Do you believe in paybacks

@TerryZ (22146)
United States
December 1, 2007 8:45am CST
Say someone does you wrong and you dont do anything about you just let them critize you till youve had enough. Would you pay them back or just let it ride? For me I believe in paybacks. I can take alot of crap from people but when Ive had enough I will let them have it. And it makes me feel so good! Especially when you know the payback is working!Thats just my opinion people.
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@villageanne (8579)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I try to just stay away from people like that. I dont do paybacks. It only hurts me when I do that. I feel quilty and angry and those feelings seem to get worse over time. So I have found that you can pay someone back by being nice to them and it works better. They cant stand it that you are nice instead of rude like them. LOL
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I know what your saying and I do that to people but some people just dont respond to that.
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Terry, You have been doing the right thing, and since that didn't work, then sometimes you're just left with no choice but to serve a pay back. I thought you have been doing very well, but they kept pushing, so push back. I'll help you push! LOL Is there a new problem or the same one? Bay Lay Gray xx
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Dec 07
No and actually I havent heard from her today. But thats too good to be true!LOL Thanks Bay!
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• United States
1 Dec 07
Oh well that's a good thing right?? I'm sure she will pop her snakey head in on one of your discussions. Know what would be really funny!? If she had told her husband what was going on and he found fault in her and told her to stop!! LOL I doubt it, but I just thought that. I'm sure telling her husband, she would leave out the part where she said you complain so much that it's a wonder your husband hasn't left you yet. That really upset me!! You don't say things like that. Geesh! Bay xx
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I know that upset me too and I think that might be what she is scared of. Her husband leaving her. She is really overweight and I think shes really a lazy person. When she says she has to cook and clean for her husband I think shes lying. Its just a feeling I get from her old discussions. And she does lie. She is jealous of people who get along good with their husbands.
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• United States
2 Dec 07
You know what they say...Paybacks are a bit$h...and yes, I have done a few paybacks in my time....just at the right moment in time. You can only take so much, and the more you take, the more they deal it out....but then, aaahhhhaaaahhhhaaaaaa, gotcha! But, I usually don't let it get very far, I have quite the temper and it doesn't take me long to snap, haha. Anybody bothering you Terry???????????????, haha, just let me know.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Hi my friend thats exactly how I am. I think I have it under control someone has been bugging me here at mylot. So far today I havent heard anything from her. What a relief. thanks for offering your help.
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• United States
2 Dec 07
Nobody hurts our little Terry!....I did a little snooping around and figured out who it was,..I should be an online detective, hahaha!....Good riddence to bad rubbish, lol!
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Hi Kashmeresmycat thankyou yea this person was my friend too. I did nothing to her it started with my discussion about replacing the soap and how she thinks all I do is complaine. And how she hates my discussions but would still reply back to them but of course she would say nasty things to me. She wasnt on yesterday so maybe she got the hint.Thanks friend its good to know you have my back!hugs
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I am not so good at just letting things slide. I do believe in payback but it is better to just wait and let karma take over. There are just some people where you know they do wrong to so many and "God don't like ugly" so their rudeness or wrong doing comes back to slap them in the face. To me that is the sweetest form of payback.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Hi raz that does make sense to me thanks for the enlighting my sister!heheheh
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Anytime =}
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@niranjans87 (1079)
• India
2 Dec 07
Well it depends on what you mean by payback..is it just shouting at them bigtime and embarrassing them or is it going the entire way to make their life miserable.well if its the first one then sure but i dont believe in real payback...simply a waste of my time...making myself better is much more useful...
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Yes there are many ways of paying back a person. And sometimes its the only way to get rid of an annoying person.
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• India
3 Dec 07
Well I guess it depends on the situation and the person...and wow it does feel good once in a while when you kinda punish the person for the deeds committed...
@diillu (5130)
2 Dec 07
I also totally belive in payback. Why wait and see for all the wrong things they have done and the way they have hurted me. I might not be able to give them what they deserve right at the moment but I just wait for the chance so that I can make them feel exactly the way I felt when they mistreated me. I totally believe in payback.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
3 Dec 07
Oh good Im glad to hear that!LOL
@williamjisir (22909)
• China
2 Dec 07
Hello dear TerryZ. To this kind of people, I have no desire to argue with him, but ignore him as I don't think that it makes sense for me to pay him back. If I got excited at this, I would not feel good the whole day, so I always try to calm down without letting me pay him back. Thanks for your discussion, dear friend.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I guess we all deal with it differently!LOL
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
2 Dec 07
well yes i do believe in paybacks,but i love to have the person think what i am up too then doing something.it's more fun that way because they never know what i am gonna do.keep them in suspense is great.they always get whats coming in the end no matter what.what comes around goes around.pattie
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Thats right pattie we do think alike! Hugs!
@garnet80 (354)
• Australia
2 Dec 07
I don't believe in payback I believe in karma and what comes around goes around. And my Mum when I was a kid used to say that if someone was picking on me it was because they were jealous. I now tell my son and nieces the same thing.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Your right this person is so jealous of me its riduculous. and you know what they say about paybacks.LOL
• Singapore
2 Dec 07
There is a popular saying, "Revenge is sweet" lol. So if you feel like it, by all means. But if you can hold your cool, it is real COOL if you can repay evil with goodness. =)
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I know what your saying lordwarwizard and I think Ive been pretty cool about it. Sometimes I do have to open my mouth just to let them know Im not their stepping matt. thanks for the advise.
@Adoniah (7523)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Paying someone back is probable not the way to change the way someone treats you. All it does is make them angry and inspires them to find a way to pay you back. It can start a vicious cycle. Still I agree that you cannot always just stoically stand there and take it on the chin. Why is this person finding fault with you? Is it your boss, a friend, a co-worker, or just an idiot that needs to blow off steam and you are handy. You can't do much about your boss unless you have another job lined up. A friend you just wait until they cool down and then talk it out. A co-worker, now theres a chance to out shine them and pass over them for a promotion. An idiot is the one that maybe stands in line for the payback.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I would love to get into it Adoniah but Im so sick and tired of it I did what I had to do now I only hope this person will stay away from me.
• United States
2 Dec 07
I do believe in paybacks. But I believe people get paid back regardless without your help. I think everything you do wrong comes back on you sooner or later. So when someone does something wrong to me something bad will happen to them it may be a few years down the road, but they will get theirs.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Right I often feel like that too. Thanks for stopping by and sharing with me.
@makingpots (11928)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Oh know, I hope you don't mean it is someone here on myLot. Does someone need a good old fashioned gang up by all of TerryZ fans???? For me, I eventually push back but usually do it in private. I don't know if I would call it a payback as much as self defense.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Dec 07
No I dont need any help! Sometimes its impossible to do in private. Yes I would call it a pay back!
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@Pose123 (21671)
• Canada
1 Dec 07
Hi TerryZ, we can't let people walk over us, but I don't believe in revenge either. I have often said things that I regretted afterwards, and it never made me feel good. I think we have to find a better way, and every situation is different. Blessings.
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
1 Dec 07
Sorry you feel that way. I think paybacks are the way to go not everyone just the ones that really deserve it! Have a great day.
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
15 Dec 07
Well Sweetie when it comes to me I just let it lie but when someone hurts my Friends I am out for the Revenge believe me Love you Sweetie and bear with us
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@parthieie (418)
• India
2 Dec 07
i would like to pay back bcoz that will be a good that v do to them.so doing so will make u feel happy
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
2 Dec 07
Hi TerryZ! There are times that I would pay them back or sometimes i just keep quiet and oh just try to let it go. But when i had enough of the crap they are throwing at me, I do give them a piece of what they deserve and sometimes much more. haha.. I guess, I have my own limits too in patience and being good. I can be nasty too and sometimes it feels good. haha.. take care and have a nice day. :)
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
2 Dec 07
Hi faith thats exactly how I am! So you can understand!
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I do understand where you are coming from my friend. I just hope that i am a little more mean and cruel! haha.. Take care and have a nice day. :)
@pastorkayte (2255)
• United States
3 Dec 07
No I believe in turn the other cheek, unless it is done to my children then I want to have a sit down and discuss it because while I can forgive, I will make sure they dont forget what they have done.
@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I will agree with you to a point I can be quite but when they keep it up I have to speak up and then act upond it.
• United States
28 Dec 07
Yeah i mean paybacks are nice. But i try not to take revenge on someone. I think we should always try to be a better person.
@SEOGUY (906)
• United States
16 Dec 07
Why would any persons words have so much weight? It is not what they are saying that makes you angry, it is your perseption of what they are saying that makes you angry. We can not change what others say or belive, but we can change our perseption. People use words to provoce us or to try to tear us down, and honestly the reasons why these words hurt us is becouse of our own doughts that they may be true, or our fears of what they are saying. Does one word realy have any power? No, only our understanding of that word and what weight we give that word. If someone says to me,"you are a bad father", Honestly i know that I am not a bad father, i do make mistakes sometimes, but I learn from them, If I asked a hundered people if i were a bad father I would get many differnt answers, so how do I calculate the truth of the matter? Words = 0, Truly only my own perseption matters, and don't give a second of wondering if they are right. Secondly these people are to be pettied. becouse when someone finds it neccary to critisize you or put you down it is only to build themselves up becouse of their own presived short commings. So when some one puts me down my first reaction is to feel sorry for them becouse i know that inside their own heart is much sorrow and pain they are feeling about their ownselves. Jesus said as well "prey for those who use you and do wrong to you", why? becouse they have no hope within them, and only after excepting themselves for who and what they are can they find peace with themselves and others. When someone says something to you just smile and say may "God Bless you" For Jesus also said "by doing kindness to those who hate you you will be heaping hot coals on their head".