Crying after delivery

@altari (23)
United States
December 7, 2007 8:31am CST
Admittedly my youngest is 2 so I'm a bit removed from delivery but... My oldest and I are addicted to baby shows. And, when we watch them, it seems that all the women CRY right after the baby is born. They weep and get emotional and shaky. I never did that. After all three of my girls were born, I was just relieved. I thought, "I'm done! Now leave me alone and let me sleep!" I didn't cry, and I never really felt that rush of emotion - just of exhaustion. So, let me know. Did you cry, or just want to chill?
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@meaculpa (339)
• Philippines
7 Dec 07
Hello altari! I have three kids, girl-6yrs, boy-5yrs, girl-2yrs. It is a wonderful feeling to give birth though it is tiring indeed. Right after delivery, I did not cry but my body would want to sleep and rest for a while trusting that the doctors and nurses will take care of my baby. According to my cousin who is a pediatrician, the body temperature of the one who just delivered will adopt to coldness since there were organs that came out from the womb which causes the body of a mother to chill. Further, mothers will undergo a post-partum depression after delivery which is a reason why most of them shed tears.
@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I had a c section, and I did cry when they brought my son to me. I cried because I was overcome with emotion that I wasn't really expecting. Then I cried some more when they took him away to the nursery and finished the surgery. I did not have a difficult labor- it was long, but pretty tame compared to some things I heard going on in other rooms during my hospital stay, so I wasn't exhausted. I was also numb from the armpits down, so I wasn't feeling any pain. I have a friend who had a very difficult labor and delivery and she was the same as you, just wanted to rest afterward. I think that the labor and delivery experience has something to do with it, as well as your personality. My son is over a year old now, and I still hate to let him out of my sight.
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@Gemmygirl1 (2870)
• Australia
15 Dec 07
Wow, i thought all women cried after giving birth. I didn't have a natural birth but i did still cry, the relief of knowing my little one was out & healthy - also knowing that the perfect little thing i held in my arms was something my partner & i had created - is was just a really emotional time for me. I guess there are plenty of other women who didn't cry but like the shows you watch, i was one of the criers! We're having baby #2 July of 2008 & i will have to let you know whether i cry with baby #2 as well!
@foxyfire33 (10009)
• United States
14 Dec 07
I distinctly remember crying when #4 was born. It was the first baby with my s/o and had been a really difficult labor. I was just so overcome that it was finally over and emotional about him being 'our' first baby. I also cried when #6 was born because he is supposed to be the last one. The others I only remember having the happy/excited emotions about right after although I did have some happy tears later over the little things like Daddy holding the baby for the first time or when the baby would lock eyes with me with that intense newborn stare as if they were finally realizing who I was and could see how much I loved them already.
@bhappy2 (327)
• Australia
8 Dec 07
No I cried while they were being born. No epidural and just a bit of giggle gas doesn't help a whole lot. Now I guess they all cry with gratitude because they have epidurals etc lol. Really I think the first sight of the tiny life you have carried inside you for nine months is a very emotional moment after what has been (still) a long ordeal.
@patgalca (14605)
• Orangeville, Ontario
8 Dec 07
I am surprised that I didn't cry after my babies were born. When I was in labour with my first one, I heard everything that was going on in the room beside me. I heard the woman giving birth, I heard them announce "It's a girl!" I heard all the oohing and aahing by family members in attendance... and I cried. But when my own babies were born, nothing. I don't know what it is. If I was too tired to cry, I think I would have cried just for being tired. Heck, I should have cried because of the pain I endured after 36 hours of labour. It is puzzling as to why we watch births on television and cry at every single one of them but when it comes to our own we don't shed a tear. Weird.
@vmenard (895)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I didn't cry either. I was happy that they were finally here. I just stared at them and smiled.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I have had 4 children. I didn't cry after any of them. I just wanted to see and hold my baby! My first and last babies were in the NICU so I didn't get to hold them right away. My first three children are with my ex-husband and my last is with my husband now. I don't think my first husband cried at any of the deliveries. My current husband cried when our daughter was born though. She is 19 months old now.
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I didn't cry. I grinned from ear to ear just becuase I was done and had a new baby. I don't know why women cry you think they would just be happy it ws done. Why would they want to put on more emotional strain on themselves?
• United States
7 Dec 07
Well...I hate to sound like the BAD unemotional mommy here but... My having my oldest was deff an experience.. natural birth etc. I remember my mother and mother inlaw saoking in tears. But for me after being in the hospital bed for well over 4 others I was just relieved that it was over with! no tears for me! personally watching those shows on tv where they get all shaken up over this amazing moment makes me really think its a steriotype deal.. because we are all told its a magical blessng etc soo with that said when put in the spotlight on camera, what else is there to do but play into the image? Who wants to be seen as the mother who was more relieved to have gotten threw labor then to of actually had the baby. We all know thats not the case anyhow.. but yea people will pass thier judgements especially until they experience it themselves. Also have 5 mos old twins.. The pregnancy was EXTREMELY played up since their were gonna be two, but again no tears..had a c-section, all I can remember is being extremely tired. "The real magic with having a baby comes later", when you actually get to bond with them and discover who they are/will become. hospitals dont allow much time for that especially with all the doctors nurses and visitors. "In my opinion anyhow" haha everyone is different and likely to respond in different ways.
@vokey9472 (1488)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I was so tired I was just happy to have it over with. I remember asking my husband to count toes and fingers and to make sure the baby had all it's parts. Then I told my husband to follow the baby to the nursery. I fell asleep shortly after that. I didn't even look at my baby until I woke up a few hours later. But I had already told the doctor and the nurses I was in no way interested in seeing the baby until AFTER he was cleaned up. I get queasy too easily so I was not wanting to see the kiddo right after birth. They are never clean like on TV or in movies. I think I might have cried when I saw the baby on the sonograms or maybe even the first time I felt him move, but not at delivery. I just wanted to sleep.
7 Dec 07
hi, I had my wee bou 4 months ago and I felt a total rush of love when he was born and was so so happy but I didn't cry either! You're right though - after birth you just want to recover!!
• United States
7 Dec 07
I didn't cry. I had been up all night with contractions. My doctor sent me home with a sleeping pill because I was dilated to a three the whole night. I went home, took the pill, and a shower. Then my water broke and we went back to the hospital and had a baby. I didn't cry, but I did get upset and argue with the doctor. I remember him saying, "Okay now, you are almost done, push so the placenta can come out, then you will be all done." I did and then he and the students went and checked out the placenta. When he came back he noticed that I was torn in an odd spot. So the attending doctor (my doctor was a student) came to sew me up. I remember him saying something like, "Okay now we are going to sew you up, it will hurt a little." Then I argued, "But I was told I was all done!"
@sunshine4 (8709)
• United States
7 Dec 07
I didn't cry after my babies were born. I was thrilled with joy that they were healthy and I wanted them to be with me all the time, but I didn't cry. However, when I watch the baby shows now, I do cry when the moms start to cry. I am like that~ I cry when I see someone happy.
@anup12 (4180)
• India
7 Dec 07
It's just a normal emotion which comes instantly.I think it is obvious that one will cry.