Rude people

Hong Kong
December 6, 2007 9:58am CST
Why are some people so rude? I just find it difficult to understand. It seems to be so much easier to be polite and considerate. Of course, there are times when you're downcast and depressed and you act in a rude way without knowing it. But some people seem to be rude just for the sake of it. I don't see how that helps them feel happier or improve their lives. Is it because of pride, or is it due to a lack of self-confidence?
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@oldhippo (45)
7 Dec 07
When I was a child, my parents and grandparents instilled into me the importance of politeness. Manners were a big deal. Now it seems that things like this don't matter anymore. My kids have attitude (at a very early age) and this really worries me. A trip to the shops gives insight into the way other people are as well and rudeness is prevalent! I try to make people aware when they've been rude to me. The thing that narks me most is when I wait for someone, holding a door or just waiting for someone to pass, and they move by without a word. I normally say as they're passing "You're welcome" or "I make a good doorman, don't I?" and quite often get an embarrased, shocked reaction! Give it a go.
• Hong Kong
7 Dec 07
That strikes a nerve. I do that a lot too - holding doors, I mean, not making the remark. It's funny how some people just take it for granted. Fortunately, my experience is that a lot do say thank you or make some acknowledgment. Maybe the people I hold doors for are different from yours! However, what I do find is that not many people hold doors for me - maybe I'm reasonably quick with my footwork to keep the door open..LOL
@diillu (5128)
6 Dec 07
Indeed some people are really rude. I also don't have any idea what they get by being rude on purpose. I have also come across with many of these persons and I think it feels like they feel that the world revolves around them and when they get to be rude to other then they feel like they have accomplised something.
• Hong Kong
7 Dec 07
But what's puzzling is that by being rude these people must be getting a lot of negative feedback. So how does that make them feel 'good'?
@whywiki (6070)
• Canada
6 Dec 07
I ask myself this question on a daily basis. I work in customer service and some people are so demanding and rude. On my last day of work I am going to give some customers the truth of how I REALLY feel! I sometimes feel like being rude in stores but then I remember how it makes me feel at work so I control myself usually. I think rude people are mostly self centered people.
• Hong Kong
7 Dec 07
I understand how you feel. But I hope that when you let them know, you will not do it in a rude way!
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I cant stand rude people. It comes from lack of upbringing from their parents. There parents never corrected them when they were younger. So no they walk around saying rude things to everyone and dont know any better. I know its so sad. I dont associate with rude people. Stay away from them. They also think they are much better then you.
@Moliliuzu (141)
• China
7 Dec 07
maybe it is a habit.people always deal with things in the way they used to. most times ,people who act rudely may not realize that they are rude. in there mind ,it's the normal way.but to other people who are more considerate, they take it as rude.anyway,it's personal opinion.lol have a good time:)
@urbandekay (18312)
7 Dec 07
It is, in part also a difference in culture; what is said without bad intent by a speaker of one culture may be taken as rude if the listener is of a different culture. Even within cultures, between different social groups there may be differences in acceptable means of expression. Sometimes, people do not realise they are being rude and of course, some people just like to be rude, wanting to shock or offend the listner. The greatest good manners, however, is not to never cause offence but never to take it. all the best urban
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
7 Dec 07
People are rude because they have a low level of thinking. When I'm downcast or tired I'm not rude either, because I don't have too much energy then. Or maybe, unintentionally, but ONLY with other rude or sarcastic people. This is neither pride or honor to be rude. Lack of self confidence, I think so too. When I'm proud of myself I find no reason to be mean with others. On the contrary, I try to help them, at least with a suggestion.
• United States
7 Dec 07
I think some people really just like being a jerk for the sake of being a jerk. My AP Bio teacher is a huge jerk, but at the same time, he's really funny. I think it's more like the "protective outer shell" or whatever concept. When I talk to him after school, he's not actually that bad of a guy. I think some others are just rude because they feel like they're betraying the truth and themselves when they cover up how they really feel about something. Some people are just frank, but I think it comes off as rudeness.
@jillmalitz (5132)
• United States
6 Dec 07
That is a good question. I have been around people who are rude and sometimes I think that maybe they are having a bad day or someone was rude to them. Maybe it is the way they were raised. If they seem friends and family being rude they learn it. I try not to react to rudeness. I have walked away mad rather than spar with them. Then later I think I should have just let it go. I would be mad and yet they dont even care, so why should I get upset. I really dont think that they realize they are rude.