Somber News about my Brother-in-law

@webeishere (36377)
United States
December 4, 2007 11:34pm CST
A short update on my wife's brother Tom. I talked with Debbie's sister and she says Tom is home now to stay. His immune system has basically shut down. He isn't in a lot of pain just yet though. They have Hospice care lined up for once he has to start having morphine for the pain. He is conscious and aware of things which is a good sign. He does know Debbie will be there to see him tomorrow afternoon. That's all for now. I wish to extend a heartfelt thanks to all friends and members here for all their support, care, love, thoughts, and prayers as well as the well wishes. They are much needed. This site with all it's members and my friends group here have been one hell of a support group to me. Thanks again all. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Canada
5 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob! Wow! I am really at a loss for words. I am so sorry that this is happening, and my heart, thoughts, and love are still with you and your family. Luv & Hugzz, PurpleTeddyBear.
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Thanks for everything especially seeing that sweet tiny purple teddy daily. Hee hee. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• Canada
6 Dec 07
Your more then welcome! Is good to see you too!
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• United States
5 Dec 07
i'm very sorry to read this. i hope that he is able to stay pain free throughout the rest of his time here on earth.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
We hope for this as well but that's not going to happen as he was in pain but it was bearable at that time. I have not heard from the family since last night so who knows the level the pain is at now. Thanks also for the friends request. Approved. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
5 Dec 07
I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad your wife is going to go be with him though. We are all here for you!!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Thanks a whole lot also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@OURDEW (4812)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Grandpa Bob, I am really sorry, but I'm happy Debbie and a few other family members will be with Tom on his last days. I just wish you could be there with them, though I know you are needed at home. It must be hard on you not being there to be with your wife and say your own good-byes. You are all in my thoughts.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I am glad she left as well to be by his side in this trying time. She needed to see him so she could resolve her guilty feelings about not going out there a few years ago for her sisters 50th wedding anneversiry party. Now she gets to see him. But under very somber conditions sad to say. At least they will see each other again. It's very rough. My wife and I have never been apart more than 3 days in our 35+ years together. Very rough on us both. Thanks bunches friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@citygirl (1083)
• Canada
5 Dec 07
Grandpa Bob know that we are all praying for him, as well as your Dad. You and your family are in our prayers and thoughts. Give your wife an extra hug for me as well. Just keep a positive attitude, my sister came through a bone marrow transplant as well. She has acute Lympoplasic leukimia but Bob she made it, it is five years now and she is doing quite good . She was in her early fortys when this struck her so keep having hope and faith. The best to all your family.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I have a huge community here praying for everyone involved in this. And for that I am ever grateful as well. What a site this is. So much support, love, caring, and great friendships I've made in a years time. I always have a positive attitude. Have to imn order to be able to survive I feel. Thanks bunches also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@someonesmom (5768)
• Canada
5 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob, I'm very sorry to hear that they've sent Tom home this way, but it's a good thing for him and the family, if this is the way they want things. I'm thankful that he's aware of what's going on, and that he'll be able to 'see' your wife when she gets there. Such a hard thing though, and I can relate. Two years ago, we spent Christmas Eve at the hospital with my critically ill sister in law. She ended up being in various hospitals for seven months. As it turned out, she (and we) were granted a miracle, and she's still with us today, back home, and doing pretty good. Maybe there can be a Christmas miracle for your brother in law? I'm not trying to raise 'false hope' here, but the doctors don't know everything. I know you get my meaning here, and I'll continue to pray for the outcome that's meant to be. You have a lot of strength, and I know you'll be there for your wife, no matter what happens. Hugs to all of you. Take care.
• Canada
6 Dec 07
I do pray that whatever the outcome, your wife can come home to you, her kids, and grandkids for Christmas. If she's grieving, because he passed away, being surrounded by people who need her will help. There's no good time for these things, but this time of the year, it seems 'even worse.' My husband passed away fourteen years ago, in October, and it was 'still' way too close to Christmas. I barely noticed the holidays that year. So, the fact that it's December is even worse for you and yours. Take care friend.
• Canada
24 Dec 07
Thanks so much for the best response.
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Having him home with Hospice is a very wonderful thing! So when he leaves this life to go on to the other he will be with all of those that love him.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
He really wanted to be home and not in a hospital. So this will make this a bit easier for all actiually. Thanks also. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@gabs8513 (48803)
• United Kingdom
5 Dec 07
I really hope it all goes well and they are in my thoughts and will be till it is all over and we get some good news
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
The only good news will be he has passed peacefully and or my wife has gotten home. I am going to miss her dearly. The hard part is neither of us knowing when she will get back. Thanks my friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@razcal2267 (15577)
• United States
5 Dec 07
I am at a loss for what to say besides that it is good that your wife will be able to see him one last time and that he has of right now is not in any pain. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Not at a loss. Just being here shows enough support for me. Thanks for all you've done and said in the past along these lines as well friend. Greatly appreciated. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@faith210 (11233)
• Philippines
5 Dec 07
Hi GRANDPA BOB! I am so sorry to hear about your wife's brother condition. I hope my prayers, together with the other mylotters sincere prayers will help ease Tom's pain. I really wish that he won't have to endure so much pain. Take care and my prayers for him and your family as well. :)
@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
It is good that he is awake and aware. This way at least he can be in peace in his own home and bed in this ytime. Thanks bunches friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@suehan1 (4356)
• Australia
5 Dec 07
hi grandpa bob.my thoughts are with you and your wife and family.i will pray for you from downunder.you do have a lot of support from all the mylotters here and i know that you will get allways have someone to talk too when you need too.there is a lot of love here on mylot.god bless
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Thanks for the thoughts and prayers which are greatly needed by us all. Yeah this site does have a lot of support. It's become another support group of mine as of late with the great friends I've made. Thanks again. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
5 Dec 07
you have my support friend to you and your family. - a picture for a friend
i am so sorry to hear this and i am glad to know your wife will beable to see him.gosh i really don't know what more to say.take care and i will be praying.pattie
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Hey just being here in the discussion says enough actually. Thanks for the support it's greatly appreciated. Love the photo too. Hee hee. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@TerryZ (22146)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Hi Grandpa Bob Im so very sorry to hear this. Wow I cant really think of anything to say to you right now. Im glad your wife is able to go and see her brother. Your so very welcome and I will continue to pray. Please stay strong and Im always here if you need to talk. Hugs my friend!
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@webeishere (36377)
• United States
5 Dec 07
Just being in this discussion is enough said from you. The support is very needed and I appreciate the shoqwings here. Thanks for everything you've done/said in these troubled times friend. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
7 Dec 07
praying (((( i love u )))))
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@hoghoney (3749)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Your welcome, and you and your family will always be in our prayers. I hope that you and your family make it the best of holidays and with more to come. Very Big Hugs!xoxo
@blackbriar (9126)
• United States
10 Dec 07
-sighs- Why is it that the Lord always calls the good ppl here on earth back home? Glad to hear your brother-in-law is home surrounded by loved ones now, instead of in the hospital. When Grandma Deb comes back home, give her a HUGE hug for me, Grandpa Bob, for she will need lots of them in the coming weeks. HUGE hugs to you as well, along with your family.
@academic2 (7011)
• Uganda
9 Dec 07
That is really somber webeishere, but the compasion he receives from family members will surely make a difference in his life within the time left.
@sherrir101 (3671)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Grandpa Bob, I am still praying for your brother in law and all of your family. Support is what your whole family needs now and with the MyLot family that you have, I am sure that you realize that is what you have from all of us. We are here for you. Hospice is a good program. My sister works for Hospice, in Ohio. Keep us updated.
• Canada
9 Dec 07
So sorry to hear of all of this Grandpa!! I am busy trying to get caught up on here as our motherboard crashed a week ago and I have missed everything here... I have been praying for your family and I shall continue to do so! Take care my friend! ~Heavens~