Can I be happy when I do sonmething I do not like?
November 30, 2007 9:01pm CST
I will study abroad next year and every thing has been compared already. This is my parents' dream. They hope that I can get better environment to study so that I can find a good job after I graduate from college. However, I hope my life is peace and simple. I do not like tense life. My parents will spend over 150 thousand dollars on my study. After I find my job I must try my best to reward them. That means I should earn much money. I do not like this kind of life. Nevertheless, I love my parents very much and I hope they can be happy. I would like to do everything they want I do. Although I will not be myself in the future, I hope they can happy.
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2 Dec 07
Hi yaoyao, I was told long ago by someone that I trust that life is what you make of it. I know at the moment tht the tasks ahead of you appear daunting, and that your main reason for doing this is out of respect for your parents and the things they have done, and continue to do, for you. That is extremely honourable and you are to be commended for this. As for being happy, happiness can be to an extent relative (but not always). What I mean by this is that you are faced with a choice - you can choose to find something that will bring you happiness from the situation or you can choose to not. In our lives there are always things that we have to do that may not bring us absolute joy, but if we look, we can find some way of turning this around to enable us to find a way to be happy within the situation. I hope that you are able to find something in this situation that will allow you to find some level of happiness.
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1 Dec 07
Try to study the subject you are interest when in colledge. Working only for money is hard for everyone. It is good of your parents to send you abroad. It is a good chance for you besides a pressure. Try to do your best and don't think too much about reward your parents expected. No matter whatever you earn after graduation, you are still the child of your parents. Parents always have good wish in their child, even though they did not invest much money on their child. You will get used to their expectation and don't worry so much.
1 Dec 07
I understand that your parents want you to have a good study and will get a very good job in the future.However it's selfish of them to want you to do the study they want you to only because they will be happy then.That's the wrong way of thinking. Well you think i will do whatever they want me to to make them happy.Thta's really wrong thinking. It's your life and you should be happy.Even if you do something you really like and you don't earn as much as they want you to the most importancy is that you can be yourself and you being happy with what you do. You said I hope they can be happy.No it's your life you should be happy and they will be happy too.If you would do whatever they want you to you will end up feeling sad and stressed up.I'm doing a job i hate so i do a study which i really like and it makes me less tired. I hope you will have a happy and good life.
1 Dec 07
Oh yaouao, I feel so sad for you, this is a wonderful thing in way what your parents are doing and the unknown may look a little daunting to you but you can find happiness in a new place, but you will still have your home and so long as you keep in touch with your parents you can have two homes, I hope it all works out for you my friend...
1 Dec 07
Well, we have many decisions in life taht whether we like it or not, we have to do for good. If you will always think that you will not be happy... then you really wont be. But if you make the best out of everything even if uyou do not like it, then I know in time you will be happy. And also the people around you will be proud of you.
1 Dec 07
i know exactly what you mean. sometimes parents prepare every thing they think the best for us without considering our emotion. and we know that they do this on our behalf so we have to accept it. however, there is an good sentance may to useful to you. " i'd rather be a failure in something that i love than be successful in something i hate." the life is our life, so do something to make yourself happy but not your parents.
1 Dec 07
Do you know you are so lucky! many of my friends and classmates want to go abroad to have a better education, but they can not afford the high tuition. go and hold on this chance. in the other hand, be happy. as you say, your parents spend lot of money for you. and they want to see your happies. your parents do lots thing for you and it is time to reward them.
1 Dec 07
I know what you mean. You will be dealing with two types of pressures : that you will graduate with good marks and to get a good job. I mean you will have to get good marks wherever you go for study, but this is even more important since your parents are spending a lot of money for your study, they will want to see good marks for sure. The thing is these days business world is a highly competitive, employers are looking for qualified workers, the cheaper the better. so even if you find a job, you may not be able to earn good money instantly. On the other hand, you are very lucky your parents can afford this. That's something you should factor in.