Who is more dominant in your partnership ?

India
November 26, 2007 11:21pm CST
When we are a couple, one is usually the dorminant one. Who is dominant in your family ? With me, I think it is my husband, and he gets his way because I allow him to, so as to reduce the tension that may arise with my arguing. Mostly it is ok, but sometimes I become dominant and get my way.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
27 Nov 07
Hi ketybhagat! There are times that i am more dominant and there are times that he is the one who is more dominant in our relationship. I guess it depends upon the situation. But oftentimes, i let him or allow him get his way as long as it is reasonable. i think in our relationship we respect each other's decision and if we don't agree on something or anything, we always talk about it and compromise. There are only few incidents that he becomes insistent and wants his decision to be final and there are times too that i am like that. But what is important is that at the end of the day, we always talk about everything that has transpired and agree that we can always lovingly disagree on things. haha.. Take care and have a nice day. :)
• India
11 Dec 07
U must be having a one in a million marriage. Congratulations. Very rarely do you find a couple who will agree to disagree amicably. If you can talk things out, your marriage is rock solid and I wish you all the best from the bottom of my heart. Goood Luck always and God Bless.
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
11 Dec 07
Hi ketybhagat! That is very kind of you, thank you so much! And I do sincerely wish the same for you. Take care and merry christmas my dear! :)
10 Dec 07
In my relationship I'm probably more sensible than my partner so I tend to do more 'steering'. But my partner is more highly strung whereas I'm more laid back so if he particularly wants/doesn't want to do something he usually gets his way cos I often don't mind so much.
• India
11 Dec 07
Yes, we women usually try to accomodate all our loved ones, one way or the other without really minding. That is why they say, a woman is more stronger than a man. We give in to avoid clashes and live a peaceful life. Most sensible.
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
27 Nov 07
To me partnership is synonymous with equality. No one should be dominant. Each partner should have an equal say and carry an equal load of responsibility. Of course sometimes one person will have to compromise but this should not happen all the time. http://happy2b-alive.blogspot.com http://womensbusiness-maggie.blogpspot.com
• India
11 Dec 07
Agree with you, but it does not happen in all the families. Mostly one person allows the other to get away with things out of love, or just to keep the marriage working and not creating problems. Very rarely will you find such a couple who will take equal share in everything, right from menial house work to earning.
@only1shi (405)
• United States
27 Nov 07
i would say that i'm the more decisive one. my husband is more passive when it comes to decision making. does that make me dominant?
• India
11 Dec 07
No, being decisive is very important when the other cant make up their mind. It is a very important trait and helps make decisions fast. Keep up the good work. I am sure your husband appreciates it.