"I Need A Boyfriend."?

Yes, it is common. I think that's why it upsets me; I hate to see people with low self esteem thinking they need someone else to complete them. Thank you for your kind words! I know we will make it =D

Yep, I've supported "de-facto" relationships. To me I think they are real relationships. Especially if they do a lot better than other supposed "stable" or "traditional" relationships and also if the partners in it are fufilled and happy. As for the rest of your comment at my situation... well uh... *blush* I think you're playing a bit with me heart. :) Thanks for the kind words Mal.

I agree about the de-facto thing, that's not to say I'm a relationship snob or something. I don't look down on people who choose to marry, nor do I think that people who don't opt for that option have a less meaningful and loving relationship. Different things work for different people, as most of us have worked out in life. (Some people still seem to deem it necessary to shove their beliefs down our throats regardless =P) As far as playing with your heart - that's never my intention. I just hope to be honest and share my true opinion - you have a great personality and outlook as far as I have encountered. =D

Goodness! *blush*

My boyfriend and I have almost been officially going out for 1 year, at the end of this month! I also think it's a fantasy that we need someone to "complete" us. I mean, I have grown into a new form of myself through my relationship, but if I were single and feeling incomplete, the problem wouldn't be solved by entering a relationship, you know? Do enjoy it and live it up while you're single, and once you find someone also!

LOL! Yes, yes they do. Some of the greatest in the world =) Yeah, it never killed me, but one encounter with a guy almost did. That's a whole other story, though =)

That sounds like a story I'll have to hear sometime...

I think I've done good to pace my relationships over the years, I did jump from one to the other too quickly and of course it didn't work out. Go figure! lol Just this year my sis has had 3 boyfriends. The latest one, I forget his name, lol, seemed like a nice guy, he drove a truck, he was gone 2 weeks home 1, he made good money and was really nice too her. Of course, she turned down coming here for Thanksgiving because she wanted to spend it with him and his family, and then when I called her on Thanksgiving, she said so nonchalantly that they had broke up. lol ???? I'm like huh? Then in the same breath mentions this other guy, and when I go to say something she cut me off saying "he's just a friend". GRRRR She's my older sister too! Been married so many times I lost count.....I just don't get it. I'm not here talking about her to dog her, I love my sister, she know's she's like this. She know's I feel this way. I'm sorry to hear that Mal, I've been there too. I don't remember letting it bother me. Maybe I was just too young to understand or something. Everyone has a different reaction in this situation I guess. It was rather violent, physical, and when he was done, he drove for a little bit then sort of slowed the car down and pushed me out. I just think I put it somewhere and locked it away. When I think about it, I feel blank, so I don't know. Sound's like your letting it out, which is probably the best thing, let it out and let it go. Hugs xx We have something in common honey, not that above, but something good. :) Alex is my hubby's name too! He's really patient and kind and I'm SOOOO thankful for him. I love him with all my heart. They sound a bit alike to me. Bay xx

You're probably quite right about that. Although we won't generalise too much, but a majority of young people have the wrong ideas about love, relationships and the whole lot =)

That is a very true statement about human beings - mammals in general are very sociable and cannot survive alone. That, of course, doesn't mean that we should constantly be in an intimate relationship either. There's a happy balance that some people seem to be lacking. Thank you so much for your response, and I will be keeping him! =D

Well it sounds to me like you don't "need" a boyfriend at all, And that you have a great outlook on what a relationship should be like. =) You're right, though, it is natural for teenagers (both guys and girls) to long for being in a relationship. But relationships with no feelings definitely aren't the way to go at any time in life. =) It's always better to wait for the "right" guy/girl for you. And there's nothing wrong with the "time pass" either =P Thanks for your comment. =D

Oh, I'm sorry - I should have covered more aspects than "boyfriend". Man friend is a good one to settle on =) Counterpart? Partner? =) Anywho, thank you for such a positive and lovely response. I'm a firm believer in self-love and self-respect and feel that they are the foundations to a strong relationship with another person. I hope you continue to have such a wonderful attitude towards life, and have a great Christmas and new Year! =D

I definitely understand your views on this topic, and thank you for your comments about it =) I know what you mean about being happy because of another's happiness, but I find that I don't need to be in a romantic relationship to share my happiness with others. I have a wonderful family and many great friends, and we have a lot of fun together, as well as just enjoying my time to myself. Being in a relationship is fantastic, but I don't need one. I hope that you do find a lovely man who will make you a very happy wife! Best wishes!

That's understandable. I can say I've gone through that before, but I don't think that makes me a hypocrite. Sometimes we really do [think we] like the person or whatever. But I have needed some sort of confirmation in the past, and sometimes you need a date a random guy you don't like to realise that you don't need them =) Thanks for sharing!

And of course it's a boyfriend's "job" to listen and love and pay attention to you or something. So they think that all their problems will be solved as soon as they have one. =P