annulment

@Myrrdin (3601)
Canada
December 8, 2007 7:39am CST
Ok I have been married, and I have a child from said marriage. that marriage failed. Now I am dating a devout catholic. She is worried that the relationship has no future because I am not religious I am agnostic or deist or Theist or whatever you want to call me. The main issue is that I had not considered getting an annulment, I have no reason not to that I know of, I just don't know much about the practice or how to obtain one. Any one care to go into more detail about annulments? I know the basic concept is that I am admitting to the church that my marriage never truly existed, and since my ex cheated on me and never communicated our problems I have no problem saying it was never really a true marriage, but what are the details and is there a reason a church might deny it?
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@Sillychick (3282)
• United States
9 Dec 07
First, were you married in the catholic church? If not then no worries- the catholic church does not recognize a marriage unless it took place in a catholic church and the ceremony was performed by a catholic priest. My bigger concern here is- are you really willing to convert to catholicism for this woman? It must really be love. That is a huge step, and I hope that you realize all that the catholic church brings with it. Do your homework because no matter how much you love this woman, no one is worth going against your beliefs.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
I am not willing to convert to catholicism, but that is not necessary, while not all priests will marry a non catholic, some will.
@estherlou (5026)
• United States
18 Feb 08
This statement is not quite true. I was married in the Lutheran church and later converted to the Catholic Church. Our marriage IS recognized in the Church.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
19 Feb 08
Yes, officially the catholic church recognizes any marriage between two baptized people done before a priest or minister.
@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
8 Dec 07
Well it's not that easy to get an annulment via the catholic church. I've known a couple of couples who have done so and it takes a lot of paper work and a lot of time not to mention there are fees involved. They have grounds for it and you have to not only meet them but show proof of it, witnesses help for that. I am curious though since you are agnostic was your marriage in the Catholic Church, blessed by or recognized by it? If it wasn't then you don't need an annulment from them because they wouldn't consider it valid in either case. Something to check on.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
9 Dec 07
Ah, interesting. My previous marriage was not performed by a priest and not blessed or recognized by the church.
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@emeraldisle (13158)
• United States
10 Dec 07
Then more then likely you would not need to get an annulment by them. You could go and check though, no harm in doing so.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
10 Dec 07
The Catholic church recognizes marriages performed in other Churches as long as neither party was catholic. Getting an annulment should not be difficult though based on my ex not being baptized.
@tiffiny (884)
• United States
8 Dec 07
I'm not catholic but I do belive that the church will uphold the annulment due to adultery. They shouldn't turn it down in any way becuase he was unfaithful and that wasn't your doing. I would just go to the church and ask one of the Preists.
@Myrrdin (3601)
• Canada
8 Dec 07
she was unfaithful not he, I was the he in the relationship ;).... though that is a common belief that the man is always the adulterer.
@jothis (519)
• India
9 Dec 07
Here i seeing the importance of trust. First you have to talk your partner about the life that you are going to enjoy. There wont be any sort of problems with riligios issues. Just love your partner and all will be Ok