What should I do for so sad life?

@mari123 (1862)
China
December 2, 2007 3:36am CST
I feel sad these days. I work overtime everyday to make myself tired and have no time meditating. I and my workmate fall in love. We have little time dating though we are in the same company. He is busy with work. everynight I wait for him to have supper together. But I didn't receive his message from last week. I didn't kown what happend. We all want, above all, to be heard - but not merely to be heard. We want to be understood - heard for what we think we are saying, for what we know we meant. I sended two e-mails to inquiry but no reply. actually, I just want to make clear about what relationship he wants to be: buddy friend or sweetheard friend. I am sure he is busy . But I don't think he has no time writting back. What should i do?
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@magica (3710)
• Bulgaria
2 Dec 07
I have a problem like this. And i also use my work to get too tired and to have no to think, to feel, to suffer. It`s allways unfair when somebody refuses a talking - it`s better to talk and to make the things clear then to ignore the other and to hope that the time will show what happens. Sorry for your situation. Try once again after some days, may be you will have better chance. But if there is no reply, stop. To have no time to send a short reply...this is not an excuse.
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• Philippines
3 Dec 07
yes, i agree with you magica..ones the guy don't want to communicate, then stop..he's not the only guy in this world..
• China
3 Dec 07
Firstly please calm dowm, I know it is easy to say and hard to do. However, you should try to persudade yourself to calm down and stop to contact with that guy. Don't worry too much about him, pehaps he is just very busy for his work. Men usually like to have their own privacy when they meet some problems of their own. If he is such situaion, you should let him have alone for a while. Another situation maybe is that he is still not sure about your relationship. Just as you say, you maybe are indugled in your affection towards him and hope to be with him all the time if it is possible. Such imbalance love between you make him fear of your control and want to escape from you. No matter what kind of situation it is, you should calm down becuae useless and ceaseless inquiry only will scare him away. You should wait him to contact you firstly and decide how to do after knowing what has happended to him. In these days, you can do other thing to occupy your free time like attending dancing class, practicing yoga, travelling. My idea is that women should always put too much time for men and we should have our own time
• China
3 Dec 07
women should not put too much time in men and we should have our own time without men. I also believe if that guy love you, he would return back to contact you soon. you can set a period of time like one month or two month. If he still does appear during that time, I advice you could move away from him and start to find someone else.
@ssh123 (31100)
• India
2 Dec 07
I am sorry to hear that you are tired due to overworking. First and foremost thing is to maintain a good health, forget about all other things. Secondly, plan your work, so that there should always be time to relax. Thirdly, regarding love life, I have seen in my experience, the more you after that, the farther it goes. So the best thing is to ignore it. Everything will come to your feet. Be nice,be kind and keep working hard. Lastly take up some hobbies in which you can get in and forget all trivial things of life.Everything will be fine. Never press for a thing too hard. It hurts you in thefirst place. Take life in a philosophical way. Also keep a aim in life and keep working towards it to achieve it. Any problem you face, treat it as a work to be done today or tomorrow.
@zlesing (487)
• China
2 Dec 07
...I don't think some points you say are suitable to this suituation. It's always easier said than done. Something that you can't ignore easily, especially the love. Of course it's important to maintain a good health and be relax. And I'm also beleive that everything will be fine, but I think there may be something happen to you and him, you need to think about it or have a word with him. Make sure what have happened. Well, I'm not a experienced person, may be I'm wrong...lol... Finally, may be all words we said are uesfulless, because it's up to you!
• China
3 Dec 07
first i think you should let you relax ,because people will solve the problem well when you are staying a relax state, i don't think that is your whole life,you have many friends of the same nature except boyfriend. these just are my comment, and the thing should be solved by youself.
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
You know this is one of the problems of the modern world. People cannot sustain a deep intimate relationship because everyone seems to be preoccupied with work. Well, for me, if you really want to save your relationship, you need to talk to each other specifically about what you want your relationship to become. STOP! EVEN FOR A WHILE STOP! Then listen to each other, LISTEN, JUST LISTEN WITH AN OPEN HEART.
@subha12 (18453)
• India
3 Dec 07
hmm. it is quite like something i faced 1-2 yrs ago. I had a friend. i must say so called friend. He proposed to me after some time. i declined as i knew it was not the true feelings. we were also in same team. I wanted to be a good friend. we were. But he persuded me and told he really loves me. But at the same time I noticed the same type of attitude. when he needed my help he would come running, but when he need not he won't reply my call. He also went to thailand and never ever replied to one of my mails. He was busy but writing a mail was not big deal. So make hings clear with him when you meet him. It is not good to get the pain after long run.
@mandy_27 (67)
• Australia
3 Dec 07
Hi,I am sure he is just busy, If he really likes you he will reply. Leave it a few day and if you have not heard from him try again, to send an email or visit him. With regards to working overtime, Try to go home on time atleast once a week, this will mean you will have time to meditate.I think that working overtime all the time will be starting to make you feel sad and you are not having enough time for yourself....
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
i also had an experience like that..it's so depressing and so hopeless thinking that the one you love is not that eager to have time for you..yes,it's so sad and wanted to say sorry to you..but before you think negative, just make sure if he still wanted you, because if he's really busy with his work and don't with your relationship, it will not really work out..have to find another guy..good luck and God Bless..
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
3 Dec 07
Well I know one thing, I do not expect anyone to understand me. I don't even understand me, so how could I expect anyone else to. If he really likes you, he will let you know. If he doesn't, there is nothing you can really do about it, so relax and enjoy life.
• China
3 Dec 07
i am sorry to hear that.in my opinion,you should have dinner together,you are lovers.but you should forgive him,he is so busy.you should prepare to adopt it when you decide to fall in love with him.so be happy,i think he is too busy to reply your e-mail.he will be around you when he is free.
@edigital (2710)
• United States
2 Dec 07
I think you raise your head, turn your face and forget the past. Do not listen any saddest song and be attentive to your work and travel to other city and beach and keep always within fun. In my openion falling love with workmate not always become success. There may have some jealousy in the office with him or her in the mind of other workmate. Who fall love within short time that love do not last for long time. However, be bold enough to face the situation and look ahead for better future then many more nice lover will walk behind you
@mensab (4206)
• Philippines
2 Dec 07
just wait for your him to respond. as a guy, i need some time to figure out how i feel towards something or someone. if your workmate is someone like this, give him some time. some time may vary but if the situation continues for a week, it is time to ask him or have a talk with him. for now, divert yourself from what you have been doing. do something different, indulge in the the things that you miss doing for quite a while now. goodluck..
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
2 Dec 07
Well for a sad life... I guess you just have to talk tio him personally. You say that you are in the same company. You can talk to him straight so that you would know what's going on. I believe that you have the right to have your peace of mind. If he dont want to talk with you or if he has better excuse like being sick... then at least you know.
• United States
2 Dec 07
yea i can understand your fellings, i once was sad and i seem to work till all i can think about is being sore and tired. Your BF is he your supervisor and he is trying to keep Hush Hush? Or did we misread what the relationship is about? any case there is love to be found out there and sometimes the road is rough in the end it is about the destanation not trip