Letting your children go when they become adults

Cyprus
November 28, 2007 8:40am CST
I think it is best for a person to live outside his/her parent's home, when he/she becomes an adult. Only then, will he/she be able to experience things, make mistakes and learn from them. Independency is very important for the correct developement of a person, but it's also a bit frightening. What do you think?
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@ctrymuziklvr (11059)
• United States
28 Nov 07
Everything you said is true but I found it very hard to let my kids "go" when they grew up. They are all out on their own now and I keep them as close to me as I can. I'm very proud of the people they have become and since I brought them up by myself I give myself a lot of credit...lol!
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
Yes, the role of the parents with the children is to prepare them so that when they grow old they will be able to survive in this world. I believe that we should let them go, when the time comes that we know that they can be independent then we should have to let them go and make themselves stronger...
@MrsFrizzle (1964)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I defiantly agree. I don't think parents should just kick them out when they turn 18 but they should start motivating them and guiding them in the right direction so they are ready. My father did not want me to move out and I was 22. I probably should have stayed home and saved money for a few years but I loved my independence. I had my own apartment all by myself. My boyfriend did not live with me and I learned I could 100% make things run smoothly all on my own. I think it is really important for women epically to do this to know that they are not reliant on a man. I knew when I got married that I could support myself on my own if anything ever happened and that makes me proud.
@coffeebreak (17820)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I am having a really hard time letting my kids "go". And they are both police officers and 24/29 with kids!
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I lived with my mother until I was 31. I'm not ashamed. I lived at home when I was in college. When I got my first steady job at about 25 my mother and I bought a house together and I was working and paying half the bills. For a few years I lived with a boyfriend but still maintained my official address at mine and my mother's house. When we broke up I moved back in. I lived with her mainly for economic reasons and we got along well. It would have been a struggle to afford a place of my own. It depends on the situation. I don't think it's so bad for an adult to live with their parents if they are facing hard financial times. As long as they are working and not mooching off their parents and helping with the chores and helping paying bills they may need to stay a little longer to get on their feet. It's not as easy these days especially with students coming out in the real world with hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt because they tried to go to school to get ahead and have loans that is going to take decades to pay back.
• United States
28 Nov 07
You said it like a pro. I also feel it's a parents job to do this. If your holding your child back? Your not doing what a good parent is meant to do. I am going to die inside when my daughter leaves home. However I'll be there to help her do it. There will be some guild lines at first. Grown or no grown she will live with in an hour of me. Just in case of anything. Until she is of real grown age and striving well.
• India
28 Nov 07
I do agree with you completely.when a person grows up into an adult ,he develops his own views and there will be frequent clash between a person and his parents thoughts.this is what we call generation gap and many a time this leads to serious problems in the family.so to avoid such conflicts,i think its always better that when the child becomes an adult,let him free to live separate and that will only increase the bond of relayionship.