It's a problem

China
November 30, 2007 8:14pm CST
Recently,I feel so tired with family pressure from my husband parents.There is something wrong between my husband and them.It seems that they are hard to communication.Now if they want my husband to do something,they will ask for help from my parents and me.I don't think it's a good way to persuade sb. to do sth.I don't like my parents worry about me and my family.And if I always don't surport my husband,it will be a good relationship between my husband and me? furthermore,I have my opion.Why can't they sit down to communicate calmly?why quarral so many times? They love each other.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Many times there is a communication problem between parent and child. Apparently your husband and his parents suffer from this. It is difficult for you to be caught in the middle and I don't understand why his parents are contacting your parents to persuade him to do something. I think that is wrong in itself. It shouldn't go any further than between your husband and his parents. I would have your husband speak to them about that. As far as your husband not doing what his parents want. Does it affect your marriage if he doesn't? If it doesn't, then his parents need to step back, live their own lives and let you live yours.
• China
2 Dec 07
Yesterday I talked with my mum about the things that I feel so confused.I feel so lucky to be her daughter.She thinks all the things caused by too many loves of his parents.My husband is their only son.all their attentions and hopes are on him.So I need to enlarge my heart and try to understand them.But the communication ways should be reminded.I will try.
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@mamasan34 (6522)
• United States
3 Dec 07
Thanks for the best response rating! I really appreciate it. I am glad that you talked to your mom for advice. It is good to have someone to go to in times like these!
@Jasmine78 (135)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Difficulty in communication may be caused by different views on some important things. It is hard to change the mind of our parents. I suffer in the same way, but from my parents. They always put too much pressure on me and make me sad. Sometimes I think about cut the connection with them for a while, but it is just tough to do so. I swear to let myself get used to the way of my parents, but it seems a long way to go. One day I may be rescued by avoid involving the dailly life of my parents.