At what point does a Father become to protective when it comes to daughters?

November 29, 2007 4:20pm CST
OK I am often guilty of being a little bit over zealous when it comes to my Daughter. Most Dads will (I presume) have experienced the urge to rid the planet of some lame brane waster with designs on your Daughter? But at what point do we stand back? How much lee-way do we give? I try to be reasonable but sometimes it is difficult. Any other Dads out there who feel the same way?
4 responses
• India
4 Dec 07
no but today world everybody may be feel same as u feel but the fact is that no body today worlds feel zealous when comes to his daughter....
@SHAMRACK (8384)
• India
30 Nov 07
Hi, As father I feel more bitter when women whom I had to marry after delivery did not allow even to see my daughter. So I have to get a legal order to see my daughter from her birth on wards. Now she is just 9 months old. Still as father I could have my valuable companionship as the women whom I had to marry is departed and I am not allowed to see my daughter with a legal sanction. Hope you are lucky than me.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
30 Nov 07
I am a daughter. I have seen the same trend with my father too. i can remember its from age of 12-13 that fathers become protective. It is true that in today's scenario fathers have reason to be so.
@dreamy1 (3815)
• United States
29 Nov 07
I'm not a father. How old is your daughter? If she is a child you should be protective but if she is an adult she has to live her own life and make her own decisions no matter how hard it might be for you. If you feel you might go overboard you might ask yourself is my protectiveness rational, is it a cause of what she is doing or is it some kind of fear on my part? Is it a detriment to her growth as a human being? She needs to be her own person and learn the lessons she needs to learn. Balance is key. You can't hold on too tight or she may have a lot of issues in life. If you are too loose there is no structure or discipline and children do need that. We all have different paths to walk in life. You can't always control what she's going to do. I believe actions speak louder than words. Show her by example. Be the good upstanding person that she can look up to as an example of how to behave. When she is doing the right thing then you can kind of step back but if she's not then by all means lay down the law.