I love my boyfriend, do I tell him?

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India
December 6, 2007 12:59am CST
I love him, but I am not IN love with him, do I still tell him?
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@b4u400 (152)
• India
6 Dec 07
this confusion says that u r in love dont hesitate tell him first
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• India
6 Dec 07
Hello bishu_sinha, I think you yourself is bit confused on whether you love him or not. So, first of all you get convinced your self before you tell him. Otherwise you will feel sorry afterwards. Good Luck.
• China
6 Dec 07
what is about your face now?? of course you should do it. as soon as you can. are you afraid of hurting him? if you tell him too late,you will hurt him deeply.
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@carol_m (709)
• Philippines
6 Dec 07
Im sorry, but what's the difference of the two?
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@subha12 (18453)
• India
7 Dec 07
i think you are in confusion. when you love him, why can't you tell him. go ahead and tell.
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@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 07
i kinda dont understand if someone have that kind of feeling.How come you love him but you'r not in love with him anymore? maybe you only feel a little bit full of your relationship.why dont you both have a time break for a few days to make sure do you both still have a feeling for each other or not.i guess you feel bored of the relationship.
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• United States
6 Dec 07
First of all - examine your feelings. If you have been with someone for a length of time, you aren't going to feel that "spark" at all times. You are going to lose the feeling of permanently or temporary of your knees getting weak, or having butterflies in your stomach over someone, or to feel a high level of passion. That sometimes calms down and you get to the real meat of the relationship - do you respect, care, confide, trust, and love eachother? Is he the first person you think of telling good news too? Or someone that understands you? If he is all these things and its just that you don't feel that spark of passion right now, I would set aside "the talk" about "loving him but not being in love." Once you give that conversation, you may lose him for good. Despite what we think, why would a guy want to be with someone who tells them "i am not in love with you" especially if they are not sure what it all is about. And you may just go on to the next person and feel that feeling for awhile, it may die down, and you will wish you had stayed with the more trustworthy previous boyfriend. I am not saying you aren't intelligent, intuitive, or smart. I have been with someone for 11 years now, and there are times that I couldn't stop thinking about him, times that were tough and not so thrilling, and all the things in between. And I wouldn't trade him for anyone or anything in the world.
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@lorelai (1558)
• Italy
6 Dec 07
Depends what you want. If you want to stay with him you shouldn't tell him, if you want to dump him and don't know the way to do it you should tell him.If you want to be with him why is that so important to you, I mean the fact that he knows that you love him but you are not in love with him?
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• Philippines
6 Dec 07
Yes, for me you should be true to him because that is the secret of a good relationship. But you know thats not bad, because there is a love.That love will become IN love in the right time and in the right place.
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@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 07
first make ur mind as what exactly u want do u want to contuinue with them If yes then sure tell him words are mouth are very important my dear, thats why its said think twice b4 u speak take care
@Luckyj26 (52)
• United States
6 Dec 07
This is an ambiguous question... It seems that you are not soo sure if you even really do love him. I think you shouldn't tell him until you do really feel like you do. Then you can tell him how you really feel and if he doesn't feel and if he doesn't feel the same way you should give him time.
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• United States
6 Dec 07
I hear what you are saying. I been in that type of dilemma myself. I think it's best to tell him how you feel. He doesn't have to know that your not in love with him. Just say you love him. Who knows you might grow to be in love with him. I use to love this guy because of how he treats me and he has been there for me we were best friends and all. I love him but I was not IN love with him. I was not IN love with him meaning I didn't feel any butterflies in my stomach nor did I feel anything warm about his hugs. Not that kind of a love...
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• India
6 Dec 07
i cant understand why you are hesitating to tell .if your love is true just go ahead and tell him.i think you are afraid that he may say no to you . just tell him and see what happens.
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