) so he's lived an independent life before we got married. Whenever he goes on a business trip or something, I don't have to pack for him. Since I'm unemployed, of course I do the cooking and house cleaning, but he's the one who wash the clothes (using a washing machine) and hang them on the clothing line. Finnish women are equal with Finnish men, so if the wives need some time with their friends, then the husband take care of the kids while the wives hang out with her friends. It's normal here. ;-D Enjoy being single, esp. if you're not ready to be a wife yet. ;-D
• United States
29 Dec 07
hey ailema... that is so nice to hear you are a happy wife! i always see only complaining from married people!... i hope you stay happy in your marrigae with your hubby, i wish to be happy myself if i ever can get married, i will look for a married type like you.
@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
29 Dec 07
It just all really depends on how you were raised and where you grew up. I am a wife and I have been since I was 16 years of age after being with my husband for a year we were married. It was just a natural thing for me to do. You don't always have to prepare the food(again depends on where you live and were raised)that is why they make things fast and easy nowdays and you could always hire babysitters for children..They are life after marriage. Some call it the ball and chain some call it the best thing that ever happened to them. The best thing would to actually be friends and enjoy the same things as the spouse does that helps matters alot and not taking each other for granted all the time like expecting a big cooked meal all the time. Or expecting to have to always have a sibling or child shackled to your leg. Life is really what you make it to be. All depending on how and what paths you take in life, Also good thing to do is just like with a job set ground rules and set time aside for you to enjoy. For some taking care of others is what life is about, others it is a pain. If you fall into that category it would be good to be married to a wealthy rich person so the nanny can do it all. I have no children myself me and my husband wasn't blessed with any but we don't lack children in our home because they are always sisters,neices,newphews etc.. visiting or spending vacation time here. SO I do hope that in time you may change your mind about marriage and mother hood..It might not be so bad after all. When you find the right man and it is the right time love might change your mind well until then enjoy being single and live life to the fullest. Happy Holidays and God bless.
@cliffcliff (1350)
• United States
21 Dec 07
haha!... i am 49, never had a wife and could not imagine being husband. But now I am looking to make a nice lady to make her happy. I think that if you love someone, the chores are only a small part. You can build a life together with the other person creating a pleasant home and teach each other many good things. Taking care of siblings can bring joy as I see it in my brothers family... it is only work if you see it that way, We all have to work in some fashion to live a proper lifestyle. Okay now i said that, maybe you will think about marrying me!!!?... ha! -cliff
@MGjhaud (20749)
• Philippines
16 Dec 07
at my age? Never even dare thought about it hehehe.. I’m also 23 years old. Though I know what a wifey is going to be but not even on my top ten to-do list. I’m not ready, my skills and my guts is not yet there. In due time I’ll get there but right now, I can’t think of a year or age to get married and becomes a wife.
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
7 Dec 07
I've been married and divorced twice. but in the beginning before I got married I thought one day I want to get married. I didn't think at the time what that truely meant, until later in life when i was dating. I thought about it then. I thought ok I just got to clean, cook, take care of the house and love my husband. Wow did I learn theres more to it once I got married. I found out I had to support him and his needs. I had to be understanding. So when you think about marriage talk to a friend or your family what does marriage consist of.
@rsa101 (13336)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
Well I understand your situation your young at heart and is not really that enrolled to the idea of getting married and be the loving wife that you can be. You are young and life is carefree you enjoy it while it last. There will come a time when all those fears will be gone and finally you can say that you are already ready and when that time comes then it just means you are ready to jump onto it. But in the meantime enjoy your life as single.
@Kate324 (46)
• China
6 Dec 07
Well,I have ever imagined that myself to be a wife and a child's monther.I enjoy cooking in the kitchen actually,I thinks I will prepare delicious dinner for my spouse before he back home,and also I would like to adorn my home comfortable prety , but I am a little afraid to be one child's mom,because I just think I still a child although now I am 25 years old,I would like myself to be taken care of and loved by my hubby,a little childish,right?
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Hi! I'm 22 and couldn't imagine my life as anything other than being married. I've been married for almost four years now and have two kids. Stressful most definatly but I really didn't give up anything to be with the most amazing person. That's just how it is though. What would I really be doing if I was a "noral" 22? Probibly nothing that I would be proud of lets just put it that way. Not saying all 22year olds are doing bad things but I would be one of them. It's no scarry to spend the rest of your life with one person. It's comforting. I know that I will always have him and I dont' have to do that whole dating creep-os and stuff. So I think it's better.
@xreesex (117)
• United States
5 Dec 07
The things you listed have nothing to do with being a wife. I am a wife. To me, being a wife is about love, respect and having a partner. My husband actually does most of the house work. I don't know where you're from, but do you honestly know women who get married now a days with the idea that they are going to do all the things you listed? I hope not!
• United States
5 Dec 07
There isn't only one way to be a wife. The days of the docile little housewife are over. You don't have to lose your career to be married, you don't even have to have children. I'm getting married at 21 years old, housework is shared and we will never have children.
@nkhanna (925)
• India
25 Nov 07
hi xenybb,you are really at a very tender age right now.however thinking aobut marriage i guess has nothing to do with age.law as well as people say that a girl after 18 can get amrried.obviously they say so because they feel that she can do so.well i got married at the tender age of 23.and let me tell you i am more happy now.i have a hubby who loves me more than anything else.he understands me and respects my feeling as well. i didnt even knew cooking before marriage.So i guess marring a correct person is all that matters.i know you are enjoying your life right now,but i dont know why people find that theri independence is gone after marriage.i think one can enjoy more with the partner.well obviously its your decision afterall,but i think there is really no harm in marring at 23.and also if you really want ot do job and be with your friends ,you still can do so.life has changed a lot for married lady now
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
well, being a wife yeah takes a lot of responsibility. You are sharing your self to the people you will call your family. You take care of the kids, teach them a lot, serve food for the family and for your husband. That is all included, because being in a family, being a wife/husband is giving yourself to others... And its a good feeling... I wont regret it.
@kwenge (2493)
• Kenya
24 Nov 07
I am two years older than you and am getting married early next year. When I was your age I had feelings just like you, i could not imagine cooking for family, taking care of family and all the responsibilities that wives hold. I talked jokingly about it to my mother, she told me that right now I should focus on my career and when time comes for me to be a wife, i will be more than ready. I am now working and I can afford to hire a househelp to most of my work, I am now ready and prepared to be someone's wife and someone's mother in future. So please take your time to perfect your career and time for marriage will come and you wont be scared of anything.
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
well i once was able to imagine my self as a wife when i was 23 or younger but i lost that imagination when turned 27 and was about to get married in a few months or so... i guess i simply lost that courage to face such commitment... .. now i can't still imagine myself being one.... i'm just happy being single enjoying mylot and other friends...
• Taiwan
23 Nov 07
I'm 24 yrs old when i got married and at the age of 25 I'm already a mother. Of course at first it's difficult to set aside all the things that you used to do, but if your willing to have this family a good one, you probably try to learn to give more time to your family then friends. I'll tell you, I enjoy being a wife and mother even there are lots of ups and downs and one more things trust in the Lords and yourself that you may imagine this things as one of your blessings. Good Luck!
@Nykkee (2523)
• Canada
23 Nov 07
I am 25 and I have been married for over a year and have lived with my husband for more than 3 years. During our relationship I have had jobsoutside of ourhome but I found it to be too much on top of everything ihave to do at home. My husband and I now have a traditional relationship where he works and I stay home and take care of everything in the house. I do all the cooking, cleaning, gardening, pet care, etc. I also have things I do online to make a little $ and I make crafts and jewellery that I plan to sell at flea markets, so my days aren't entirely cleaning and cooking. I love being at home. I have had many job in my life, before I met my husband, and I did not find any of them fulfilling, but I do enjoy being at home. I guess everyone is different but I love being a wife and a homemaker.
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
23 Nov 07
Wives are so varied these days. I know a lot who work and help in the house with their husbands as a team. That is how my husband and I are. Usually a marriage is a partnership in this day and age. I have some friends who are stay at home moms and they enjoy it. Some of my friends work two jobs and have kids. It is different for everyone.
@academic2 (7010)
• Uganda
23 Nov 07
You wont be a typical housewife my dear xenybb, days of the typical housewives are long since gone. I guess a young lady your age will be keen on a career, I also believe your husband will be the kind that appreciates a working wife to build a complementary family income. So You may not need to cook all the time because a maid will be there for you, you can only cook once in a while, some very special dishes for your hubby. Even the kids, you dont have to be glued at home to feed a baby-after your maternity leave, you will need a baby seater to take charge of the baby. Time for the family is important and you can still deal with that in a planed way with your husband during week ends-weekends will also be used to meet friends-so dont look at marriage with negativity, it wont take away your freedom if you marry the right hubby-it will bring all the good things your way! Get married soon is my earnest prayer to you xenybb.