How often do you see or talk to your parents?

@OURDEW (4809)
United States
November 29, 2007 3:35pm CST
My mom moved several states away from me last March, over 900 miles. Now I have only seen her once since then. I do talk to her on the phone but only about twice a month. It does seem a lot different with her so far away especially during the holidays. My dad passed away 11 years ago and I miss him very much. I was thinking, How often do you talk to your mom? Do your parents live close to you? Do you visit them often?
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
29 Nov 07
well my friend i call my mom faithfully every day at a certain time, and i see her maybe 3 times a week.she will come over to see babies with my sister or something.my dad passed away 5 years this january, but i do go to see him at the grave every holiday. my mom and my one sister live like 5 minutes from me, so i am very blessed.talk soon hon.hugs.pattie
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
29 Nov 07
That is so great that you can see your mom often and that you are so close. I bet your babies love when she comes over. I'm sorry about your dad.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
30 Nov 07
My parents both live about a thousand miles from me. I don't see them. I saw my mother a year and a half ago when I had my son, and I didn't want her to come here even then, but my husband insisted. Before that, I hadn't seen either of my parents in about 6 years. Even then, I went back to Kentucky to see my great-grandfather, who was dying, not to see my parents. I did like seeing my father, as I rather like the person he has become but... my parents were not truly parents to me. So I don't have the same relationship with them it sounds like you have with your parents.
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@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
2 Dec 07
Thanks for saying "I know there is a good reason" instead of lecturing me or something. You're very kind. :)
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
2 Dec 07
awwww, thank you:)
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm sorry your don't have a relationship with your parents...I'm sure there is a good reason.:)
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• India
3 Dec 07
I see my parents everyday. My son stays with them after school till I go and pick him up after office. Its an arrangement of mutual convenience, though I must admit that it is me who is being pampered here like always. Being an only child, it was difficult for me to meet my parents regularly after marriage. They also harboured this grudge against me, sometimes correctly sometimes irrationally. After many years of procrastination, I have finally managed to convince my hubby to take up a residence near my parents. So now I meet them everyday and it’s a great load off my shoulders.
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• Canada
6 Dec 07
Wow! You do have it good lol. You get to see your parents everyday, and you get a break from your son too! Lucky lucky!
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
6 Dec 07
I'm really glad that you are close to your mom and that she is also close to your son.:)
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@polachicago (18716)
• United States
30 Nov 07
My mother is about 11000 miles away. I talk to het once a week and I see her 2 times a year... I miss her very much. I wish to be close. I can wait to see her again...
@polachicago (18716)
• United States
30 Nov 07
she is in Poland....
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I'm sorry that your mom is so far away. Wow, 11000 miles is really far. Can I ask where she is? I feel the same way about my mom.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Wow, that really is far, I hope you can live closer in the future.:)
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Lets see, I saw my mom on Tuesday, Wednesday and today (Thursday.) The week before I saw her on the same days - of course one of them was Thanksgiving. Obviously she lives here in town.
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@ElicBxn (63235)
• United States
30 Nov 07
Except when I went off to college, I've lived in the same city. We moved here in 1955 and I always figured I'd stay. My sister got out of town to go to college & then moved on to jobs in other cities. I think she was looking for a place where her allergies would be less bad, but discovered that they are bad all over, so she's settled in Knoxville TN.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
That's great that you can see your mom so often. Have you always lived in the same town?
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
30 Nov 07
my dad passed 21 years ago. I was never close to my mom emotionally but we saw each other regularly over the years. She is now in need of 24-7 care and so I see her daily. my brothers and are are working together to try to keep her comfortable.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
That is really nice of you and your brothers to take care of your mom now that she needs you. I'm sorry about your dad.
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
30 Nov 07
That's so nice of you. It is very sad when old people are left alone and they can't take care of themselves. My grandparents spend a lot of time with us because they still can drive so they often come for visit but my mum already has a room prepared for them to move in if they need more care.
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30 Nov 07
I've recently moved out of my parents house and the first week I hardly got to see them, apart from when I went to see them or they spent a few hours here and it was pretty hard. I speak to them daily, although I miss seeing and spending time with them, especially since my son is going throught the same thing. (missing them).. Speak - Every day.. at least 3/4 times See - Two or three days ~Joey
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I know it is hard on you and your son, I'm glad you can talk to her on the phone every day.:)
@raydene (9871)
• United States
29 Nov 07
My mother passed when I was 21. My father passed 12 years ago from cancer. I would give my right arm to have one more conversation with them.. I have also lost 5 sisters, 2 of them in less then 2 years..and I am 57 years old. I have so many lovely memories.... xoxoxoxoxo
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I am so sorry to hear this, but I am so happy that you have good memories to keep you going. If I may ask, how is your brother doing?
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• Canada
30 Nov 07
I'm so sorry to hear this raydene. My mom passed away when I was nineteen, and my dad when I was five. I also lost a sister when I was eleven, and I'm fifty six now. I love to hear about families being close, as this is such a special thing. Take Care.
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I usually talk to my mom about once or twice a week, sometimes more. I moved 1600 miles away 2 1/2 years ago, and I've been back once, it's a long drive lol. Actually it's hard for me to get the time off to go, I like driving and to go and have anytime to visit, it's about a week long trip. The holidays are the hardest, we always got together at my mom and dad's house. But, my boyfriend's family have always welcomed me in and being with his family helps.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm sorry your mom is so far from you. That sure is a long drive. Maybe your mom will move closer to you.:)
@peanutjar (5198)
• Canada
30 Nov 07
Hi :) I never talk to my dad.They are seperated since i was 1 year old.I do talk to my mom like once a week and go visit her on weekends,ike sundays.Today we are going this afternoon to the town she lives in and im getting dropped off there to visit while my boyfriend goes to change his summer tires for winter ones,hahaha!Im sorry to hear about your dad:(Mom lives 1 hour away and i dont know where my dad is and dont want to know. Peanutjar:)
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I hope you had a nice visit with your mom.:)
@fanji008 (775)
• China
30 Nov 07
Hi,there! My mum and I live together so that I can see her very day:) The feeling is so good and nice though we sometimes have problems with each other.It's just good to know the one you love is all right and lead a good life with the healthy body:) When I'm back from work,my mum has always prepared delicious food and many kinds of fruits for me.I feel so glad and I'm proud of her.I talk to her every day.We're like friends so that I can almost talk everything with my mum.I think I'm pretty lucky at this point.Thanks for the discussion and best wishes for all the mums in the world. Have a nice weekend^_^
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm happy for you that you have your mom with your. Thank you:) you have a nice weekend too.
• United States
30 Nov 07
in mid-october i moved about 6 1/2hours away from home to live with my boyfriend. i haven't seen my parents since i moved, but i am trying to go up there around christmas/new years. but i talk to my mom pretty often online when she's at work on aim and i talk to my sister everyday through text, phone, aim, and myspace. my dad though i don't usually talk to, we never have anything to say.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I'm sure your mom would be very happy if you could make it to see her for Christmas. I hope you can.:)
@kimian55 (132)
• Alamogordo, New York
30 Nov 07
Well me about ones a month cause she visits me everymonth.. that's personaly and one's a week through phone when I don't have any money left..hehe I'm in college anyway it just happenes. "1 thing in life is constant its change"=)
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I bet your mom misses you. Good luck in college.:)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I see my parents 3-4 times a year. I email my mom once a week. My parents live about 400 miles away.
@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Even though your mom is 400 miles away, you still find a way to communicate with your mom. That's great.:)
• Italy
30 Nov 07
I see my parents everyday, since I live with them. But sometimes is not really that much the time we talk.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I hope you have more time to talk in the future.:)
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I just spoke to my mom over the phone yesterday afternoon. Though I haven't seen her in almost 3 months. We aren't that far away from each other (about 30 miles one way), it's just that we have our own lives, so we don't see each other much. She's busy with her own life with work and such and I'm busy with mine. I was planning on meeting her for Thanksgiving, but my husband got sick with a cold that morning (our kids caught it the next day, and I caught it the day after our kids) and he didn't feel up to going anywhere. Plus we didn't want to get my mom sick anyway. I haven't seen my dad for 6 years...gee, has it really been that long?!? He's only a couple hours away from me, but we haven't been all that close since he and my mom divorced back when I was a kid. We do email each other now and then, but that's about it lately. :(
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I hope you can all get together for the holidays. I'm sure it would be nice to see them again even if it is at different times.:)
@nkhanna (922)
• India
30 Nov 07
i Ourdew.its really sad that wen you are missing oyur mom so much ,she is not there because of some certain reasons.i ave been married and i am living in another country.its only once in a year that i meet my parents and that too for a short time of 6-7days since i have ot stay with my inlaws as well.i feel bad about it but hardly can do anything.i call them once in a week.i think you sould call your mom atleat once in a week.i really miss my parents a lot.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
I do try to call her more than twice a month but I usually can't get her on the phone. I'm not sure why.
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@candytang (341)
• China
30 Nov 07
As I have work in another place where has a long away from my hometown.It's very difficult to go back home ,so I seldom visit them.I miss them very much and want to go back my hometown,I think I'm homesick.But ,I know nowadays the competitions are intense ,it's difficult for us to find a good job if we have not any special skills .I planed to work in there for some time and then go back . At now ,I talk to my parents on the phone once a week.I really miss them and best wishes for them.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
30 Nov 07
That must be very hard on you. I hope that you can be back to your hometown very soon.:)
• China
30 Nov 07
It is a good topic but still difficulty to answer.I almost go back home one time oen year,and each two weeks I will take a phone this them.I really want to buy the house and let them live with me.I miss them so much.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
That is so nice of you to want to buy a house for all of you to live together. I hope you can buy your home someday soon.:)
@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
30 Nov 07
I talk to my parents about 4 or 5 times a week, they live some 2h drive from me so we see each other very often. And now with his msn calling my Mum calls me so often that when she asks what's new in most of the cases I have no news to share.
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@OURDEW (4809)
• United States
1 Dec 07
That is cute that your mom calls so often there is nothing to say. Your mom is sweet.:)