my daughter's teacher hurt her

Canada
December 3, 2007 4:11pm CST
when my daughter got home from school today she said someone grabbed her arm and pulled her. i asked if it was another kid she said no i asked if it was her teacher and she said it was the teacher's helper. i asked what had happened. she said she wasn't listning to the teacher's asking her to move so she grabbed her and pulled her. my daughter is 4 years old by the way. she said she was crying and then they gave her a wet cloth to put on her arm to make it feel better after anyway she now has a bruise on her arm. she said she was standing in the bathroom waiting for her friend and that's why she was asked to move. it's not like she was in danger and needed to be forcefully move. well not that i know of anyway. should i go to the school and ask what happened?
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@lilybug (21148)
• United States
3 Dec 07
I would go to the school and find out what happened. I would be very upset if my child came home from school with a mark that he had gotten from a teacher. There is no need to grab a child hard enough to leave a bruise.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
3 Dec 07
Yes, but be careful with what you say. sometimes children say things and exaggerate.. I would say to talk to the teacher herself and see what she says. If you are not satisfied, then I would talk to the Principal and see if maybe you can find the truth to what really happened.
• United States
3 Dec 07
Oh yes you should! While sometimes grabbing a child is necessary to keep them safe. But they should NEVER touch your child in a way that ;eaves a mark, much less a bruise unless its an extremly dangerous situation. I would be in the principles office asking what happened, and maybe even demanding that action be taken against the teacher for her offhanded methods. I would want to know what happened from the teachers point of view. take some pictures of your childs bruises and show them to the adminstrator and whatnot. But that isnt right in any way. Even when im very angry at my son i could never touch him in a way that would leave a mark on his body.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
Yes you are correct in saying that that leaving a mark on a child is not right and taking pictures is a great idea. Accidents do happen though. I remember when my son had been walking for about a month, he was good, but still had moments of falling. He was next to me one time and out of the corner of my eye I saw he was starting to fall and my first instinct was to catch him, but unfortunately, my fingernail caught him, near the eye. It looked bad and could have been made into something abusive.. So, taking pictures and documenting what her child said is good, but just make sure she doesn't go in to talk to the teacher in an accusing way until the truth comes out..
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• Canada
3 Dec 07
thanks, i took some pictures of her bruised arm. i will be going into find out what exactly happened.
• United States
4 Dec 07
I don't think I would go to the school. The little girl had already told you what happened so you know it wasn't anything harsher than a grab. Not saying it's okay to do that to another person's child, especially such a young one. I'm sure the teacher's aid didn't purposely grab her so hard. I think you should let this one slide without making it a huge deal. If it happens again then you know you have a problem on your hands and I would definitely advise you to go to the teacher directly or to the school board.
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• Canada
11 Dec 07
yes but if it happens again and i try to say this is the second time they won't beleive me i'll have to wait for a third time to prove that something bad is happening.
@xreesex (117)
• United States
4 Dec 07
You should for sure call the school up and set up a meeting. I would also call the teacher's aide and the teacher to find out what's going on. Little kids don't just make up things like that, and that is a horrible way to take care of children. What the woman is doing is teaching your daughter to FEAR teachers, rather than to obey them. Sheesh, I hope that teacher gets her butt handed to her.
@crazynurse (7489)
• United States
4 Dec 07
I would first take a picture of my child's arm! Then I would most certainly go and request a conference with the teacher adn the prinicpal. They must have realized that they had grabbed her arm to forcefully if they offered her a wet cloth!
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• Canada
4 Dec 07
Umm yea you should I would. and if I was you I would take a picture of the bruise. Anyone that is working at that school should not put a hand on children in any way, shape or form.
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
3 Dec 07
Hi poppoppop nice to see you back:) I am really sorry that this happened to your daughter. Nobody has the right to grab your daughters arm hard enough to put a bruise on it no matter what she did wrong. She shouldn't be yelled at either, she is only 4 years old. That is so wrong.
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• United States
3 Dec 07
I would go and see what the teacher has to say. If she grab her hard enough to put a bruise on her arm there better be a good reason for doing so. If parents displine leaves visiable marks lasting more than 24 hours they could be charged with abuse.
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@stacy624 (2777)
• Canada
3 Dec 07
I would for sure bring this to the attention to the teacher that did this! If you don’t like what she says I would for sure take this further. That lady (teacher) had no business to put her hands on and to leave any mark at that. I’m sorry your daughter went through that and I hope that she is feeling a little better now that she's at home. Keep us posted Stacy
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• New Zealand
9 Dec 07
I am sorry. I don't agree with Abuse of any kind and I hope She/He did not get away with it. How is your Girl doing now??? If anybody did or even does anything in the line of Abuse to my Neice then look out them cos they will have a lot of people to explain their actions too. She's good mates with me and so am I with her.
@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
9 Dec 07
teachers should not hurt kids, in any way, ever they should be sensitive to anything or anyone that is bothering the kids one time when I was 6 (first grade) , a big giant fat teacher pulled me out of the line as we were going into the building (Mrs. Halligan) , she was so fat she had to walk through doorways sideways, anyway, she screamed at me, "Where was your mother when you got dressed this morning?" It turned out my shirt was buttoned wrong, kinda off by one button. So I was given detention for that. I was so afraid that I snuck onto the bus and ducked down and hid so she wouldn't see me. I was crying too.
• China
9 Dec 07
I think a good teacher should treat the kids very well. They should like them. But the teacher did that perhaps it is because she is angry at that time. So every makes mistakes. You may forgive her this time.
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@Ohara_1983 (4120)
• Kuwait
8 Dec 07
you need to go to school & check what really happen, or talk with the principal make a complain,just listen what your daughetr said & the helper of the teacher you can see in that time what is really happening & why she pulled ypour daughetr and it goes to bruise her arm. also ask why just directly they give her wet clothet so the evidence will go they know that kids wont lie specially if they hurt.
• Pakistan
8 Dec 07
The teacher of your daughter hurt her. This is told your daughter. Now you should investigate about the case. If it is true that the teacher has done this then you should try to know about the reason. Why the teacher took this action. It is possible that your daughter has made the teacher angry. Don’t think as a mother of a daughter, justify impartially and then ask the teacher or make the complaint against. If fault is in your daughter then you should advise her that teacher is after all a teacher and a teacher is respectable to all of the students.
@maddysmommy (16236)
• United States
4 Dec 07
Most definitely go to the school and talk to the teacher who did that to your daughter. For her to bruise means the teacher pulled her arm very hard - that is not good in my book and I would most definitely go to the school tommorrow to find out what happened.
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@toni30 (42)
• United States
4 Dec 07
I would because she should not have put her hands on your daughter. If she grabbed her tight enough to leave a bruise that is definately not called for in my opinion. If we as parents were leaving bruises on our kids they would call that child abuse.
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@wisone (1)
• Portugal
4 Dec 07
Yes ofc you should go talk to that teacher. I have 23 years old and i used to be hurt too in my primary school. My parents didn´t care about that and i suffer very much. I was allways crying and i wanted to die! Children are very sensitive. Be aware.
• Australia
4 Dec 07
You really should say something. I would say talk to your daughter once more about it, just to make sure you believe in your heart that's what truly happened, but because she has a bruise...something happened and you should definately go to the princip. and tell him or her what happened. If you are confident you've heard nothing but the truth from your daughter and decide to go to the teacher, don't stop there. Go to the princip. after. Who knows, some other child has probably had the same thing happen to them by the same teacher, but nothing was done because it was one childs word over a teachers word. If that has happened and you come forward, they'll start to realise something is not right with this teacher. No person should put their hands on your child no matter what.
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• Canada
4 Dec 07
Definatey , I wouldn`t hesitate one minute this is something that you can`t take lightly ... This type of thing is serious , You don`t know whats going on at the school ... I mean your dauhter is only four so where is she coming up with this story if it didn`t happen , she is obviously telling the truth ... I would go to the principle or a counciller or someone in charge ... PLEASE AS SOON AS YOU CAN !!!!
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