How is your relationship with your in-laws?

@Nykkee (2522)
Canada
December 7, 2007 9:30pm CST
My relationship with my in-laws is very strained. I am not comfortable around them and do not enjoy visitng them. The reason for this, I feel, is totally thier fault. When my husband and I were first together, for the first 2 and a half years, I tried to develope a realtionship with them. I baked them cookies and other things, they would take them but they wouldn't eat them. I tried to participate in covorsations when I was at thier house, but as soon as I said anything they would hcange the subject. Additional to this there were multiple times that they told my husband that they would do something, like help us buy our house, only to later laugh at him and tell his they weren't interested in helping. So how is your relationship with your in-laws? Are they nice to you or are they like mine?
4 responses
• United States
8 Dec 07
I refuse to associate with my in-laws. I haven't spoken to them in over a year and I like it that way. They're awful, toxic people and I will not allow that in my life anymore.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
8 Dec 07
I know exactly how you feel. It sucks.
• United States
9 Dec 07
When we first go engaged, the first thing his mother asked was that she thought he was going to marry his ex before me. A girl who he'd been with about half the amount of time he'd been with me at the time, who had cheated him him, and who he hadn't even spoken to since he met me(which had bee 2 years).
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
8 Dec 07
My in laws are great people I just don't fit in with them. They are all nice but some of the things they do it's like "You were dropped alot when you were younger hu?". Like my father in law is the worst. From their political veiws to just the simplest little tv shows. We just don't mesh. But I keep my mouth shut and smile and vent to my mom who also looks at them like they are just off.
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@Nykkee (2522)
• Canada
8 Dec 07
I do that too, complain to my mom alot. She won't admit it but I think she thinks it's funny becuase she and I didn't get along as well when I was ypunger so I think she kind of secretly enjoys hearoing me complain about someone else.
• Philippines
8 Dec 07
Hi my dear there is a saying "if you can not get well along with them dance with the music". As far as i can remember i have no problem with my in-laws. My problem is my husband. He talks a lot about my mistakes in the house to my in-laws but the more he stub me at my back the more my in-laws gets closer to me:-P Dear am not telling you to do the same thing. My advice just love your husband. Show your in-laws how you love your husband. Observe the movements in their house. Help in homechores. Do not speak if you are not ask. Remember this "less talk less enemy" that's it.
@jessje (145)
• United Kingdom
8 Dec 07
I love my inlaws, I've lived with them for almost a year, and they are just wonderful people. They are different from my family, but that doesn't mean they aren't nice.
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