HELP! I can not decide on my wedding.

United States
November 24, 2007 10:41pm CST
I have been engaged to my fiancee for a little over eight months now. Problem is that right now we can not afford to pay for our wedding since i am not working at this time. I originally wanted a huge wedding with all of our family and friends to be there, to now wanting to elope with him. Bad thing is; is that if we elope I feel that I am depriving our family and friends from being a part of our special day. Is there anyone out there with answers or suggestions.
4 responses
@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Wait till you can afford to pay bills after marrage. Being in a hurry never gets you far. The cost of living, even simple life, is very expensive. Marriage is a huge step in life and should be concidered as so. Most younger people wont listen to that. Dont be a statistic. Most are devorced in 5 years or less. 50% of all marriages in America end in devorce. OUCHY
• United States
25 Nov 07
It is not that we can not afford to pay the bills in the home on the income(s) that we do have. It is just that we can not afford to have the wedding that we desire. I do already know that most marriages end in divorce sometimes in 5 years or less and that 50% of American marriages end in divorce. After all I have divorced parents and they have a tough time after 10 years keeping there hands to themselves.
@dbmax41 (585)
• United States
25 Nov 07
Sorry to hear about your parents. I have 8 kids and 4 of them has went through divorced. My wife and I have a great relationship so Im puzzled about why the high rate in our family. I tell them all to be sure about getting married before you do it. Same lecture. If you can afford to get married and are sure about it then you should. Your family will understand the decissions you make are yours to make. I would tell mom and dad first. Im biased. lol Have you decided yet?
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
Huge and extravagant wedding is good to see and celebrate especially by groom and bride, but tight finances make it impossible. For me, for your problem you can do your wedding simple but all of your family member are invited. And if they asked, just explain and hope they've understands you.
• United States
25 Nov 07
Thanks for the comment! My first thought was to have a huge and extravagant wedding since this is my first wedding but then I took into thought the cost of that type of wedding especially the place that I have chosen to have the reception. Sad part is that I already have a very opinionated family with a future mother-in-law to boot.
@heecho25 (47)
• China
29 Nov 07
then you can borrow money first and hold a well wedding then if you have a good job, then will give back money to bank or friends after wedding.
@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
it is really a difficult decision. as most of us would think, wedding is a very special and big day. we wanted it special. we wanted it to be witnessed by our loved ones. i our effort to make it special and be witnessed by our loved ones, we tend to be obsessed with the extravagance that should go with the event. remember that it is your wedding. so the decision is always in your hand. goodluck!