You betta hush your mouth!

United States
November 26, 2007 11:54am CST
I was in line at the Dollar Store the other day, not feeling to well and it was hot as heck in there. It was packed with people, the most Ive ever seen! lol So I only needed a couple of things and I get in line. An eldery woman with a lot of gusto and a grandchild get inline behind me. Behind her is a girl that Im familiar with whos got quite the mouth on her. Infront of me was 2 people, and the cashier was fairly new, Id only seen her there a few times, so she was having trouble with this coupon. Im sure she was already a bit nervous, a long line waiting on you is enough to overwhelm anyone. This woman starts ranting and raving about how long its taking her. I just turned around and glared at her like, lets just shut up. lol It really annoyed me. Well the young lady that Im familiar with pipes up and says "If you think you can do better go for it" then something about or else be quiet. lol This amuses me and I turn and say "I agree". The woman shoots off with "Why dont you mind your own F'ing business? I CAN do better and she needs to hurry up". I turned around and continued to wait in line, when I got to the register, I told her to take her sweet time because the woman behind me thinks your taking too long. I certainly took my time getting my money out of my purse. Im telling my hubby about it, cos he knows the young girl that confronted her, and I thought of something that really needed to be said! I should have told her to slow her role infront of her grandchild. The little girl was only like 5 or 6 and she was looking up at us back and forth watching her Grandmother go off on two strangers at the Dollar Store! Why cant I think of such good come backs during the fact? They always come after the fact with me!! Are you a really witty quick minded person who can think of just the right thing to say? Or are you more like me? Think of the right words later on after some thought? lol Bay Lay Gray xx
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I didn't knwo you can use coupons at dollar store too. But back to the topic. I am more like you, i will come home and think abotu situatuion over and over and then i think oh" is hould tell her this and that" but it is too late for this. But something similar happen to me, when I was in walmart last week and there was a new cashier and it really take her a little longer. the people behind me was nervous, but I was thinking..oh what about this is me in new place, trying to do my best? i will be slowly like her too probably. But so what? I mean few minutes to wait are not gonna kill us, aren't they?
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• United States
27 Nov 07
LOL Yeah I didnt know that either Laurika! So I also learned something that day too; bring your coupons to the dollar store! Too funny! No waiting a few minutes more will not kill anyone. I really didnt feel we had been waiting all that long anyway. We both got inline at the same time and it was no more than 5 minutes! She just lost her head I guess! I felt so bad for the little girl, that really bothered me and still is I guess, I started a disucssion on it! lol Bay xx
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@laurika (4536)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I see her grandaughter don't have the best example of how to behave in her grandmother.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
I missed this! Sorry! LoL That's what I kept thinking, I felt so bad for her. Not fair for her to think this is ok. Bay xx
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
26 Nov 07
LOL hi bay! that was a really amusing story. i would have given the thumbs up for the young lady who gave a word to that girl with the big mouth. ^__^;; i encounter same situations too sometimes and whenever i do, i always think of something to say, a good punchline. but that's it, i just THINK of them. i don't say them to the person. i'm really not that "confrontational" type of person and i guess i don't have that strong personality to deal with such kind of persons. but i guess if i'm pushed to my patience limit, i'll answer back to the best of my wit. LOL
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• United States
27 Nov 07
LOL Thanks Bear!! Yeah she pushed that girl to her limit. I knew she would say something, shes just that way. Atleast what I know of her. lol Ive seen her action before. The old crab apple deserved it though. I could see if the cashier was taking like 15 minutes or something. But I swear I dont think we stood there longer than 5 minutes. I think what bothered me most was that she was saying it out loud like someone would agree with her, then when no one did she panicked! lol Thats why she got to cursing and getting even more loud. I jus wish I would have embarassed her by saying she needed to watch how she was talking infront of the little girl! Bay xx
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@secretbear (19464)
• Philippines
27 Nov 07
I would have felt the same way. good thing no one shared her sentiments. I would have smiled at her for that and add to her embarrassment. LOL and if I came before her in the line I would have taken my time too and make her wait more just to piss her more. LOL bad bad bear.. LOL
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• United States
27 Nov 07
Haha I did take my time, and looked right at her and smiled! *cheesy grin* Aww your not a bad bear at all! Your the sweetest bear there is! Well you and Transdisc run a close race! hehe Bay xx
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Hi Bay I always think about it and say Oh man thats what I should have said.LOL But there are those times when even I surprise myself!heheheheh That poor little girl!Some people are just nervy.
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• United States
26 Nov 07
You remember that discussion Dawn did about the mind wandering. lol I mean I even went as far as to think of the life that little girl is subjected too. If her grandmother is acting like that, how does her parents and the other people acting around her? She probably sees and hears too much. THATS how much thought I put into it! LOL Bay xx
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Right she probably hears way too much! I dont know why people do that do they think the child cant hear? So when that little girl grows up she just might be like her grandmom. Oh geez!
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• United States
26 Nov 07
Im pretty sure she will too if shes coming up around people with potty mouths like that. We could pray that shes smarter than that and will just know better without any proper training. lol Bay xx
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Oh, most of the time it comes right out before I realize it. Then it's like "Cool, I got a good one in!!!" But sometimes it's HOURS later that I think of it and it's like "DANG, why didn't I think of that then????"
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• United States
1 Dec 07
LMAO I read this in YOUR voice, I can so hear you say this! "Cool, I got a good one in!!" LOL I'm like that at times, but mostly not. I guess this time, I had too many things going on in my head that I could say, I just didn't pick the right one is all. lol Bay xx
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@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
2 Dec 07
heheeheheh, that's to funny!! Don't ya just love when you can put a voice with the typing??? Man, and I know what ya mean about sometimes when it's like your mind goes on leave. When it comes back you're like dang, where were ya when I needed ya!!!!
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Story of my life! I do that all the time. I think of the perfect comeback when it's too late. Then I hope to be in that situation again so I can use it, but of course it never happens. Next time it is something different and again I come up with a comeback after the fact. I wish I could think a little better on my feet.
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• United States
26 Nov 07
Haha Hi SillyChick! I hope to be in that situation too again so I can say it, but Im sure it wont happen. It was really bothering me that I didnt think of it sooner! It would have really, well I hoped it would have, made her stop and think how she looked cursing us out like that. lol You and me both!! Bay xx
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• United States
27 Nov 07
That's funny. I read the discussion question/ subject and scrolled down to respond and went right to yours and it was, like, literally taking the words out of my mouth! I actually was saying to myself "story of my life." *laughing*
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
1 Dec 07
It is always the same lol you always think later of what you should have said and not at the time I am the same believe me Hugs xxxx
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Hello Gabs!! So nice to have you stop by!! Yeah, story of my life, "after the fact". LOL Hope your feeling well, or better than you have been. Hugs! xx Bay xx
@MsTickle (24994)
• Australia
1 Dec 07
How true this is. I can ALWAYS think of something clever, witty, smart, funny or profound AFTERWARDS. I can always come up with what I SHOULD have said but couldn't at the time. I'm just not terribly assertive or confrontational. LOL.
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• United States
29 Nov 07
Lol!! were was i for all this entertainment! probally sitting at home bored as always:P.lol kidding. Yea like that is crazy you so should have said to the cashier loud so the other chick could hear you:P that woulda really made her mad:D...I myself somtimes cant think of anything to say,but somtimes i could go all day.... you should make a post about when u cant come up with a good comback in a confrentation,what do u do? just not talk and let the other person say what they have to say or what?.lolol
• United States
29 Nov 07
I did say it loud enough for the woman to hear me, I told the cashier who she was, pointed her out and all while I was turned facing her smiling in her face. LOL I can usually come up with something to say, it's just now what I wanted to say, or should have really said. I always come up with something better later on! Bay xx
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@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I worked in retail and I know how nervous it makes you when things don't go right. I hate people that let their disgust be known. It usually only makes things worse. I recently had a cashier, that was on the cash register for the first time with no help, and only had 4 hours of training with someone with her. Everytime something did not work, she would apologize. I told her I was in no hurry and to take her time. That I know how it is and that I was not going to be upset. You could see her relax and things went fairly well. After we were done, she thanked me for being so nice and understanding. It made her a lot less nervous and she did ok. It only took getting her to relax and think things through and she did good. When you have some grouchy person, it makes you nervous and things keep going wrong because you can't think. Cashiers are human and do make mistakes and so do the machines, we should all be more understanding.
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• United States
27 Nov 07
Yes I told her to take her time, I was in no rush, but this so called woman behind me was and dont let her get to you. I took my time getting my money out and everything. She wasnt going to push me around and rush me. I wasnt in the mood for it. lol Ive been a cashier too, thats how I know that a long line is enought to overwhelm you and it was growing long into the store. I know she felt the pressure, its not going to make things better hearing this woman cursing about your performance. Bay xx
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• United States
27 Nov 07
I hate it when people say things like that! One time, I was at PetSmart, and the man in front of me got checked out and paid for his things, but forgot his debit card. Now, if it was a credit card, where there's only so much someone else could "steal" due to limits, and where you may not be responsible for the charges if reported lost, it would have been a different story. But a debit card...someone could get all your money, and all kinds of info about you! The cashier was trying to do the right thing, and she ran after the man to give him the card (he was only in the parking lot), and the guy behind me starts crabbing! I turned and asked him if he would want someone to do the same for him, or if he would prefer them to keep and use his card, to which he replied that he would never forget his card! Like the guy did it on purpose! I swear, some people are just so rude and dumb, it really amazes me that they're able to function. I'm glad you said something to her! Some people just need to be put in their place!
• United States
27 Nov 07
Yes! Some people just need put in their place, your right! They dont give one thought to anyone around them and then accept what is going on. They think running their mouth, looking like a fool will change things. Had I been feeling any better, I would have said more. lol Bay xx
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@Ophelia (88)
• United States
27 Nov 07
I do this all the time too! I always think of something really good to say AFTER the fact. Doesn't it just make you wish that you could go back and really put that person in their place? Of course, sometimes, when I'm thinking back I somehow have a stronger strength than normal... lol
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• United States
27 Nov 07
I know what you mean about feeling stronger after the fact too. But I know had I thought of it then, I would have told her about herself and to chill out infront of the kid. I was in a situation sort of like this while clothes shopping and I stayed calm and thought of all kinds of things to say. I had the person spitting nails! I was being really sarcastic but what I was saying was so true. Too long of a story or I would tell ya! lol Bay xx
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@Stiletto (4584)
27 Nov 07
If I'm calm I can usually find a quick retort but if I'm annoyed or losing my temper then my brain stops functioning rationally I'm afraid! Then for hours afterwards I think of all the things I should have said instead which is even more annoying lol. I hate when people go on like that in public though and especially in front of small children.
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• United States
27 Nov 07
Thats exactly how I was that day Stiletto! lol It bothered me many hours after I had been home. It should have been forgotten but all I could see in my head was that little girl looking up at me and then her Grandma and then the woman behind us. I know she was confused! I can only imagine the things she is exposed too if the grandmother is going to act that way in front of her. That really bothered me. Bay xx
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@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Both my husband and I are pretty good with comebacks. I usually just keep them to myself though. He is the one that is more likely to throw them out there. I have noticed the utter lack of patience on the East Coast and sometimes it drives me crazy. I came from living in the South for 7 years and the people here seem to think they are entitled or something. The rudeness never ceases to amaze me.
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• United States
27 Nov 07
Hi Moneyandgc, Now its the opposite with me and my hubby, he is the more quiet one and Im the one with the gusto! That woman just had me rattled with all that complaining about nothing really. I couldnt think straight. I mean it wasnt like we had been standing in line for more than 5 minutes! We had just both gotten in line, she was just impatient and I wasnt feeling my greatest or I would have said more. lol Bay xx
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@xParanoiax (6998)
• United States
26 Nov 07
Aw, I've seen and been in situations to observe people like that! Amusing and slightly dismaying, I think. Sometimes I come up with something witty, but other times I think of it after the fact. And those things tend to be rather bold and I wouldna said them anyways, had I thought of them at the time. It's kinda fifty fifty.
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• United States
27 Nov 07
Hello Paranoia, Yeah I guess I have had my moments in the spot light with some quick thinking, but mostly its a no go! lol I guess I would say Im probably 30%/70%. Haha! I just really wished I would have told that woman about showing some respect to her granddaughter. She may not have had to show it to anyone else, but I thought that little girl was seeing way too much! Bay xx
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@wolfie34 (26792)
• United Kingdom
26 Nov 07
I know exactly what you mean and exactly where you are coming from, hey what we like eh! So many times I wished I had said a great retort afterwards, I wish I was a quick minded person too but sadly I'm not, I could kick myself everytime, if only I could have a remote control so I could play back the event then deliver my response with gusto! After the event is absolutely no good whatsoever and you sit there for ages thinking if only I said that,grrrrr at least I have small satisfaction knowing it isn't only me. Just send out bad karma that usually does the trick!
• United States
26 Nov 07
Right its not only you Wolfie, its a lot of us Im sure. Maybe even the best of the best quick witted thinkers have moements where they wished they had said something better. lol Right Karma will get her, the next person might not tolerate her cursing at them the way she did us, her grandaughter might not be with her and she just might get her bum kicked. lol Ive seen people fight over stuff like that. lol Bay xx
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
25 Mar 10
Sometimes I can and sometimes I can't. It really depends on the moment. I have been known to drop a statement that leaves jaws dropping...other times it just doesn't come to me. I do think the woman should have watched her language better with her grandchild along. Also griping about a cashier's speed isn't going to make her go any faster, if anything, she's going to get more nervous and go slower. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
• China
26 Nov 07
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