Are feelings created easier online or in real life?..

United States
December 6, 2007 8:12am CST
Okay i know many people who do the online dating thing and somtimes even get married! and for some it works for some it doesnt. My question is, is it easier for you to gain feelings for someone when talking to them online then it is for you in real life?..
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
6 Dec 07
It's easier for me to trust people online, and I open up to them sooner. So it is easier for me to gain feelings for someone if I speak to them online first, because it shortcuts around my social phobia and trust issues. I met my husband online, over 9 years ago now. We didn't start out dating, or talking about dating even... we were just friends. Then over time it became something else. I can't imagine myself coming online with the intention of meeting a partner, but having an online friend become a potential partner didn't seem strange at all to me at the time.
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• United States
6 Dec 07
the part were u say,you can open up to people sooner. the reaons why it is easier for me is because im always worried about what others think of me,and well if i make an a## out of myself well i dont have to see that person in town or run into them other places:).lol
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@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
7 Dec 07
Yup, that makes sense. For me it's more a matter of being able to get by on my intelligence and wit rather than having to rely on being cool in the face of social situations. I honestly don't understand many social rules, but I know online etiquette and can deal with it. So it's easier for me because it feels like I'm on my turf and I feel comfortable, whereas any kind of offline social interaction could easily leave me puking because I'm so nervous over it. Not so much making an a$$ of myself and having them laugh at me, but more offending someone or upsetting them.
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@kurtbiewald (2628)
• United States
6 Dec 07
online can be easier I'm kinda big and fat I guess I sort of show my craziness too so, its very hard for me to make friends in real life less judging when its just words like if I was in a wheelchair or something, you might think I was not smart maybe
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• United States
6 Dec 07
Good point! there is alot of people who judge people by appearence, and online with no pics they cant judge by that:) thanks for responding:)
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
6 Dec 07
I don't think I could feel like I really know someone if we only have an online relationship. It is easy to tell them things because it is a 'safe' environment, but you never know who it is that you are talking to. For me, facial expressions, body language and tone of voice mean as much as what a person says. Have you ever noticed how hard it is to get your feelings across in just words, with no way of stressing certain words, changing the inflection of your voice, or making eye contact?
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• United States
6 Dec 07
I should mention that I did not meet my husband online- it was through a mutual friend.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
7 Dec 07
NO its not easy for me get the real feellings by just chatting with some one online..!! I found it the most feeling less thing for relationships..!! Yes writting letters by hands is most touching thing one can ever do but ..chatting online is something I find the most feelingless thing for relationships..!! With friends its ok but in case of love its just not Done..!! I had a distance relationship before but I didn't find it as a relationship at all...!! I never came to know what my hubby is actually feeling and what kind of things we share between us..!! So we actualy broke up due to this ....actualy "I" broke up with him because chatting online only is something I found the most feelingless thing!! :)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I create friendships pretty easily both ways, but I feel like it's a lot easier to open up to a person online, though I don't think you should start with the intention of "having a relationship". Even online, I think it should be friends first.
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@mensab (4208)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
it's true that feelings are more easily created online than in real life. however, one may ask, are those feelings trustworthy and dependable? i think this is the difficult part of online relationship or dating. one simply cannot trust someone s/he met online. because of the impersonal and detached communication, anyone in the internet can be anyone s/he wants. that's the problem. the level of honesty online is very low. but for some people, it is worth the risk.
@ssh123 (31104)
• India
6 Dec 07
It depends on your feelings towards other's feeling. How do you feel. I feel several mylotians consider it as the best place to find solace and may be I can discount 10% of their statements, more or less it is true.
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