Playground Bullies

@tiffiny (872)
United States
December 8, 2007 11:04pm CST
There is this kid in my appartment complex that is just being a big butt head to my son. This kid is eight to ten. He's definately old enough to know better than to push my three year old. After many attempts talking to this older boy and telling him to keep his hands off my son explainning to him how a three year old thinks and why he behaves the way they do I just lost it. I told my son that he couldn't play outside unless his dad was home to deal with the trouble maker. Then the little boy called me a witch with a b. I was so hot!!! To top it all off I even got a letter from the land-lady saying that I needed to watch what I say to a minor. Anyways I'm tired of punishing my son because he's a brat. So do you guys have any ideas on how to go out side with this other kid with out letting him get under my skin or him pushing my son around?
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
An... 8-10 year old...going after a...3...year...old... /facepalm. ... ... ... /temple rub... Well you could speak to the mother of the brain-drain, I meant bully. You have to be assertive and upfront. The problem thoughis that she'll not want to believe it, or she'll actually think its alright... (yea... I know...-_-). And I bet the bully acts like this because of some deficiency in his life, most likely his mom not paying attention to him, or his mom not being a parent...period. Just play with and accompany your son for the time being. Personally five minutes in the toolshed with a kendo stick sounds right for someone bullying a 3 year old. But of course we live in the age of PCism and general "waaaaahh..." from kids AND adults. -_- Pathetic.
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@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Lol I actually had to tell him to go to his house before I smacked him across the mouth when he called me the b word. Oh I was so freaking hot. But I mean he's actually punched a girl in the face becuase he wanted her swing! To copy you facepalm!!!!
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Ugh...punched a girl over a swing...!? /continued facepalm ... ... /extended facepalm
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
Don't feel too bad about how you reacted, I think I would have been the same. I just wonder what his parents are like, as a lot of times, bullies are often bullied themselves, often at home by the people who are meant to be teaching them the right ways to do things. I think letting your hubby have a word to this kid might be an idea, as this bully obviously doesn't have any respect for what you say. Again, I wonder how the boys father talks to his mother. Good luck with this situation, hope you get it sorted out.
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I don't really think that there is a dad figure around. There's only the mom and this kid is ALWAYS outside so I don't know if he has the interaction skills that he needs to be around other people. Does that make sence?
@muscare (3069)
• Australia
11 Dec 07
Oh, ok, that probably goes a little way to explaining why this kid's an A-hole. No father figure and the mother probably couldn't give a stuff what her kid is getting up to. I doubt he's getting much attention, and probably even less discipline. I'd still go with getting your husband to have a stern word to him!
@vmenard (895)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Have you tried talking to his parents? You also might try talking to him and asking him how he would feel if an older kid pushed him around. Tell him your tryign to teach your child how to play nicely.
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Yeah I have talked to the kid about playing nice and just you know taking it easy because CJ is a little little guy. But I don't want to meet up with his mom becuase everyone has been having problems with this kid in the complex. So I dont' want her to take the defencive ya know and just put up a wall and not hear my consern.
@Malyck (3428)
• Australia
9 Dec 07
WOW! This kid sounds like a real piece of work. I don't know if you have, but I think that you should try to have a serious (but polite, of course) discussion with the other boy's parent/s and let them know what's been going on. This is definitely behaviour that needs to be sorted out quicksmart, before the boy gets any older. You should try your best to not let his actions affect your life, or stop your son from enjoying his, although you may have to do as you said - wait until your hubby is home to be outside with your son. =D Best of luck!
@tiffiny (872)
• United States
9 Dec 07
peice of work is a polite way of saying it. Lol Thanks for your replying
@Debs_place (10525)
• United States
9 Dec 07
Go to the child's parents. Explain to them that their child is a bully and is bullying your son around. Your son who is just 3 years old and way smaller. And this can no longer be tolerated. Then add that if their child ever goes near your son again, that you will be callling the police. I have done that, my son was a little older and in school, but I found out that the child had an older brother in juvenile detention and there were already several complaints against the kid. Less then a year later, the kid ended up in juvie with his older brother. If the child is violent and is calling problems, someone should know. By the police being aware of the child's activities, when problems arise, they can see a pattern and deal with it.
@RebeccaLynn (2256)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I would give my landlady my side of the story and I would contact this boys' parents.
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I would defiantly have a talk with the boys parents and explain to them what has been happening. If it continues to happen I would try to ignore it, unless it became worse. Tell your land lady of the problems just so that if there is another incident then it can be recorded. Hopefully the boys parents can straighten him out.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
9 Dec 07
i think you should tell the boys parents,coz if somebody hit my son i will personally tell the parents,sometimes parents, cant control their kids,and thats a problem.
@MGjhaud (20861)
• Philippines
9 Dec 07
if i were you, you go straight to that big butt head's parents and tell them yourself that you wanted their kid to stay away your child because he's crossing the line. i'm sure the parents would listen to you because if not, it would say about them of how kind of parents they are right..?
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
9 Dec 07
I am sorry your son has to go tru this, what I would do is let your husband watch your son while he is outside, but I would also go talk to the land lady and tell her what really happened maybe she can be the neutral party. Like the others said the boy is probably going thru something rough at home and is taking it out on your son who is an easy target. I hope things work out for you. Amberina